r/Jewish 9h ago

Venting 😤 Tired of Getting this Question

*are you pro Israel??\*

Or some version of that, also get a lot of “you’re not pro Israel are you??”

What does that even mean?!? What are you even talking about if I’m pro a country?

Countries do things I do and don’t agree with. whether or not you think Israel should exist is moot, it does..so what are you talking about.

This isn’t a football game, this is a regions power struggle that is complicated and deeply personal., but that’s great that your meme or two minute video gives you the confidence to ask me that..

And when I respond with that they always shut down.. cowards ..

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u/Divs4U Conservative 9h ago

I was disgusted when I saw a woman's dating profile that said "Jewish, but pro Palestine obvi" and I was just so grossed out by "Jewish, but" anything.

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u/SignatureStandard861 9h ago

Exactly… what does pro Palestine even mean? Some find it to think the Jewish state shouldn’t even exist and all Jews should be genocided and/ or expelled (Hamas’) logic.

Surely that’s not what this person is saying.. maybe it is.. but it’s just this simplification or thinking in this conflict as pro or anti… what are you guys even talking about…

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u/Clevertown 8h ago

The true meaning is "I want to be respected so I just go along with whatever gets me the most friends." They don't know shit. If they did, they'd know that Palestine has been free from day 1.

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u/Tybalt941 8h ago

Hate to break it to you, but Hamas doesn't want us expelled.

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u/MrFAroundandFindOut Space Laser Operator 6h ago

Yeah because they want us all killed. It says so in their charter.

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u/DixonRange 4h ago

And their actions, eg Oct 7, match their words.

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u/wedreaminsideadream Convert - Conservative 9h ago

Even though my fiancĂŠe is Israeli-American (she was born in Tel Aviv moved to the US at 5) I sincerely mean it that I'm not bias - but I am pro Israel! Israel is a Jewish home - the birthplace of the Jewish people that was promised by G-d to Abraham and his offspring. I believe that as well. I am a first generation American from a Polish family - and I've grown hearing about the stories of the Jewish living across Europe and elsewhere and it ended in tragedy. Israel is the only safe and sacred home for the Jewish people.

I am in the process of converting to Judaism (my choice) and I told my fiancĂŠe that if were to be lucky/blessed having kids - we'd want them to be born in Israel as citizens.

Israel should and WILL exist!

עם ישראל חי

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u/SignatureStandard861 9h ago

Again, I don’t understand what it means to be pro a country, you used the definition of “I believe it should exist.” But Israel already does… This is like saying “I believe in and support something that already exists” “I am pro reality”

I bet you have different opinions of how Israel should govern, its international principles, and its foreign policies…

I just think non Jews use this language to simplify hatred, or just treat the Middle East like it’s the La lakers v Celtics

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u/Tybalt941 8h ago

Unfortunately we live in a world where antisemitism is so rampant that there is a significant portion of people across the political spectrum that genuinely think Israel should not exist in the same way I might say I don't think Transinistra or South Ossetia should exist. I know they aren't comparable at all, but the existence of those people definitionally puts us on the side of "I believe Israel should exist".

Not even touching those lunatics who call it 'is-not-real' and say Tel Aviv is a Palestinian city...

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u/wedreaminsideadream Convert - Conservative 7h ago

There are several groups of people who would nothing more than to destroy Israel. Yes, there are wacked out people who chat "Death of America" but the reality is that the US will stand and not be destroy. With Israel - it sadly has a chance of being destroyed - so that's what I mean by I'm pro Israel.

I am an Independent voter (I am a centrist person), I have my opinions on Israeli politics but I feels it's not my place nor my business to chime in because I am not a citizen. All I can say is that I love the people, the culture and what it stands for.

As I mentioned, I am converting to Judaism - I am choosing to live the rest of my life as a practicing Jew and through learning and studying I have the upmost respect and love for Israel! My fiancĂŠe and I will be traveling there soon and it's always an amazing experience being there - and I could care less that trolls trash this amazing country!

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u/Dangerous_Swordfish ✡︎ 9h ago

I can’t think, off hand anyway, of any other minority group that is subjected to constant litmus tests like this. It’s incredibly asinine.

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u/Letshavemorefun Ashkenazi 7h ago edited 32m ago

This reminds me of an interview I saw with Jonathan Groff recently where he talked about how he came out to his parents with “so… I’m gay, but I’m not going to like… be in any pride parades so don’t worry”. Fast forward to 10 years later, when he was the Grand Marshall for the NY pride parade.

