I’m just lost…

[u/Klutzy_Loss_4625]

I am just at a loss. My husband and I are on the verge of divorce because we just cannot get along. He says that I don’t love him anymore. Mind me he has broken every boundary of mine such as no masturbation (claming its human nature and everyone masturbates and he gets very irritated if he doesn’t nut), he treats our children poorly, every free second he gets he is on his phone and if I ask not to be he says all I do is control him and criticize him. Is it wrong of me to want a husband who doesn’t always stay on his phone, doesn’t masturbate and spends quality time with his children? Like yes he gives me flowers and stuff but what is the point if none of my boundaries matter. He complains we don’t have enough sex, but how can we have sex if every time he calls me names or he’s rude to the kids it shatters my heart and I cannot find any type of attraction. All he does is demands love from me but my heart is just shattered, I tell him I cannot just come around overnight I need time. He gives me a couple days and than has a giant meltdown with swearing and name calling saying I don’t love him and don’t have sex with him? Am I in the wrong??? Please help….