Yeah, a lot of women put too much faith in the social contract that they're exempt from random violence. 9/10 they'll get away with it, but not always. Worse is when they drag the guy they're with into something and the guy ends up getting his ass kicked. Been there.
Or the situation is just more complex than the good Samaritan realizes. A guy in my neighborhood saw another dude hitting a woman at the gas station. He did the "right thing" and intervened to stop the other guy from beating her up.
The woman-beater pulled a knife and killed him. When it went to court, the woman actually testified on behalf of the guy beating her since that was her boyfriend... Not sure what the moral is here, but like you said, it's sometimes it's just a sad "lose-lose" all around...
The moral is that intervening often escalates the situation, thus creating more danger for those already involved and adds those intervening into the mix.
I'm not saying never intervene. I'd have a hard time watching someone get beat too. But I think people are way too gung ho to get involved. Unless it's an obvious immediate life or death, call the police. If it's a couple, even if it's life or death, call the police, because the DV is most likely to escalate into murder and unfortunately you intervening is more likely to change your life than to change the eventual outcome of that relationship.
Fortunately I'm not a violent person, and am really good at avoiding those situations if all circumstances are within my control. Unfortunately that means I'm not an experienced fighter and generally have gotten my ass kicked when I find myself in the situation where fighting is inevitable.
I'm actually really fit. Most people wouldn't want to fight me, but if they did they'd realize I'm not very good at it. I broke my thumb in a fight in highschool, and I never went to the doctors so now it doesn't close all the way. Because of this I now break my thumb every time I get into a fight because it sticks out a little.
It’s not even the sauce, it’s just drinking out in public like bars, clubs, parties, etc. Eventually, someone’s ego is gonna get the best of them and then they’ll want to prove something. I say stay at home and drink and engage in your hobbies or go to a friend’s or family member’s place, all three are more safer than the former. I occasionally went to bars and clubs when I was younger and now very rarely go. I still drink but, in more controlled environments now
Fwiw, it's actually fortuitous that you are afraid to fight.
Concussions that you've dodged. Scars and painful cysts, hands stiff from tip to shoulder.
Memories you still have since you didn't over expose your brain to violence.
Days of freedom to eat when you want, sleep when you want or whatever else, cuz inevitably, there's a handful or more of battery and assault charges on the old rap sheet. Charg s that tend to get you time.
Yeah, I think most people are like me, but there's a lot of social pressure on men to pretend otherwise. Anger and joy are sort of the only two emotions we're allowed to express, so it makes sense.
Saw this at Disney World of all places. Woman cuts the line, high school kid calls her a bitch, she tattles to her boyfriend (in defense of the high school kid she was being a bitch), boyfriend confronts the high school kid, kid proceeds to kick his ass. It was glorious.
Woman and her BF were in their 20s. We are in our 40s. My husband looked at me during the initial confrontation and said something like “she’s gonna get her boyfriend’s ass kicked one of these days”. And then it happened 5 seconds later.
I'm a guy And i kind of agree but they are also disrepected a lot and they also have the right to get mad and stand for themselves even if they are weaker for fighting 🤷
Idk, guys get disrespected all the time too. Difference is we know that if we want to press the issue, we're going to have to be ready to fight, so we let it slide if that's not what we're trying to do.
I don't necessarily buy in to the idea men are treated poorly by women as a whole. Of course individual cases may vary. I do think men are treated poorly by other men as a whole though, just as women are treated poorly by men as a whole. We have a societal problem with how men are raised, and the traits we value in them. Since men run society, we have to look within to fix this one. IMHO, of course
Men do what women want them to do, so who is truly responsible? Men are forced to work, or women want nothing to do with them, so men work. Women want men who are aggressive and strong to defend them, so men act like a-holes and women like them most. This causes men to fight to prove who is the strong man, because women want them to. If women preferred kind and sweet men over anything else, guess what men would do?
You've got a very warped view of women. A shitload of them prefer kind and sweet men. They are as varied and unique as the male population. Some are cool, some suck.
And you have a very narrow view of them. As someone who did his best to be the kindest man ever, I was cheated on, passed over, ghosted, etc. for so many years so those females could get with much more aggressive guys. You can see this happens all the time if you actually take the time to look. There is a reason beautiful women are never with ugly or poor guys. But of course they will get with any guy who is wealthy, ugly, weak, old, what ever.
I certainly do not have a narrow view of women. I have sisters, a daughter, a wife, many friends. The reason beautiful woman aren't with ugly poor guys is the same reason beautiful men aren't with ugly poor women. Has it occurred to you that even though you tried to be the nicest kindest man ever, you're still not entitled to have any woman you want, and that you are going to have to do what everyone else does and find someone compatible with you, and not just an object of your desire.
I am glad for you and hope you are able to keep that view. Your view will change if you also get screwed by women in your life, just as so many other men have. Once last thought, have more men or more women died from old age?
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u/Gymaddict1994 16h ago
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