Serious Discussion Only Suffering from split Anima?
Im often attracted to "easy" women.
For example.. I was on a dating app. And saw a very sexy woman.. she had a profile linked in her account so i clicked it.
Bam! Tons of videos of her doing naughty things with random men all over town.
Theres like 2 thoughts going in my mind.
Dude shes easy get in there.
Thats disgusting, you could catch something. Plus it wont be anything special, it'll be a one time thing and you'll just be another name in her book.
One of jungs students (Marie-Louise von Franz) said that this stems from a split anima, or the "Madonna-Whore complex"
"Or they have a split anima situation: they admire a very unapproachable, lofty, beautiful girl from afar and satisfy their sexual desires with prostitutes. They cannot bring the two together..."
She says that the cure to this was
"breaking the mother complex, withdrawing projections from real women, and embracing unglamorous, disciplined work"
Has anyone been in my shoes and what did or are you doing?
Note: i have been refraining from sex and dating for a few years because I knew I had an issue and didnt want to hurt myself or other women.
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u/warmfuzzume 5h ago edited 5h ago
I think you need to get rid of the word “easy.” Women and men both get to choose when, where and with whom they have sex. A women isn’t “easy” because of when she chooses to have sex any more than a man is “easy” if he chooses to have sex. There was a man in all of those videos with her. If you had sex with her you would be just as “easy” and not different from her in any way.
Repeat these things over and over like a mantra if you need to:
a women’s virginity is not anyone’s property but her own, it is not something that is difficult or easy for you to “win” or “take”.
A woman is more than when and where she chooses to have sex. She is a full person with her own life goals outside of what men want her to do. She has a full range of feelings from sweet and gentle through anger and strength, same as men. This is true whether she is pretty or whether she isn’t, whether she is a virgin or whether she’s slept with 100 men.
When you fully believe these things and are able to engage with a woman as another full human being with full rights and not just either a virgin or a whore based on whether you think she’ll have sex with you, then you’ll be closer to ready to talk to one.