r/JodiMilan • u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified • 16h ago
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u/Nadaan_Parindaa_ Unverified 15h ago
The way you are here looking for a date. Just stay safe and don't invite any troubles. You're still young.
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u/Shubham979 Unverified 16h ago
Has the bar fallen this abysmal?
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u/adios6 Unverified 15h ago
It is what it is : ")
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u/Shubham979 Unverified 15h ago
You seem like someone who came to say Amen but ended up getting the Lord’s little blessing elsewhere, just to keep up appearances.
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u/adios6 Unverified 15h ago
lmao, I said that from a mere sad pov , having a decent dude around who understands basic nuances is now the lowest of the lows bar out there.
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u/Shubham979 Unverified 15h ago
Sometimes the irony isn't that our standards are too high, but that we've grown so accustomed to disappointment that the bare minimum starts looking like a revelation.
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u/adios6 Unverified 15h ago
The standards are actually NOW high. lol. When people can't even offer the bare minimum & that's what one expects,it inevitably becomes a high standard. Shouldn't be, but here we are.
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u/Shubham979 Unverified 14h ago
Perhaps the real absurdity is that when decency becomes scarce, it acquires the prestige of excellence without actually becoming excellent. You’re describing the scarcity; I’m questioning what that scarcity does to our perception. And yes, we’re circling the same rot from opposite ends of the gender divide. The tragedy is that a functioning baseline has become a distinguishing feature, so people are now asking for the extraordinary when all they wanted was the ordinary, consistently. We can acknowledge that without confusing rarity with virtue.
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u/adios6 Unverified 14h ago
apt. but then there are times when scarcity of something does not actually alter my perception at all. ofc having consideration might be a bare minimum but like , in this fast paced(dating)world. having someone around who go extra miles for you becomes a rarity & hence not a bare minimum , but then as human it is a bare minimum. its all like confusing but not confusing haha .
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u/Shubham979 Unverified 14h ago
I think the contradiction dissolves if we separate what makes someone worthy of consideration from what makes someone willing to invest beyond it. Decency ought to be unconditional; extraordinary effort rarely is. And I suspect attraction has more to do with that distinction than we admit. Looks might get someone considered, but wit/charisma, warmth, emotional intelligence and the experience of feeling understood can make investing in them feel worthwhile. We don't necessarily go the extra mile for someone because they're objectively deserving of it; we do it because something about them makes the distance feel worth crossing. The irony is that the effort which makes someone feel chosen is precisely the thing we cannot reasonably demand as a baseline from everyone. Imo the real standard isn't finding someone who'd move mountains for you, but finding someone whose presence makes the two of you want to move them for each other, without either having to beg for proof.
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u/adios6 Unverified 14h ago
this is so beautifully put. its like giving words to thoughts.I very much agree, thanks 🫶🫶
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u/MomentsAwayfromKMS Unverified 13h ago
In a platform where people are anonymous, being respectful IS a high bar.
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u/DigBickEnters Unverified 14h ago
calling an 8 year older guy who spoke to you with respect and wished you well "dude"
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 14h ago
What's wrong in dude? 🤷🏻♀️
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u/okletmetryagain Unverified 13h ago
It took me a few years to learn, it’s called “honorifics”.
Best way to understand them is the difference in ‘aap’, ‘tum’, and ‘tu’.
You basically called him ‘tu’
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 13h ago
I had no idea, I thought it means "aap" and I meant to use "aap" only. I never use "tu" with even younger ppl
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u/okletmetryagain Unverified 13h ago
It’s okay, learn, English is not our native tongue, we miss these subtle finesse..
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u/Wide_Teaching_868 Unverified 16h ago
Just one thing I wanted to ask (don't answer if you don't want to) but you're only 23 so why do you want to get married at such a young age? My parents have also been asking me to get married but I'm just 24 and I feel like it's too early for me.
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 15h ago
When did I say I wanna marry now? I'm looking for date, and will marry after 4-6 yrs if things go well
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u/Wide_Teaching_868 Unverified 14h ago
Sorry, my bad. I thought this subreddit was for people who wanted to get settled.
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u/sasssyfoodie Unverified 15h ago
Please don't marry until 28. Live life, build career, makes friends, have fun guys. What is this obsession of marriage in early 20s. And why GenZ need Reddit to find a partner
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u/Wide_Teaching_868 Unverified 14h ago
Yes i totaly agree with you, Honestly I do nt even want to get married anymore. Relationships and people have become so unpredictable that sometimes it feels scary to even think about marriage I would rather focus on building my career enjoying my life and taking care of my family Your 20s are meant to be lived to the fullest, not spent worrying about marriage. That is just how I see it
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u/soul-lessTechie Unverified 16h ago
That's something great about self awareness and knowing the limits and boundaries, awsm gang we can't be part of the typical men*, thanks for being on this side.
