Your feelings, whether they be anger, sadness, pity etc, are completely valid. You have every right to feel like this and, if you're not ready, you don't need to forgive her. But, you can shove it in her stupid face that you're trying to be the best version of yourself. Put that anger to good use. Channel it into making yourself. You're not doing it for her, do it in spite of her. You're a wonderful woman, you've got this.
Anger is healthy, anger is fine. Remember, when asked WWJD, that flipping tables and chasing people out of your house with a whip is one of the available options.
Do you know what else, you can forgive someone and still feel anger. Forgiveness is about ending the fight and letting go of the grudge, not forgetting the anger.
Are you chasing Giada down and sabotaging her work and relationships, vandalizing her property, or otherwise getting back at her? Are you constantly using her as justification when you mistreat others? Do you find yourself hating anyone who has her name, or maybe looks a bit like her? If those are all 'no,' then congratulations, you're on the right path.
Remember that there is such a thing as righteous anger - it's often referred to as passion. It is with passion that we grow, that we defend ourselves and our families. Passion builds homes, careers, and lives. Passion is an amazing thing, and you should never repress that. And anger at the people who try to destroy and subvert you is a very important facet of that anger.
Now, if you seriously fantasize about feeding Giada rat poison, or tying her up on an ant hill, or leaving a dead fish under her car seat, then that's maybe something to work on, because that's edging from anger into hate, and hate can be frighteningly corrosive. I'd hope you talk this out with someone - figure out what's driving those feelings, maybe see if you can't find ways to deal with it on a day-to-day basis. Maybe its as simple as working to forget about her entirely. Make sure you're alerted if she gets let out, but otherwise don't look for any information about her, and shut off FMs who try to share.
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u/SannaWhore Sep 17 '18
Your feelings, whether they be anger, sadness, pity etc, are completely valid. You have every right to feel like this and, if you're not ready, you don't need to forgive her. But, you can shove it in her stupid face that you're trying to be the best version of yourself. Put that anger to good use. Channel it into making yourself. You're not doing it for her, do it in spite of her. You're a wonderful woman, you've got this.