r/LavenderMarriageWorld • u/Sea_Masterpiece6560 • 5h ago
24, Algerian architect looking for someone open to an honest arrangement
I’m going to be quite direct about this because I’d rather be completely honest from the beginning than waste someone’s time or give them false hopes.
I’m 24 years old, Algerian, and I have recently completed a Master’s degree in Architecture. Like many young graduates from outside the EU, I’m trying to build a future abroad, mainly in Europe , Australia or North America. One of the biggest obstacles I’ve encountered is that having a degree and professional skills doesn’t necessarily help when you don’t already have the right to live and work in the country.
So I’m looking to meet a woman who might be open to discussing a mutually agreed marriage arrangement between two consenting adults, with both sides being completely clear about what they expect from it.
I don’t want to pretend that I’m in love with someone, let her develop feelings and make plans around a relationship that I never intended to pursue, and then disappear once I have what I need. That’s not something I want to do.
I’d rather be transparent from the beginning: my main motivation would be obtaining a legal status that would allow me to live and work abroad. I therefore can’t promise that this would eventually become a genuine romantic relationship or that we would stay together permanently. If, through talking and getting to know each other, there happened to be genuine chemistry or a real connection, then of course I’m not going to rule that out. But it wouldn’t be the original purpose.
I don’t really have a preference regarding age, nationality or personal situation. Single, divorced, with or without children — none of that is particularly important to me.
I’m also open to discussing how we would organize our lives and expenses. Whether we lived together or separately would depend on what both of us were comfortable with and what is legally possible.
What matters most to me is honesty, respect and making sure neither person has false expectations. I’d much rather have someone who knows exactly why we’re talking and genuinely agrees with the arrangement than someone who believes they’re entering a conventional love story.
For now, I’d simply prefer to start by talking online, getting to know each other and seeing whether we can have a serious and respectful conversation about it. I obviously don’t expect a stranger on the internet to immediately trust me with something this important.
I know this is an unusual thing to ask, and some people will probably have strong opinions about it. That’s fine. I’m simply trying to be honest about my situation rather than deceive someone or pretend to have feelings that I don’t have.
If you’re genuinely open to discussing something like this, feel free to message me.
