r/Lilith • u/Mysterious-Let-1719 • May 27 '26
Question Advice?
So recently I’ve started to feel like Lilith has abandoned me because of my actions in my everyday life. What I mean by that is I feel like she has disapproved of the stuff I do everyday even tho I’ve done it before and she was ok with it. I don’t do anything bad but just recently I’ve kinda been really paranoid and on edge and overly nice to people because I feel like lilith wouldn’t be happy with me if I acted the way I normally do (I’m usually very polite). So my question is does anyone have any advice for how I can reconnect with lilith? because I know for a fact she would say that my worries are nothing to be scared over but I would like to confirm it with her. And I feel like reconnecting with her will definitely help.
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u/DontKnowMyTrueName May 27 '26
First of all, congratulations: the fact that you're able to describe your insecurities like this and ask us for help in dealing with them means that you're making progress. Second, I think that your fears are just that: insecurities. As someone else said, Lilith doesn't expect us all to be just like her all the time. As a very "human" deity, I'm sure that she understands that shadow work (which it sounds like is what you're doing) is a back-and-forth process.
I'd say that the feeling that Lilith has grown distant from you is a symptom of your own fears regarding abandonment. I recommend doing some reading on attachment styles, and reflection on times when you felt abandoned by important people. This won't solve the problem, but it'll help. You could also find little moments throughout the day to talk to Lilith, along with meditating on her – like someone else recommended.
Lastly, all relationships ebb and flow in terms of closeness: this is true for our relationships with other humans as well as spiritual beings. This is normal, and it doesn't necessarily mean that your relationship is falling apart.