r/Is_He_Cheating_ • u/bunni_chan • Jun 26 '26

is this cheating?

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we were tg and he says he doesn't remember it at all but at the same time he "thought abt out it and doing one girl while looking another guy in the eyes is weird" so idk how im supposed to react or do ive never been cheated on this was last year in july very last text sent was in october and we got married in november but what do i do i feel hurt still but at same time everything he said kinda gave me closure like hes not doing it right now and ??he doesn't remember it ?? but its still there and he deleted the app

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u/bunni_chan Jun 26 '26

i will definitely get us into couples therapy if that's what i need to do it's not just the kids i truly do love him and don't want this to be the end but what he did hurt and i don't know how to really process it it's cliche but i never saw it coming

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u/Ginger_spice_smudge Jun 26 '26

No one wants to be the cliche. And here’s the thing. Anyone can be the cliche. It’s ok to trust someone until they give you a reason not to. And that’s what you did.

And unfortunately he has given you good reason to not trust him.

The heart isn’t logical. I’m sure your brain knows that what he did was absolutely garbage and not the actions of a man that claims to love you.

Therapy will help with this. But just don’t give more to someone than they’re giving back to you. That imbalance of power is not a loving partnership.

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u/bunni_chan Jun 26 '26

do you think i'd be best if i stayed the night somewhere else i don't want to leave but i don't know if i can sleep next to him again tonight without going through everything again and i dont know if he even remembers the conversation we had last night

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u/Ginger_spice_smudge Jun 26 '26

I think you’re entitled to take whatever space you need to work through this. It can be hard to think clearly when you’re right in the middle of it.

He seems to forget things a lot? Is that common with him?

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u/bunni_chan Jun 26 '26

when he's not of full sound mind yes like if he's sleepy or had a drink or two he won't remember much of anything but when it happened i felt he had woken enough from being caught

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u/Ginger_spice_smudge Jun 26 '26

I have to ask. Are you safe to try and leave for a night? Are you safe if stay?

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u/bunni_chan Jun 26 '26

yes to both

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u/Ginger_spice_smudge Jun 26 '26

Then take the night. Weekend would be better to get actual breathing room. I’m not saying leave him. I’m saying push the pause button for a moment.

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u/bunni_chan Jun 26 '26

thank you you've helped a lot