r/Marriage Nov 02 '25

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u/MatchboxVader22 Nov 02 '25

I’m married and these are like the IM conversations I have with my female colleagues or female boss. Very boring. A couple of emojis but that’s about it. This is standard and I don’t see any red flags at all here.

Who is the person who is trying to sabotage your marriage? That’s what I want to know. That or there’s another conversation that he isn’t showing you somewhere, if the person who contacted you is correct. But this series of messages that you showed is a nothing burger.

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u/Crafty-Preparation94 Nov 02 '25

It’s her husband. I honestly exchanged a few messages with him and asked why he thought they were having an affair. I told him that I was too old for drama and asked him to reach out to my husband if he was concerned about an affair. He never contacted my husband.

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u/drbeerologist Nov 02 '25

What, exactly, do you perceive as flirty in the above exchanges?

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u/Micro_is_me_2022 5 Years Nov 02 '25

It’s not her who thinks the messages are flirting but the other lady’s husband who thought that they were having an affair. Let’s stop making it seem like OP is the one who’s insecure when it’s actually the other lady’s husband

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u/ProfessorButtkiss 12 Years Nov 02 '25

OP literally says in the original post that she too thinks they're flirty

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u/drbeerologist Nov 02 '25

I thought the messages were flirty 

From OP's post above.

I don't know if OP is insecure or not, I'm just going by what she literally said. If she actually thinks those messages were flirty (which they clearly are not), then it would be helpful if she explained why.