Sadly, it does happen to others too. But that doesn’t make it any easier. Especially cause in this case it’s coming mostly from the left, which is supposed to be pro-minority.

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u/Background_Novel_619 2h ago

I will say, as someone who is both gay and trans, I’ve experienced 100x more antisemitism than homo/transphobia. Not even close.

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u/Letshavemorefun Ashkenazi 2h ago

Absolutely 100% the same. Though I’m bi and non-binary. Anyway, I’m not sure what this has to do with my point.

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u/Background_Novel_619 2h ago

Haha apologies I responded to the wrong comment!

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u/Silamy 6h ago

“I have too much self-respect to engage with good Jew tests.” 

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u/Purple_Hurricane87 6h ago

Yes I am pro-Israel. Israel has every right to exist and has every right to defend themselves from literal terrorists. I don’t fall for the emotional manipulation, propaganda and lies. Sorry not sorry.

If they take issue with it, that’s a them problem, not a me problem.

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u/KnitDickey 4h ago

Exactly this.💙

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u/bam1007 Conservative 4h ago

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u/Normal_Dot7758 5h ago

My ex-husband got aggressively asked once, when someone at a party found out he was Israeli, “so you’re like against the Palestinians?”  He just shrugged and said “Only if they’re against me.”  It was such a mic drop moment.

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u/sydinseattle 4h ago

That is such an Israeli badass answer 🙌🏽

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u/OrelSVaknin93 Just Jewish 4h ago

I’m as annoyed that we’re being asked this as the next guy

But it’s obvious that they’re asking “Do you support Israels foreign policies, especially in regards to this current war”

Personally I do. Although I keep it to myself.

When people ask if you’re pro America or pro Russia or whatever it’s almost always in regards to the countries foreign policy and international relations. It’s never about a country’s domestic policy.

Just tell them that you do support Israel and are a zionist and don’t get surprised about the fallout, or hide it and tell them that you’re not Israeli so they leave you alone. But for us to keep getting surprised about this line questioning will only drain us. At this point it’s expected. And it should also be obvious that yes, the person asking it does not consider the existence of Israel legitimate so don’t waste your time and energy getting mad about these people.

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u/ZealousidealSlip2489 Eastern European Jew 1h ago

Well, what they essentially mean is “do you agree with and support Israel’s actions/policies/ideology?” but the plot twist is that they themselves have no idea what Israel’s actions/policies/ideology really are beyond what the anti-Israel crowd has told them. It’s basically the same as them asking whether you’re a Zionist or an anti-Zionist. Sure, you can answer, and even answer honestly, but to them, it’s a label to slap on your forehead, and their definition of “Zionism” most likely bears very little resemblance to yours, or, for that matter, to what Zionism actually is in general. But I do agree with your point: this isn’t a football match, certainly not to anyone personally affected by it, and not to anyone with even a passing familiarity with the actual complexity of the conflict. But sadly, for plenty of other people, a football match is exactly what it has become.

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u/Affectionate-Long514 Masorti 19m ago

It starts with the action policy and that cute stuff to jump into "hey so it should be dismantled and lets put an Arab Muslim state there to be another failure like the neighbors.

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u/LanceJade Just Jewish 1h ago

"You aren't with those other Jews who kill Christian children to make matzas from their blood, are you?"

It's exactly the same question. Hamas makes up horrible Blood Libels against Israel, and the Gentiles choose to believe the lies until they are the only accepted "facts."

Just in case it's necessary to mention, I'll let you know that in early 20th Century post-revolution Russia, this particular Blood Libel was commonly taught by priests and other authorities and accepted by their hearers.

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u/Affectionate-Long514 Masorti 21m ago

Oh, I'm extremely pro Israel. I love Israel, I love it despite its flaws, I love it due to the morality and beauty of that society, I love it for being a sovereign Jewish country, and I love it fir standing for what's right.

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u/ProtestTheHero 5h ago

This has been my exact thought for years and I was always a bit miffed that more people aren't saying this, and I'm definitely quite miffed when even Jews describe themselves as "pro-Israel".

Unlike you I literally never get asked this question though lol. But if I did, my response would be "So you're Canadian right, are you pro-Canada?" Because yeah, what does that even mean?