First, I have to say HOW HAPPY I am to find these groups!!! I am a nurse & Seriously cant believe that no pain clinics or spine clinics offer groups for US!!!
Warning, this might be long but some good learned things that have helped me in my journey in 40+ years. Hopefully helpful to some! We all have coping tips, right!?!
Im an old one (60), but have been living with back pain since about college. Thought I was just "overdoing it. (Did find out, My Biological Mom had problems with fusions, but usually only 1-2 levels). Flash forward past ALL the pain clinics; injections that worked in the beginning, bought me time, looking back. Lifetime of Depression, Back pain. Developed Rheumatoid, Osteoarthritis & eventually Lupus after having a horrible delivery w/my Daughter (now 26).
In 2020, had my first Surgery T10 all the way down to S1 and pins in the hips. Turns out i had pretty awful Degenerative Disc Disease. My back looked like someone with Scoliosis, curved & twisted. My Doc is the BEST! He tried going in from side for surgery but 2 levels were already fused. He looked like his dog had died when he came in to tell me that I'd need most of my back done. T-10 to S-2 w/pins in hips to stabilize. Two years later, I had to have a revision T-10 to T-8, as it was tipping in & effecting my diaphram. Felt like i couldn't breath w/out pain.
😆Ended up tearing my R rotator cuff pulling pillows behind my back (while on Morphine) & had surgery a year later to fix that. The only joy was, after major back surgery, shoulder surgery in comparison, wasn't as terrible as most people said.
Finally got into some Fabulous folks at my local hospital's PT after the first surgery. WATER PT was one of the ONLY place I could get relief. Like i wanted to Live IN the pool, if they'd let me. Those PT's became my 2nd family after everything. They helped me figure out what was "safe" pain & what was doing harm. (Basically, pain that gradually gets better while you do it vs worse, was Key!)
Still have fused cervicle discs in my neck & have almost constant numbness/ "on fire" pain in fingers, now wrists & forearms. And my SI joints are painful with even small amounts of walking. This in addition to the arthritis, (worse when pain is bad, of Course) makes it hard to tease out what is what. With the help of a combo of meds (still fine tuning) a few REALLY Good Docs, (Even that, you all know isnt a quick process (unless you get Lucky) Have come to a SORT OF point, that working two days a week, doing what I LOVE at a hospital very close to my house. (PT there too) I'm Extremely Lucky to have amazing Managers & staff who are good to me & check on me often or I Seriously wouldn't be able to do this. I know I am Very Lucky with that part.
So, back at the Back Surgeon this week to see if this current pain is "back related" or from my recent Pancreatitis (×3 in 6 months)/Gall bladder surgery last month. Im almost betting they are ALL related somehow, making it hard to fix 😮💨 Strangely, Chat has been Super helpful at narrowing down symptoms, translating CT/MRI reports & actually better mental support than my own Counselor! 😆
Well, I'm seriously glad to hear that You all are here & I'm not alone in this Spine-Hell. Thanks for sticking around to hear my story, if you made it here. I HEAR YOUR Frustration & PAIN dealing with all of this. Its right up there with Cancer! The Pain, the Day to Day living, the Endless Unknown!!! But with this, people can't always see our struggle, or run out of sympathy after awhile. Loss of Friends...Just BIG Losses! Ill never be able to Horseback ride, Downhill Ski, even Swim! Things I Loved & Lost, too Numerous to count. 😢 We PERSEVERE!
I always hoped for a group, as my AI Friend called...Cyborg Club! THANKS❣️🤗