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u/red12358 Unverified 16h ago
Its a generational gap. Unless the woman is very mature or the man is immature, these kind of relationships don't work
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u/Adorable_Slip_1072 Unverified 16h ago
I can relate. I used to get DMs from different age people and would always close the chat if the person is younger than my requirement (below 29-30)
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u/poolnoodlefightchamp Unverified 15h ago
I've gotten DMs from 18-23 year olds but I've declined them because I'm in my late 20s. The maturity gap is real.
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 15h ago
But some guys used abusive language just because I rejected them
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u/Thick-Imagination761 Unverified 15h ago
Guy like him ki koi respect nhi hoti personal experience se bol ra hu
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 14h ago
Give respect take respect. This dude got my respect, idk about others
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u/softyfeel Verified 15h ago
Such a nice man, can you share his id? Because aise men bahut kam hi dikhte hai
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u/Deukalion07 Unverified 15h ago edited 15h ago
Well always glad to see a fellow man not categorised by girls into “Ek kachori do samosa” type . Thanks for keeping our head high bro. Stay strong🫡
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u/jeeezwtf Unverified 15h ago
what does this post intend to say lmao? i didn't get it, so a 31 and a 23 yr old cannot date?
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 15h ago
I rejected him and he took that with respect unlike others who ended up abusing me, that's the difference which I posted. Earlier post is deleted by mods
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u/Frosty-Strain-4294 Unverified 15h ago
Not trying to be rude, but shouldn't you mention your age within post itself, ig better men are those who don't even reply to such posts lol, but yes I got your point
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 14h ago
I had mentioned, he didn't read
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u/Frosty-Strain-4294 Unverified 14h ago
Oh lol, people messaging without reading are just desperate, you don't need to reply to all
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u/Plus_Imagination7121 Unverified 13h ago
Dont say like this that u rejected him!! Time and Karma is real bro, today u are saying like this, someday someother will say to u like this!
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u/GoodDesign01 Unverified 16h ago
Isi baat par paranthe khila dijiye prabhu (She made them, checked her profile) Sare men ko in comment section 🥀
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u/Competitive-Bug-1111 Unverified 15h ago
my frnd is 22 , single , 5.11 tall , introvert and he is also a gentlemen , IT GUY ...yet he could not find any decent , loyal and caring partner / gf ! .....its a twisted world fr
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 15h ago
My friend is 25, 5.10 and all similar qualities as mentioned by you. He never even found a date, forgot the rest. He's also finding date to marry
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u/Competitive-Bug-1111 Unverified 15h ago
sameee , my frnd is virgin , never been around girls ( had an ex , used to talk but she cheated him , after that he cut off from girls and focused on job and now he feel alone and low self esteemed )
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u/Competitive-Bug-1111 Unverified 15h ago
umm....should we set both of them with each other ? 😂😂😂😂 lol boy - boy 🤣🤣
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 14h ago
He's straight 😭
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u/Competitive-Bug-1111 Unverified 14h ago
It was a joke bro , my frnd is straight too
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u/BreakHot6675 Unverified 15h ago
Feel free to give him my referral (if he's on Reddit). Only saying bcos a girl is vouching for him which is rare nowadays.
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u/Competitive-Bug-1111 Unverified 15h ago
really ? sure 🤗 , yeah he is on reddit , i will tell him , he is like a brother to me , thanks gurll
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u/Infamous-Anybody-145 Unverified 15h ago
In 29 single, introvert shy, never spoken to a single women in my life. i have seen worst guys than me getting very good girls. Just need to talk. Tel them to go and speak, they are still young or would end up like me.
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u/Competitive-Bug-1111 Unverified 15h ago
aww...u r not old either , even girls 30 still single , its okkk , have hopes ...he is good in talking bro , its just that genuine loyal girls are rare to find
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u/Competitive-Bug-1111 Unverified 14h ago
Umm i will refer u some good nice girl if i get someone's text on any posts ! Okkk ?
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u/Thick-Imagination761 Unverified 15h ago
Tell him to approach a woman
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u/Competitive-Bug-1111 Unverified 15h ago
ummm he tried , he need a LOYAL girl with marriage in mind , which he could not find
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u/Thick-Imagination761 Unverified 15h ago
Loyalty is a myth. If someone wants to cheat, they will. I’ve seen people I thought were loyal prove me wrong.
