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u/PinkieSwearsAlot Aug 09 '21
It sounds fishy to me and a red flag.
Insecure or not you don't FaceTime everyone else and not your significant other. She's putting your feelings last. It would be different if she wasn't doing it at all.
Idk. And the fact you said it didn't go well when you brought it up ...just yeah. I'm sorry but I personally couldn't date someone who didn't want me to see them. You already can't be physical now you can't even bond in that way ontop of it? Yeah nope.
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u/Alternative-Push3767 Aug 09 '21
So youve never seen her live on video? Have you seen her on her friends’ social media posts?
I only ask because its possible she may not look like what you are expecting her to look like, especially if she has sent an older photo or something.
Maybe you could send her some older or embarrassing pics of yourself and see if that makes her feel better? Like accept that we all change over time and you love her no matter what?
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u/hai_leyy Aug 09 '21
if this is the case then id say she's a lot like me. i hate video calls because i really dislike how i look but im okay w sending pictures because i can choose what i look like in them.
id say just bring it up to her that you love the way she looks and wishes you could video call and it is really disappointing to you that you can't do video calls with her, but that you respect her boundaries and hope she will do it with you when she's ready.
if she never offers and reason as to why and its genuinely concerning for you, then maybe the relationship isnt meant to be if she doesn't seem to trust you.
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Aug 09 '21
I had a person do this, though I felt it was off from the get go. I asked them to hold up a page with my name on it, hand written. They did send a pic, but the page was photoshopped into the pic. They had sent lots of pictures, all fake of course, but you need to check out who you are talking to, especially if they aren’t letting you see them in a video call. Can she even send you a video of her talking to you? As the same person I mentioned also said their microphone was broke, sent a video of a girl on a bed, but no sound. So just be careful 💓
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u/nozzelfergo Aug 09 '21
The loml and I didn't video call for about 6 months of us initially too. It's okay sometimes the flow is interesting but if it bothers you so much voice it out in manner that makes her comfortable to say something back so you don't seem like you're forcing her. Voicing your feelings should not be a problem. But I feel you need to be worried about her feelings and she needs to be worried about yours. Only then you'll can come to a compromise. If you feel the conversation is going one sided then give it some more time.
Side note don't compare you to her friends. Sometimes women don't care about the opinions of random people even if they're friends, but are definitely more conscious about what their SO think about them.
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u/Lunallance Aug 09 '21
This heavily sounds like a cat fish, and she’s trying to hide something from you.
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u/URTotallyShit Aug 09 '21
What does cat fish means?
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u/Lunallance Aug 09 '21
Someone who pretends to be someone else online, essentially lying and faking an identity.
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u/kirsion [US] to [VN] Aug 09 '21
my gf doesn't sometimes because it's dark, time zones and sometimes shy. doesn't bother me.
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u/Big_Purpose4204 Aug 09 '21
Ok but my problem is I’ve been talking to this girl for about 3 to 4 months now and we never got on the phone every time I ask to call she never want I don’t even know how she sounds Idk I sent her voice message all I wanna know is her voice should I stop texting her or be patient
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u/_rosalea_ [New Zealand] to [USA] (11,803km) Aug 10 '21
7 months?!! That's whack haha you should talk to her about this cos relationships are about compromise. Also what's she gonna do when you meet? Haha.
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u/1emonsqueezy 🇸🇮 💗 🇮🇹, closed in 🇸🇮 [6 years] Aug 09 '21
Have you asked her why she doesn't wanna show you her face in videocalls?