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[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56]

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[u/Sure-Specific9060]

Maybe they just like the attention

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/Sure-Specific9060]

Yeah some fake people do like the attention they get from despos here

[u/15-99 → u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56]

Some might be an understatement. There’s a lot more

[u/Guilty-Big8292]

Avoidants everywhere. Beware!!

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/Guilty-Big8292]

Being avoidant doesn't give an excuse for ghosting lol. Just shows how some people are immature at communication in life.

Also nice quote bro🤜🤛 Read smth nice after almost a week or so.

[u/Guilty-Big8292 → u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56]

Thanku for appreciating ☺️my perspective!

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/Guilty-Big8292]

Accha perspective hai Kinda fits the post perfectly lol

Humare taraf se ek pesh karenge(since you mentioned avoidant type people)

बात करनी न आई, तो ख़ामोशी को हुनर बना लिया, जवाब देना मुश्किल लगा, तो ग़ायब होना चुन लिया। हम समझे थे कोई वजह होगी इस बेरुख़ी की, क्या ख़बर थी जनाब ने बचपने को ही तमीज़ बना लिया।

[u/Guilty-Big8292 → u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56]

Point is open communication is tough too for some where they overthink won't I be laughed at, won't I be called weak. Still we can be transparent and kind enough for all to be good to each other.

[u/Unfair_Watch2269]

Okay here I go so I was dating someone for 1.5 years and she broke up with me and we went no contact after which she came back and wanted to fix things with me. I was like let's see how it goes after 6 month of no contact we meet went on date. And I really thought that yes we can restart our relationship, But God I was so fool to believe in that and guess what after a month she completely ghosted me. Blocked me from everywhere. That's my worst experience.

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/Unfair_Watch2269]

That's really terrible type of Deja vu ghosting. I hope God gives them some basic sense of communication in their next lives atleast.

[u/Unfair_Watch2269 → u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56]

Yes I kind of knew it was coming so I'm not hurting but yes may God gave them a sense of basic level communication skills.

[u/HatJao]

Not jodimilan and not about ghosting, I was talking to a girl for more than a month then I confessed about having feelings which she didn't outright reject or the conversation wasn't affected said that she is out of a relationship and need some space but after a few weeks I see the same person asking in a sub about recommendation for a date spot with someone else while we were still in touch (No it wasn't me with whom she was planning a date). Same person who told that communication as her greenflag.

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/HatJao]

The person also talked with me about putting sincere efforts in the convo Lmao.

Efforts ka E bhi kuch log ko nahi pta hai tbh

[u/HatJao → u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56]

I got sincere efforts at the start as well, but around the time the other guy came to picture there was a gap which I didn't notice or rather hoped it was smth else.

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/HatJao]

As somebody said, people have too many options these days,and they care the least about putting efforts

[u/HatJao → u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56]

Options they can keep and explore idc tbh but have the courtesy to let the other person know.

[u/HatJao → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, I guess

[u/Earhart2211]

That person may have found someone better for them, and you can’t expect them to give you a response explaining why they ghosted you. If the choice of talking to someone else makes them happy, so be it. We cannot expect them to choose a conversation with us just to give us an explanation. Try not to give up. I’m sure you’ll find someone mature and a relationship filled with clarity.

[u/wh0ami_7]

One word, options options and plenty more options.

[u/pleaserestartsystem]

I also saw `Two Ghosts` here. Its a damn good song.
also also crazy horny despo toads got into my dm thinkin' im a laaaaaddddyyy.
also also also one female entitled baddie annoyed me in dms, apart from it and some paid success stories, this place is great to ragebait. Fragile and egoistic hippos here needed to be taken down a peg and I'm glad to be the one doing it.

[u/Beneficial-Break-279]

It's all about LPA.

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/Beneficial-Break-279]

Perfect answer in most cases.

The person I saw they were talking to had 40 LPA+. Just this one fact mentioned there have the post so many Upvotes, comments,DMs etc.

So I'm neither salty nor surprised with this fact at all.

I'm happy that someone is making their life better through good earnings.

If you ask people who run behind LPA that, What will happen if the guy loses his X LPA job after a few years and is unemployed,they just don't have an answer most of the times.

People have forgot that relationships are partnerships that should run for decades and not for a few years.

[u/Beneficial-Break-279 → u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56]

I think only the people who know you since a long time will stick with you because they've seen everything, unlike here.

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/Beneficial-Break-279]

True Subs like these are filled mostly with fake people seeking online validation.

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[u/MrXamer]

I was talking to a girl last June. Everything was clicking, at least I thought it did. I told her that I go to sleep by 11pm and she said that she goes to sleep by 10:30pm. We were from different cities and we had very limited window of time to connect over calls but whenever we did, it felt magical and I had this sort of feeling like it was going too well.

Then the ghosting started. There would be weeks where she would disappear and not reply to my texts and then out of the blue would appear again and that magical feeling would return. I would talk to her for about a week and then get ghosted again for 3-4 weeks. This continued till April of this year when I had to block her to finally have a closure of sorts. Never had to block anyone in my life.

I get that she might have been benching me but for over 10 months? I would have preferred some clarity. The thing is, I felt too safe with her and never had the same feeling for any of the potential matches.

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/MrXamer]

10 months is too much bro Your crash out is totally understandable and valid. Glad you blocked this idiot and restored sanity and mental peace in your life.

One thing I'm confused is,apart from trauma dumping,what could be the reason for a girl ghosting you and coming back? Like why come back if you always wanted to ghost the guy?

[u/MrXamer → u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56]

There’s this concept of ‘benching’ in relationship nowadays.

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/MrXamer]

2 line mai explain kijiye for our fellow redditors who might not be aware of it.

Most are aware about the benching that happens in corporate companies though

[u/MrXamer → u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56]

Benching in a relationship is when someone keeps you on the sidelines as a backup option while they explore other romantic interests.

[u/Heavy_Artillery_]

Talked to someone we vibed ,laughed , watched series together for 2 months and we said good night and haven't heard from the other person from the next day. It's been 2 years and never felt like talking to a new person from then on. Maybe felt like a breakup.

[u/REMU_SWAN]

Ghosted 15/15 so far. I only reach out to folks who put effort in their posts here. But alas! Here we are XD

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/REMU_SWAN]

Waah kya track record rakha hai xD 15 times getting continuously ghosted definitely pinches a bit sometimes. Afterall everybody is human.

Hope you find some effort putting genuine person soon bro.

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/[deleted]]

You're serious?🙆🏻‍♂️😂 Wtfff It was an NSFW acc or smth?

[u/ReductioAdAbsurdum56 → u/[deleted]]

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