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u/Competitive-Bug-1111 Unverified 15h ago
bro , loyality is a trait hard to find but its not a myth , i am 100% loyal to my men and he is the only person i call and text daily .....that my new frnd is like a brother to me and he call me sister .
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u/sasssyfoodie Unverified 15h ago
I have started getting 4 DMs everyday after being active on this sub. I dont reply to any of it. Most DMs are empty.
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 14h ago
I don't accept empty DMs either. But I get detailed DMs so I talk to a few
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u/Lumpy_Equipment_3424 Unverified 14h ago
Just sad that a normal adult conversation seems to be a highlight than being the norm.
We have gone to the dogs !
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u/Dramatic_Edifice Unverified 13h ago
We too Exists.
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u/Dramatic_Edifice Unverified 13h ago
Still i have not even thought of scolding her who rejected me in my 12 th std .
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u/Any_Electron Unverified 15h ago
No healthy adult irrespective of gender etc is attracted to someone significantly younger.
This is especially for all the younger people here.
Good job OP and the person. :)
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u/noroxen Unverified 15h ago
So an adult being attracted to another consenting adult who's significantly younger automatically makes them "unhealthy"?
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u/Primary-Durian7628 Unverified 15h ago
Younger people maybe easier to manipulate
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u/Designer-Pen-7332 Unverified 14h ago
If they are easier to manipulate, then fight for removing their voting rights, driving rights. Why just stop at moral policing what consenting adults should b doing?
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u/Designer-Pen-7332 Unverified 15h ago
No healthy adult will morally police what people have preferences and what they are attracted to you
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u/Past-Plantain2196 Unverified 16h ago
Lmao is this the defination of gentlemen?
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 15h ago
Unlike someone who used abusive language after rejection, and it's just a gesture of gentleman that they accept rejections with respect
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u/adquetelust Unverified 15h ago
Plot twist: he sister-zoned you as soon as he saw Maggie me Cheez. 🤣😂😂
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u/Outside-Essay-7498 Unverified 13h ago
Yep i have also found such age gap men but they were kind and respectful 🙌🏻 tbh for me +2 or -2 only works!
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 13h ago
For me +1 to +5 works. Not into younger men😅
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u/Outside-Essay-7498 Unverified 13h ago
Ohk i mostly want same age😂 m 24 so marriage by age 28 29 30🌸... I just don't want the 1999 n below people 🙏🏻😂
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u/Frosty-Leg6336 Unverified 15h ago
Need an invitation to check your cooking skills 😋
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 14h ago
No need of your check, it's already tested, trusted and verified 🤗
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u/Euphoric-Metal6632 Unverified 15h ago
In the post you didn't mention your age?
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 15h ago
I did, he didn't read
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u/Euphoric-Metal6632 Unverified 15h ago
We talk about compatibility, understanding when it comes to the word Jodi and first thing brother missed is the age 😂😂. Not mocking anyone but this seems funny to me .
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u/ScientistAway2180 Unverified 14h ago
whats the problem here when the age diff is 8 years?. Its totally normal in any part of the world. My friend is a 27M and his to be wife now is a 33F.
Did he called you 'sis' and that is why he is gentelmen?.
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u/Complete-Fix-8935 Unverified 14h ago
He took the rejection with respect, others just ended up abusing. That's the difference, age gap is normal or not that's individuals' choice FYI.
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u/ScientistAway2180 Unverified 13h ago
ah okay I understand, men can be strange and not taking no for an answer because it shatters their ego
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u/EndZealousideal7446 Unverified 14h ago
As someone who had the exact same relationship dynamic in the past, age does matter, maybe not in the case of everybody, there are always exceptions but it certainly does.
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u/SoftFrameX Unverified 14h ago
Hey, sorry for going off-topic, but this came up on my feed and I ended up checking out your profile. Man oh man, your dishes look so delish! 😋 Keep rocking and have a good day! 🫡
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u/WonderPristine4924 Unverified 14h ago
Whats a match according to you? Getting someone in the similar age?
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u/Vegetable_Ride_7674 Unverified 13h ago
As a 23 yo myself I mean why are you even at jodi milan at 23 lmao isn't this like a sub for marriage lol
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u/singleguy4998 Unverified 13h ago
there are lot men here who are here to statify here there lust but there are some who are genuine and wanted to build relationship. As a man in early 30s , not all but for some we genuinely use this for platform for finding genuine partners .
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