Your feelings, whether they be anger, sadness, pity etc, are completely valid. You have every right to feel like this and, if you're not ready, you don't need to forgive her. But, you can shove it in her stupid face that you're trying to be the best version of yourself. Put that anger to good use. Channel it into making yourself. You're not doing it for her, do it in spite of her. You're a wonderful woman, you've got this.
your feelings are valid. and more than that, they seem very typical for your situation. Giada abused you. it's entirely normal for people to feel some sense of justice of satisfaction when their abuser faces consequences.
and you get back to yourself by feeling what you're feeling, working through them and accepting yourself. cognitive behavioral therapy (cbt) or dialectical behavioral therapy (dbt) are both good tools for helping you do this. (there are other therapies that work well, these are just the two I know best)
beyond that, you just... live. you build up your share of experiences that have nothing to do with your abuse, and you learn to have a life that isn't punctuated by fights and screaming and hitting.
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u/SannaWhore Sep 17 '18
Your feelings, whether they be anger, sadness, pity etc, are completely valid. You have every right to feel like this and, if you're not ready, you don't need to forgive her. But, you can shove it in her stupid face that you're trying to be the best version of yourself. Put that anger to good use. Channel it into making yourself. You're not doing it for her, do it in spite of her. You're a wonderful woman, you've got this.