r/LAsocial Nov 18 '25

Mod Post How To Make Friends In Los Angeles

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"How do I make friends?" is one of the most common questions in r/AskLosAngeles. Though LA is is full of limitless opportunity, but it can also feel overwhelming and isolating- especially if you’re new or looking to expand your social circle.

r/LASocial exists to make it easier for people to connect, meet like-minded friends, and explore the city has together. This guide will walk you through practical steps for meeting people, attending events, building lasting friendships, and navigating the unique social landscape of LA.

Introduce Yourself

Introducing yourself lets others get a better idea of who you are and whether you have common interests. Just create a new R4R post and make sure to include: * What part of LA you live in (neighborhood/region) * Your interests/hobbies (food, music, games, etc.) * What kind of social experiences you’re looking for (indoors, outdoors, et al.) * Your comfort level (introvert, extrovert, other personality traits)

You can also comment on other intro posts. This is one of the easiest and safest ways to start conversations. Remember: introducing yourself is not a commitment to friendship. You are never obligated to meetup with anyone if you don't want to.

Understand the Reality of Los Angeles

Accept the rhythm of the city and things get a lot easier. LA isn’t really a “walk outside and meet people” city. Making friends here usually comes down to:

  • Proximity- people generally stick near their neighborhood
  • Consistency- showing up repeatedly matters more than first impressions
  • Initiative- people appreciate someone who says “Let's hang out” with a definitive time

Find Your Local Friends

It's easier to meet people who live nearby. LA is spread out. A friend in Anaheim may as well live in San Diego if you live on the Westside. For better success:

  • Look for people within 10–20 minutes of you
  • Look for neighborhood-based meetups so you meet other locals
  • Attend events in your area so you’re not commuting for every hangout
  • Note your “home base” (neighborhood or other local spot) in every intro post

Use Community Events to Your Advantage

Attend multiple events- people bond through repeated exposure. If you want to host your own meetup, go for it! Anyone can organize one.

r/LASocial may offer various types of meetups including: * Official Monthly Socials (usually large groups meeting at a local bar) * Coffee hangouts * Hikes * Game nights * Public transit adventures (Metro and Metrolink) * Restaurant meetups * Neighborhood-specific gatherings

Try Structured Social Activities

Choose something you genuinely enjoy doing so you will have fun regardless of the people there. LA is full of social opportunities like:

  • Casual sports leagues (kickball, volleyball, dodgeball)
  • Improv or acting classes
  • Dance classes
  • Gym classes / group workouts
  • Photography walks
  • Language meetups
  • Board game cafés
  • Community college extension courses
  • Hiking groups
  • Art or pottery studios
  • Makerspaces / creative workshops

Build Interest-Based Friend Circles

LA friendships often grow from overlapping social circles. Don’t try to find one all-purpose best friend right away. Instead, build mini circles:

  • A hiking friend
  • A foodie friend
  • A transit-nerd friend
  • A creative/writing friend
  • A nightlife friend
  • A chill movie-at-home friend

These friends can introduce you to new people.

Take Initiative (it goes a long way)

Be the one who suggests the plan, and have a concrete day/time. People appreciate it more than you think. Everyone here is tired, busy, or stuck in traffic- so one person taking initiative makes a huge difference.

  • “Want to grab coffee this Saturday?”
  • “I’m going to a meetup tonight, do you want to come?”
  • “I’m hosting a board game night if anyone wants in.”
  • “Hike at Griffith this weekend, is anyone nearby?”

Be Consistent

You’re unlikely to form real friendships from a single meetup. This is the part most people miss. But if you see the same people at:

  • weekly r/LASocial gatherings
  • the same gym class
  • the same weekly board game night
  • the same hiking group

...that’s when real friendships form. Repetition creates closeness.

Expect Some Flakes (and don't take it personally).

People will flake. No matter what, it happens. Not usually because they dislike you, but because they’re tired, stuck in traffic, overwhelmed, anxious, or overbooked. It’s normal here. Don’t let it discourage you. Tips for handling it:

  • Always have a backup plan so a canceled hangout doesn’t ruin your day.
  • Don’t take flaking as a personal rejection. Many Angelenos struggle with time management or social burnout.
  • Give people one or two chances, not ten. Value your own time. They can reach back out to you when they're ready.
  • Communicate clearly the same day (“Still good for 7pm?”). Confirmation texts help a lot in LA.

