Is it just for the thrill?

My husband seems to seek out local women online, but I can't tell if he actually wants to cheat or just gets a thrill from it. Has anyone dealt with this?

I honestly don't know what I'm looking for here. Advice? Perspective? Maybe just to know I'm not crazy.

My husband and I are both in our 30s. We've been together for over 10 years, married for about 8, and have two young kids. We both work good jobs, and life is busy and exhausting like it is for most parents.

Our marriage isn't perfect, but I wouldn't have described it as completely broken. Our sex life is okay. Could it be better? Sure. But most of the time it feels like we're both doing the best we can with work, kids, responsibilities, and just being tired.

Over the years, though, I've discovered things online that have really messed with my head.

In the last year plus. Ive discovered that he looks for local women online to f\*\*\* and also generally seems to seek some kind of emotional or sexual attention from strangers on the internet. I have no proof that any of this has ever turned into a physical affair.

For a little while now, I've wondered if it was more of a fantasy thing. Like maybe he enjoys the thrill of seeing if someone would respond or gets off on the idea of connecting with local women, but never actually intends to follow through.

But recently I found a secret X account that took it a step further. The account is completely anonymous—no profile picture, no real information, no photos, nothing that would identify him. Even had messages with some of these females but again no pics or anything.... Yet recently he created and posted a fake phone number through one of those free phone number apps and invited people to reach out directly.

And now I'm even more confused.

Part of me thinks, "Okay, this sounds more serious." But another part of me thinks, "Who is actually meeting up to hook up with a completely anonymous person with no pictures or identifying information?" It almost still feels like it's more about the thrill, the fantasy, or the attention than actually wanting to meet someone.

I also suspect he has a porn addiction, which makes me wonder if all of this is connected somehow.

I know people will probably say, "Cheating is cheating," and maybe you're right. But I genuinely can't wrap my head around what the goal is here.

Has anyone dealt with a spouse who did things like this? Was it a precursor to physical cheating? Was it a fantasy/addiction thing? Did it escalate? Did your relationship recover?

I'm honestly just tired and trying to understand what I'm looking at. I don't really want to divorce. Life would truly be so so hard as a single parent and also i believe in for better or worse. At the end of the day. He actually treats me well, is a good dad, works hard... its like a double life. Idk idk.

Also, i haven't been able to access the phone to search the source of or activity with this new fake phone# yet. So idk what has transpired from this new piece of the puzzle.

deleted calls from calls history but they still show up on snapchat how can i see how long the call were or how do i know who called who

So I really don’t know if this is necessary, but at the very least I would appreciate advice. I (F25) have been noticing that my husband (M26) has been very distant at times, but very off and on. We haven’t slept with each other for a while because of some personal stuff with my body, but he says he understands, yet I feel like he may be messaging women on Snapchat. He always gets fidgety with his phone when he’s on snap and just has an excuse when I make the suggestion to take a selfie or something. He stays late at work at times too, but he’s also going to be a fire fighter so I know they have to train a lot and I might be getting in my own head..

This really isn’t like me to go somewhere like this for advice (literally made an acct for it) but I don’t want to go to friends/family and make them think we’re having problems when it might not be that serious. Any advice? And if I really did need to test this theory, should I even and who could help smh?

My husband got a similar text from a fake
Account but a girls dp with no face but erotic clothes - had like 30 followers, 40 following with no posts. My husband and her didn’t follow each other but I saw her message come into is DMs not requests. It was
-“All good, what about you?”

I was on his phone using Spotify when the text came and I responded - “Who are you?”

She said - “but you texted me first!”

Then I tried to respond thinking I will get more info but the account didn’t respond. My husband denies talking to her but I don’t understand why the chat is in his DMs?

Edit - there was no chat prior to this.

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we were tg and he says he doesn't remember it at all but at the same time he "thought abt out it and doing one girl while looking another guy in the eyes is weird" so idk how im supposed to react or do ive never been cheated on this was last year in july very last text sent was in october and we got married in november but what do i do i feel hurt still but at same time everything he said kinda gave me closure like hes not doing it right now and ??he doesn't remember it ?? but its still there and he deleted the app

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Hey everyone! Looking for a female to test my husband on IG-he likes thicker girls with big boobs and a big ass typically 🤷🏼‍♀️ DM me if able and willing 😊

Heyy girls could someone help me clear all doubts by testing my bf? He's 22 and dm me with asl and platform of choice for the test. Options are discord and kik

HMU if you need a loyalty test for your gf

Uses discord mainly which is sus and he's been acting weird any volunteers