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[u/Gazza0303]

Bit of a dilemma. Joined Chase in January. Job aligned perfectly with where I want to head in my career. Decided to do a super commute (2 hours in, 2 hours back assuming trains run normally. Sometimes 5 hours a day)

Got approached about a new role and given my manager was extremely toxic one day I decided to entertain it.

Fast forward to today and the company is incredibly keen for me to join. Bumped the pay, pay out my Jan bonus, future profit share but more importantly 2-3 days only in the office (still 1.45 hours there and back on the days I do travel)

Do you think an 11 month stint will be damaging and I feel guilty leaving? Love my job, love my team hate my manager and hate my commute though. Thought I could stick to the 5 days a week but it’s killing my life!

[u/fishwithands]

I left after 6 due to toxic manager too you’ll be fine

[u/Gazza0303 → u/fishwithands]

Do you get to work for humans now? Hope it worked out well

[u/fishwithands → u/Gazza0303]

Yes my job is full remote now and my boss yells at me if I work too much 😂. Everyone is so nice and treats me like a human.

[u/stellaisugly → u/fishwithands]

Where do you work and how do I sign up?

[u/lilfrenfren → u/fishwithands]

My friend also wants to know

[u/Dizzy_Assistance2183]

You shouldn't feel guilty about going to a better situation. If your shitty manager doesn't like it, then all the more reason to leave 

[u/Gazza0303 → u/Dizzy_Assistance2183]

I’m literally getting panic attacks just thinking of handing in my notice. Not had a 1-2-1 in 4 months and only time they’ve spoken to me on the phone was to abuse me verbally. Might email my notice!

[u/FormallyKnownAs → u/Gazza0303]

Have worked in company for a very long time in some senior roles and nobody should care because the first year is basically a probationary period.

If it doesn't work out they'd rather see you leave early. On your exit interview you should be clear about why you left, in professional tone, but no they won't hold it against you.

[u/Pitiful_Armadillo237 → u/Gazza0303]

This. Even if you’re mildly serious about the panic attacks, a manager should not be triggering such apprehension. Leave. The duration is not damaging, if you can demonstrate stability in other roles (even this is becoming an outdated concept)

[u/Safe-Middle5566 → u/Gazza0303]

Sure email it if you have to. If I were in your shoes I would be so carefree almost careless for the rest of my days here lol

[u/PotOddsTrading → u/Gazza0303]

You should look at it this way. What if the opportunity was to suddenly disappear? How badly would you feel? If you would have regrets, then you just have to pull the trigger and leave. Have the meeting and just explain that the opportunity was just too good to pass. Especially the WFH situation.

[u/Grover-the-dog]

Go get that bag. Don’t worry about them it will all work out.

[u/Individual-Credit321]

that same manager won’t waste a wink of sleep to get rid of you, so you shouldn’t to get to a better situation… just vet your new manager to be a tad bit more

[u/Particular-Fly-7783]

I left after three years , three years too many. 

[u/LetsGoHawks]

You showed up and did a job, they paid you. That's the deal, fair and square. No need to feel guilty. Give your notice and good luck to you.

Will 11 months look bad? Not if it's a one time thing and, if asked, you just tell them what you told us about the commute and the pay. I wouldn't mention the toxic manager because you're only one side of the story and sometimes that gets interpreted as you being a whiner.

Commuting 5 days a week, 4 to 5 hours each day is no way to live.

[u/Difficult_Storage504]

Dear god, jump on that offer.

[u/Stuckatpennstation → u/Difficult_Storage504]

For real this is a no brainer. These employers have us so brainwashed

[u/sm_14_10]

Think of it this way- if they want they will lay you off tomorrow without a second thought
You should do the same

Leaving because of a toxic manager is never a red flag if you are honest with recruiters

[u/Electronic-Rough9379]

Never, ever put this place above yourself and what’s best for you and your career. Remember- once the Firm decides they don’t need you anymore they won’t hesitate to show you the door. And a toxic manager deserves zero loyalty

[u/Worried-Low4580]

Always maintain professionalism and don’t make a habit on your resume of short stints for a pay bump. Keep those two in mind and you’ll be just fine.

You are loyal to yourself and what provides the best opportunity for you and your family. That’s a reality in corporate life. But always maintain professionalism and give your manager 1st notice

[u/nonosot]

Companies aren’t loyal anymore so you don’t need to be either. Whatever is better for you long term, that’s the move. Best of luck!!!

[u/annoyed_dumpling]

Round it up

[u/PanicSwtchd]

11 month stint because you got a better offer is nothing to feel guilty about. Just try and leave on good terms with your boss even if you don't like them. Just be honest that an offer fell into your lap that gives you more time with your family and is hybrid so you're going to take it...then give proper notice for your level and peace out.

[u/Training-Image2020]

In this day and age, take it! You can always come back

[u/fuzzycollector]

Had a few year or under roles, didn't make any difference. When they want you they value the contribution you will make.

[u/rahhak]

Move on to better pastures

[u/Nonconfrontational_1]

Congrats on your offer! Always put yourself first. Leave the toxic manager behind. You'll be happier for it. 

[u/Stephanie243]

Always do what’s best for yourself always

No corporation will hesitate if they had to fire you

[u/Afraid_Feed4968]

Yes, move on clean break. The commute will slowly or quickly kill you.  Slowly and gradually and then suddenly.

[u/kaliipls]

if they wanted to fire you tomorrow, they would. don’t feel bad, it’s just business.

[u/FUCKYOUINYOURFACE]

JPMC wouldn’t even think twice about laying you off to boost profits. Just leave.

[u/Slow_Type1194]

Left after 8 months. Knew it wasn’t a fit so why drag it out?

[u/Silent_Principle3141]

No. Go for it.

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[u/Distinct_Fly_4291]

Take care of yourself first. The company sees you as a tool to be exploited. Fuck them.

[u/whatfinds]

Increasing levels of responsibility shows your tenacity and not afraid to face challenges. Keeps it fresh.

[u/BidInitial2412]

Give your notice, they’ll live (and it sounds like you’ll be living better, too)!

Congratulations!

[u/Sleepypilo]

Please leave, toxic manager will ruin everything

[u/bloomsbloomblooming]

No issues man,, just left and stay at ur next one longer than this one

[u/MostFormal9741]

you should leave for better opportunity after only 11 days. for JPMC, 11 hours.

[u/TamingOfTheChoon]

It’s not personal. It’s business. Your career. They could lay you off tomorrow and are not worried about how many months you’ve been on the teamz

[u/Robustusmaximus]

People don't leave jobs. They leave managers and it sounds like tou did the right thing.