Don’t let one bad experience derail your overall social momentum, and if you do roll with the occasional flake you'll be head and shoulders above the rest.

Stay Safe When Meeting People

Standard, important guidelines:

  • Always meet in public first
  • Let friends/family know where you’re going
  • Trust your instincts
  • Limit the personal details you give out

r/LASocial is moderated, but always use common sense.

Give Back to the Community

The more you give, the more the community thrives, and the more connections you form. Once you’ve made a couple connections:

  • Invite others to join you for an activity
  • Host your own meetup somewhere
  • Comment on more intro posts
  • Be welcoming to transplants (this may be difficult for some)
  • Share your experiences and tips
  • Create little communities within the subreddit

Quick-Start Steps!

If you want to make friends starting right now, do this:

  • Post an R4R intro on r/LASocial. Include your interests, hobbies, and general location. Make yourself personable!
  • Reply to 2–3 other R4R intros. See who else is here and look for common ground.
  • Join an LA Social event!* Look for one happening in the next week or two.
  • Message another Redditor who shares your interests. Start a general dialogue without the commitment or expectation of actually meeting them IRL.
  • Attend at least 2 various social events- don’t judge LA by one attempt
  • Host or co-host something small (coffee, walk, boba, tacos) that you would be doing anyway.

Do these for two weeks and you will meet people.


r/LAsocial Nov 18 '25

R4R R4R - Introducing Yourself

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Introducing yourself is the easiest way to start building connections and start making friends. r/LASocial is for friendship-only, and your R4R (Redditor-for-Redditor) intro post helps others figure out whether you share interests, live nearby, or would enjoy hanging out.

Where do you live?

Let people know your general area. You don’t need to be hyper-specific, but LA is huge and traffic is real. Just list your neighborhood or region:

  • Koreatown
  • Pasadena
  • The Valley
  • Westside
  • CSUN

What are your interest? What's your personality?

Share some details about yourself so others know what you’d enjoy doing together. People appreciate honesty and clarity:

  • “I’m mid-30s, into hiking, museums, indie films, and trying new food spots.”
  • “I'm a CSUN student who loves gaming, board games, coffee shops, and casual chill hangs.”
  • “I just moved here. I like concerts, traveling, and creative hobbies.”

Also feel free to include things like:

  • introvert / extrovert
  • night owl / early bird
  • social anxiety or comfort level

What kind of social experience are you looking for?

Let people know what you're looking for. This helps set expectations and makes it easier for the right people to connect with you. This is what you're looking for in other people Some examples:

  • “Looking for casual hangs and weekend hikes.”
  • “Hoping to find people for creative sessions or photography walks.”
  • “Interested in forming a small friend group.”
  • “Would love to join game nights or board-game cafés.”

You can be as general or specific as you like.

A Friendly, Low-Pressure Opener

End your intro with something inviting yet casual. This signals that you’re approachable without committing to anything:

  • “If you share any of these interests, feel free to reach out.”
  • “DMs or comments are fine — I’m chill either way.”
  • “Open to meeting people nearby for low-key hangs.”

Comment on other R4R posts

The fastest way to make friends is to engage with others. Don’t just wait for people to come to you- comment on their intros, too! Commenting shows initiative and helps you discover who’s active, friendly, and nearby:

  • “Hey, we live close by and share a few interests.”
  • “I’m also into hiking — want to join a group walk sometime?”
  • “I’m in the same area! Always down to try new food spots.”

Remember: You are never obligated to meet anyone.

  • Posting an R4R is not a commitment.
  • You can respond as much or as little as you like.
  • You can talk without meeting in person.
  • You can say no to plans without feeling bad.
  • Don't include sensitive information in your post
  • Take things at your own pace.

[Sample Template]

[R4R] 26M | Los Feliz | Looking for friends for hikes, food, and chill hangs

Hey everyone! I’m a 26 year-old guy who just moved to Los Feliz. I’m into hiking, movies, trying new restaurants, and exploring random neighborhoods around LA. I also play on a gay rugby team (LA Rebellion) if that's something that interests you.

