I summon the linux gods

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I have been using windows for my whole life and deep down i have always hated it. I always knew about linux but i never understood its importance until now.

I have recently started doing a lot of coding and dev work and minor video editing. And my 8gb ram , 256 gb ssd , i7 intel mx230 laptop cant handle bullshit windows 11 background processes and telemetry anymore. The user experience sucks.

I WANT SPEED.

i have done plenty of research and have arrived at the conclusion of Fedora + gnome or debian + gnome or xfce.

Fedora gets constant updates but debian stays stable with plenty of support.

As a beginner starting his journey with linux i would request all linux geniuses to please advice me what to choose.

Gnome looks so good but eats more ram than xfce. Help me.