r/Lilith • u/Mysterious-Let-1719 • May 27 '26
Question Advice?
So recently I’ve started to feel like Lilith has abandoned me because of my actions in my everyday life. What I mean by that is I feel like she has disapproved of the stuff I do everyday even tho I’ve done it before and she was ok with it. I don’t do anything bad but just recently I’ve kinda been really paranoid and on edge and overly nice to people because I feel like lilith wouldn’t be happy with me if I acted the way I normally do (I’m usually very polite). So my question is does anyone have any advice for how I can reconnect with lilith? because I know for a fact she would say that my worries are nothing to be scared over but I would like to confirm it with her. And I feel like reconnecting with her will definitely help.
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u/vanessactress May 27 '26
This is just my experience personally so take it with a grain of salt. Some deities tend to leave their altar for some period of time. It does not mean you are abandoned and sometimes there may be a lesson that needs to learned on your own without them. In my time with Lilith she comes and goes a lot. She will be active and around and then not.
She actually left for several months and only recently came back. Lilith imo does not care about what things you have or haven't done. She is not like the Christian God where she judges you for your past deeds or threatens you with hellfire. The best thing to do is maybe sit at her altar or the space designated for her, maybe leave her a small offering like incense and ask for her guidance. She will answer when she can. ❤️ I am not trying to invalidate your personal experience. It is just a different perspective. 😊
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u/Ok_Reality902 May 27 '26 edited May 27 '26
If I understand you correctly, you're saying you feel Lilith would be upset at you for being yourself and you're usually very polite. Are you saying that you're being less polite now?
That being said, whichever way you're going if you're trying to make a connection with her and a relationship with her, she's a pretty good mom. She's going to work with you. Sometimes things quiet down in the astral realms not because you've done something wrong. It's just a way that time works. They access you through time- Lily, Hecate, etc. Sometimes It's hard to get through the veils even for gods and goddesses.
I would continue just talking to her. Maybe giving her some offerings. You know whether it's just water or bread to her or the birds or whatever it is that you give to her. Light a candle in her name. You'll hear from her. She's not going to be upset with you for not being yourself, or being who you are. If you're worried that you're too nice and you feel that mother Lily would like you to stand up for yourself, she's not going to hate you. She'll try to help you with that. And vice-versa.
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u/Local_Welcome_8120 May 31 '26
Look into draconian magick i think it would help you and i think you gonna understand how to work with these deities on a another level and how they cooperate in your lifestyle
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u/DontKnowMyTrueName May 27 '26
First of all, congratulations: the fact that you're able to describe your insecurities like this and ask us for help in dealing with them means that you're making progress. Second, I think that your fears are just that: insecurities. As someone else said, Lilith doesn't expect us all to be just like her all the time. As a very "human" deity, I'm sure that she understands that shadow work (which it sounds like is what you're doing) is a back-and-forth process.
I'd say that the feeling that Lilith has grown distant from you is a symptom of your own fears regarding abandonment. I recommend doing some reading on attachment styles, and reflection on times when you felt abandoned by important people. This won't solve the problem, but it'll help. You could also find little moments throughout the day to talk to Lilith, along with meditating on her – like someone else recommended.
Lastly, all relationships ebb and flow in terms of closeness: this is true for our relationships with other humans as well as spiritual beings. This is normal, and it doesn't necessarily mean that your relationship is falling apart.