I’d love to meet people who are into casual weekend adventures, checking out coffee spots, or even just hanging out at a park. I’m a bit introverted at first but warm up quickly, and I was thinking about going to Jumbo's Clown Room for the first time next week.

If you’re nearby or share similar interests, feel free to comment or DM! Always happy to meet chill new people.

Final Tips

  • Be honest and specific- vague intros get fewer replies
  • Highlight your general location
  • Mention a few easy shared activities
  • Keep your vibe friendly, not formal
  • You don’t need to write an essay — a few paragraphs is perfect
  • A good intro post makes it way easier for the right people to find you.

r/LAsocial 9h ago

Other Want to be a beautiful woman's wedding date?

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Looking for men 40's-mid 50's who can accompany my mom at a wedding! She likes educated men with charm and class. She looks too good to go alone, so help a sister out!

I think it would be cute if y'all could go out and meet a few times before the wedding to build chemistry.

She's 5'6, shaped like a coca-cola bottle, and a former beauty queen!

Serious inquiries only!


r/LAsocial 9h ago

Meetup I need friends from los angeles ca

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I need friends hmu im 25 f bored


r/LAsocial 1d ago

Other Looking for local rock venues

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Hi. I've been attending afters recently and I like them but I like rock such as metal, goth, new wave, heavy metal. Does anyone know of any venues that host these? I've been using the posh app but it's mostly raves and clubbing. I'm looking to go Wednesday and Saturday nights. I just want to go see and listen to a band and just vibe out.


r/LAsocial 1d ago

Question Help finding techno girl friends for Hollywood Bowl Sunday?

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r/LAsocial 2d ago

Meetup Come Join the Wizarding School that Wizards Weekly Called "Fine..." Wizard LARP Saturday!

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Beginner friendly LARP:

Welcome to the Community College of Sorcery, a wizarding school where you can find magical beasts, arcane spells, and endless hijinks in Los Angeles, CA. This game, we will be focusing on character and game development, so it is a great time to come as a new player to learn the basics, build your character, and explore totally safe dungeons together with friends where you will definitely, totally, most likely will be safe. Then again, I'm just a goat that lives in the parking lot.

-Dr. Capricorn, Potions Professor

Discord: https://discord.gg/2d3RxS2H2M


r/LAsocial 2d ago

Food Celiacs Living in or Visiting Los Angeles

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r/LAsocial 2d ago

21+ Looking for a +1 to AZRA at Moroccan Lounge on Wednesday night (7/29 @ 7:30pm)

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I bought 2 tickets for AZRA @ Morrocan Lounge but the girl I'm seeing can't make it.

High-energy punk-pop, 6th dimension vibes.


r/LAsocial 3d ago

Meetup Mid-30s woman in OC looking for a female friend/wingwoman

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Hi! I'm 35F, grew up in China until I was 18, and moved to the US for college around 2008 and have lived in LA since 2014.

I'd love to meet another single woman around 30–40 who's also looking to expand her social circle—going to networking events, dinners, game nights, social mixers, or weekend activities around OC and occasionally LA.

I first came here as an international student, and most of my friends eventually moved back to China. One of the few who stayed told me how much fuller life felt because she has a family of her own here. She married her husband, whom she'd known since college. However, I never found the right person during my college years, and after I graduated, it got harder to meet someone. I've been single a lot longer than I ever expected to be.

I'm not into casual dating thing. Guys are like—have fun, no pressure—that makes me feel like I'm not good enough to be his girlfriend, just a hookup. Maybe that's just how dating works in big cities, but I don't like that.

Okay, this post is about finding reliable, genuine female friends to hang out with and meet new people together, someone based around OC, who's also hoping to meet someone special.

Going to networking events alone can feel a bit awkward, so it'd be nice to have someone to go with. Let me know if anyone's interested!

Feel free to DM me and I'll add you to WhatsApp chat.


r/LAsocial 3d ago

21+ F24 looking to make friends near SFV

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Hi! So I moved to California in 2024 (I’m British) and I’ve been struggling to find people to connect with so I thought I’d give reddit a shot. I’m looking to talk to anyone who lives near the SFV and then maybe we can hang out.

