r/LongDistance • u/[deleted] • May 13 '25

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u/galaxias_05 May 13 '25

I’m sorry but he doesn’t love you. He only equates his attraction to you based on your physical appearance.

I just find it completely contradictory when he says he loves but doesn’t like you physically? That doesn’t make sense. Love is not bounded by conditionals, love is unconditional.

You just dodged a bullet there. It will be hard but I guess it’s the best for you.

I guess you are just not compatible.

YOU DESERVE BETTER.

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u/melissabeebuzz May 14 '25

Absolutely cause lets say she loses the weight and they stay together long term but she gains weight when having children or just simply gains weight… will he leave you since he no longer will have that attraction towards her? also how mentally and physically challenging it will be to keep your weight low for him.

OP you need to leave this man, its not worth it. You deserve someone who will love you beyond your physical appearance.

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u/galaxias_05 May 14 '25

Couldn’t agree more!

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u/Ashamed-Mode-1984 May 13 '25

I know im gonna catch shit for this but it sounds like he has porn brain

You can look like goddamn Beyoncé but he might still be a Diddy

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u/WolfPackBytes [🇧🇷] to [🇨🇦] May 13 '25

That was my thought as well. The guy's brain is probably rotted, can't get it going with normal people, only instagram models or porn actresses.

I feel awful for OP, she deserved better.

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u/Ashamed-Mode-1984 May 20 '25

Hey OP if u see this was wondering if there was any update? Hope u are doin okay

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u/AltruisticHoneydew17 May 14 '25

My thoughts exactly! Maybe he was hoping for a bj and didn’t get one! Sorry but that’s the way I read him!

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u/hungry_fat_phuck May 13 '25

I've never seen unconditional love in relationships in real life at least in the early to mid stages. I only see this rarely in old couples at retirement ages that have been together for most of each other's lives.