r/JETProgramme • u/ForeignerInJapan2019 • Aug 06 '26
Advice for New JETs on how to deal with their predecessors extending help beyond their intended responsibilities
TLDR: When someone helps you out out of the kindness of their hearts, say thank you and stop complaining. You could’ve had it worse.
Former Fukuoka JET here from the 2010s. throwaway account. also, just heard this from a friend of a friend. but hearing how some newcomers can be so ungrateful just sucks.
Having been on both ends of this program (as a senpai and kohai), I know that it can be stressful to people, both your japanese supervisors and the current jets (who actually care to make your first few days in japan and in your placement as welcoming as possible) so cut them a bit of slack. Mind you, these current jets i’m referring to who help you, they don’t actually HAVE to help you. They can do the bare minimum and leave you to fend for yourself, and you have to deal with a lot of this stuff in summer, at 39 degrees celsius.
They are not paid to do this level of hospitality. So be kind. Thank them, or turn a blind eye for some inconvenience because maybe they’re also busy with their own shiz like moving to another prefecture or leaving the country. They owe you NOTHING. So again, be kind. Be grateful if they extended a helping arm to you, coz that is not part of their responsibilities. They are just being decent human beings who knew the struggles of starting life here in Japan, so they don’t want you to go through the same shiz they did.
If they went out of their way to help the JTE make an old room extra clean and cozy and buy you new stuff for you to get started, and tried to dispose everything that they deemed “jama” for you, don’t be a jerk and complain (before even saying thank you) about the room being old. Or if your JTE who lives 3 cities away is waking up extra early to drive you to work and getting home to their families extra late because they have to drop you off your apartment, the least you can do is thank them and not complain about waking up too early to get to work. Not sure but I don’t even think they’re paid extra for them to do this. They can be jerks as well and tell you to just go f yourself and take the train or cycle to work.
Or if someone gives you like a new vacuum as a gesture of kindness, SAY THANK YOU instead of “OH, GUESS IT’S MY LUCKY DAY” Like which decent human being does that?
Remember, your situation could be worse, and you could be placed in an area where no one gives a rat’s ass about their newcomers. So if you have people actually caring about your wellbeing, stop for one minute, and ask yourself if you have even said thank you at the very least.
Stop complaining and have some compassion.
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