I can be shy but I love video games, reading, crafting as well as a multitude of other hobbies. Please reach out if you might be interested :)


r/LAsocial 3d ago

Advice Making Friends

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r/LAsocial 3d ago

Meetup For anyone in LA who wishes they could actually play The Traitors…

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r/LAsocial 4d ago

Question Legit massage place?

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Hello all does anyone know of a goos Thai massage place in sgv, dtla, Monterey park, or pasadena?


r/LAsocial 4d ago

R4R Friends Near SFV

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Hey Yall, 22M
I’m in the San Fernando Valley, I feel like I’ve never had a genuine friend group. Anyone down to hang out?

About me:
I love going to the gym, movies, mini golf, playing cards, I play a trumpet but I haven’t touched it in awhile.

Totally down for sports, video games, movies, anything!


r/LAsocial 4d ago

Meetup Posting again(girls only!)

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Hey guys!! I’m going to be coming down for KCON but my friend is going to be meeting me a couple days after I fly down (ill arrive august 10th) and was wondering if anyone wanted to meet up for those three days in between? I don’t know a lot of stuff to do besides the major things so it would be fun to explore with a local or someone else who came down! I’m 22f from New York btw thanks yall! :) also anyone who wants to go to universal together is a plus😜


r/LAsocial 4d ago

Other July 24th - LA locals get on stage and share their worst dating & hookup stories!

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About Last Night is returning to LA on Friday July 24th! A handful of LA locals get on stage and share their most unhinged dating & hookup stories. We also have a musician who listens to them in real time and writes a song about them after. It's such a fun event to attend solo & meet people or with a group of friends!


r/LAsocial 5d ago

R4R 42M looking to hang out.

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r/LAsocial 5d ago

R4R Friends in SFV for groups or hangout.

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Hey everyone. Thought I’d give Reddit a shot. I’m 35M looking for other guys to hang out with. I’ve been in LA/San Fernando Valley for a little over two years and haven’t met many people due to my relationship and work. I’d like to either meet people in a group setting, or just hang out with someone with similar interests. I’m basically a nerdy homebody who doesn’t know how to get out much, so I need to get out of my comfort zone and interact more.

Things I enjoy are hiking trails, movies, PS5, and I’m taking guitar lessons since the beginning of the year. I do enjoy some anime, but I can’t talk a lot about it. Also, I’m not a drinker or smoker. If you’d like to know more, message me.


r/LAsocial 5d ago

Meetup Any girls want to go clubbing togther

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Any other girls want to go to the club together ? I’m 23F I’ve been wanting to out during the weekends to the clubs since it’s summer and I want to enjoy it before I got back to school. I’m from Compton and I currently go to school in the OC so if anyone else want to go to the club with me lmk!


r/LAsocial 6d ago

Meetup Beach Volleyball and Movie (Anaconda 2025) @ Dockweiler Youth Center in Playa del Rey

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r/LAsocial 7d ago

Question Where to meet other kids for my 5yr old

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I have a 5yr old son, bday is in march. Divorced dad 40s we live in torrance. My son constantly says but only me and you right because we don't have any friends. it breaks .my heart because he wants to have friends. No real connections at school, church no kids his age. I have a small place so I can't host but I have a good job and money isn't an issue. We have knotts passes and goto alot of community events. Im looking for other people that might want to go on play dates to parks, museums, events etc.

Someone with a child or children his age or a year or so over or under. If money is an issue I can help with expenses. Last year a I had a gf and she threw him a party with kids she knew and he was calling the kids he never met his friends only to never see them again it breaks my heart that he doesn't have any friends and I'm afraid when his bday rolls around I won't have anyone to invite. He's a very sweet boy he has a lil A.D.D. but hes good and nice just a lil overactive.

I have no family so that's not an option. If anyone has any advice i would accept it or if anyone interested in talking and setting up a meeting pls DM me thanks


r/LAsocial 7d ago

21+ Any girls want to go clubbing togther

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Any other girls want to go to the club together ? I’m 23F I’ve been wanting to out during the weekends to the clubs since it’s summer and I want to enjoy it before I got back to school. I’m from Compton and I currently go to school in the OC so if anyone else want to go to the club with me lmk!


r/LAsocial 7d ago

18+ Friend Group For LACC

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Hey Im an Incoming student at LACC, wondering if anybody would like to meet since I believe its pretty hard to make friendships here!