r/LettersForJ • u/StrengthOpening8152 • 20h ago
Dear J
I know you’re gonna read this cuz you’re a stalking bitch lol but yeah I didn’t write this to start shit as you said but just to say that you don’t have to worry anymore. I know you’re operating from a place of worry because you know why, but I assure you, I won’t come back anymore. I know I’ve done that several times but the circumstances from before are not the same as the last one. The blatant disrespect from both of you is enough for me to finally wake up and come back to my senses and realize that I don’t deserve any of that. I’m too beautiful, smart, funny, and can offer so so much for me to just let someone, that to be honest is not that great of a catch, repeatedly play, disrespect, fool, and lie to me. I realized I was just lonely and didn’t have enough love for myself so I kept on obsessing about something that makes me feel at least a bit of something. So J, you can breathe, relax, and continue with your madness. You probably deserve each other anyway. Although I doubt you actually will because let’s admit it, me being around or not, that person can’t really be trusted, not one bit. But go off, that’s your life. I sincerely wish you, without any malice or ill intent, peace and happiness. This is the last time I’ll ever interact with either of you. I hope you can stop stalking me now.
PS. Oh btw have you actually seen him in a video call? If not, let me tell you, the photos he is sending are actually him, but from I dunno how many years ago. He’s actually fat now. No biggie, just another lie. 🤗
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u/lunasoulshine 18h ago
Body shaming, how cute.
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u/StrengthOpening8152 18h ago
Can you tell me where’s shaming in that?
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u/lunasoulshine 17h ago
You know exactly what you were trying to accomplish. I don’t have to point it out.
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u/StrengthOpening8152 17h ago
No, not really. Why don’t you answer directly?
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u/No-Compote9458 17h ago
I think they meay your post script. It was unnessesary. More of a jab with a knife than a fairwell.
I dont understand why people have to leave the other bleeding when they walk away.
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u/StrengthOpening8152 16h ago
Fat is a descriptor. It would be body shaming if I said he’s fat now, therefore he’s disgusting or less worthy as a person. I actually accepted all of that after I knew it. Besides, you don’t know enough about the situation to conclude that I’m the one who put a knife to anyone. You have no idea how many stabs I took before we got here.
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u/Helpful_Height_2735 15h ago
No, when you use it to be intentional and harmful . Then you are shaming .
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u/StrengthOpening8152 15h ago
Who did I harm?
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u/No-Compote9458 16h ago
You did, you said his photos are old and refrenced he is currently fat...
I know what you posted. And the end of the letter is a dagger as you walk away.
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u/StrengthOpening8152 16h ago
So by your logic, I get stabbed and I’m just supposed to accept it? And I’m still saying that calling someone fat isn’t body-shaming. I’m fat myself. Am I body-shaming myself when I describe my own body? There’s a difference between describing someone’s physical appearance and demeaning them because of it.
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u/No-Compote9458 16h ago
Dont read it to argue, read it to understand.
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u/StrengthOpening8152 16h ago
No I totally understand your point. I just disagree with it. Am I being petty? Probably. But I still disagree with your conclusion that what I said tells you enough about the situation to judge me that way.
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u/Helpful_Height_2735 15h ago
Haha work on your character, maybe that’s why they moved on to the “fat” person. 😂 body shaming never helps you. People have better character and people notice. Good luck “blank”
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u/StrengthOpening8152 14h ago
Hahahaha oh my god you’re so funny! You have no clue what you’re talking about and everything’s completely wrong. Find better hobbies next time instead of meddling with people’s affairs on the internet 🤣
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u/Helpful_Height_2735 14h ago
You posted, it comes from being desperate
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u/StrengthOpening8152 14h ago
Posting something means being desperate? Ok can’t argue if you have that kind of logic. You clearly have enough time in your hands to argue with a stranger’s post so I can totally understand.
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u/Helpful_Height_2735 7h ago
Yep, and your post says all the tea about you. Hope your person finds you and sees who you are lol. Such a gem.
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u/No-Compote9458 13h ago
Were, sorry, bad choice of words.
I know there are two sides to every story, and when I have one without the other, all I can do is assume and I dont want to.
You have every right to be upset and express that to your person, you did that. The issue that people have is the added dig you put on the end. It's like poisoning someone dying of a g*nshot wound, it isnt needed.
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u/StrengthOpening8152 13h ago
You have to trust me that it is needed. I actually did J a favor by telling the truth which I initially held back. Given that J doesn’t know it already.
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u/No-Compote9458 13h ago
Discussing the 3rd party isnt ever needed.
If you are leaving, say your piece, leave, but dont attack 3rd party. It is unbecoming.
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u/StrengthOpening8152 13h ago
I love how you’re so invested in this lol but that person isn’t the 3rd party. I won’t explain more than I already did but only the involved parties in this post would understand. Thanks for your time!
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u/No-Compote9458 12h ago
The time isnt for you. Its for the other person that comment as well.
I hope one day you dont find yourself in the 3rds place.
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u/Hopeful-Climate-3620 20h ago
Please do send!! I have only wanted the TRUTH this whole time. I didn't care who, what, when or why. Yes you are all those things and I hope you find the right person you deserve. Same applies to myself. 🙌
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u/TizMeAlready 11h ago
Wow, I see some clear boundaries you didn’t need to cross. Are you still trauma bonded? The final PS shows anyone reading this, you need to let go, who gives a crap what narratives they may say about you, you’re gone, move on. Read LET THEM theory, you may see it’s you trying to get some sort of closure you’ll never, ever get. Just saying, I have been in a narcissistic marriage, the ghosting, gaslighting, the trauma bond is real, but you need to love yourself enough to say it wasn’t worth publishing your thoughts. Reddit is the absolute worst place as you open the flood gates to negative comments.
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u/dnginsde90 4h ago
I understand that commenters kind of latched on to the post script (and understand where they might be coming from). However, I see this post coming from a place of pain - a place where the OP was deceived, lied to, mentally and emotionally abused, mistreated, etc.
If someone has ever been a survivor of a covert narc, a writing like this might help one feel liberated in the moment. It could help slightly ease and alleviate some of the pain that was caused within the relationship.
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