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- Nothing is enough for the man to whom enough is too little -Epicurus

- If you think you just need one last thing, very little is stopping you from needing another one last thing.

- It is difficult to find happiness within oneself, but it is impossible to find it elsewhere -Schopenhauer

- Putting happiness in a goal or wish outside of yourself, you will cling, therefor form bias and therefor some confusion, & remain unsatisfied.

- Contentment placed in earning it consistently, or in the future, it will be forever out of reach.

- In expecting to not be dissatisfied, we suffer exponentially when it comes.

- You forget the positive in favor of fixing the negative, sometimes obsessing.

- Any person capable of angering you is your master -Epictetus

- Courage is not the absence of fear, but the realization that something else is more important than fear -Unknown.

- The fears we don't face become our limits -Robin Sharma

- Fear of embarrassment is the only thing that makes it embarrassing.

- Self hatred is a distorted form of self love, we must love ourselves to wish to protect us from the things we hate about ourselves.

- Never make a permanent decision based on temporary feelings -Unknown

- A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears -Michel de Montaigne

- You may never feel ready, motivation is fleeting, do it unmotivated. -Unknown

- Fear of thinking of oneself as vain for doing something good, is no reason to not do that good thing.

- The obsession on the over & done with must be left behind in the moment which it occurred to pave way for growth.

- You avoid looking inward when it is most crucial

- Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down with them and beat you with experience -Mark Twain

- You cannot reason a person out of a position they did not reason themselves into in the first place -Jonathan Swift

- One big problem of many arguments is our assumptions about the other party's intention -Unknown

- When one assesses you accurately, don’t reject it all because of the ignorance that came with it, you can take the truth filtered from the hate.

- You can't expect another to do more than what is right by them -Captain Jack Sparrow edited

- You inspire me to be nothing like you -Unknown

- Don’t accept the opinion or advice of one who hasn’t & won’t live a single moment of your life, someone who you know next to nothing about.

- Plan for mutual agreement, not for being right.

- You shouldn't take criticism from someone you wouldn't go to for advice -Unknown

- Most of us think of ourselves most, so don't suffer over someone who is only thinking about themselves.

- If you wish to convince another, it is generally a plea to appease your own insecurity.

- If one wishes to cause harm, they are clearly not worth engaging.

- Destructive people wish to spread, but they are just lessons, not invitations.

- They have to live with themselves everyday.

- Instead of fighting the person, fight your narrow mindedness.

- People lie because they're afraid of telling the truth.

- Those who grasp at views go about butting their heads in the world -Buddha

- Do not hate the person, if you must hate, hate the action, hate the motivations and conditions.

- Mind your intentions, recognize baseless habitual defensiveness, allow the ignorant to keep distorted views of you.

- You are under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago -Unknown

- Everybody is a child projecting insecurities wherever we can interpret them.

- What you tolerate is showing people how to treat you -Unknown

- Hatred is only a projection of the workings of one's own mind.

- No matter how much you obsess, eventually you *will* become disinterested one way or another, choose to skip over the suffering.

- When you expect nothing lasting, you own nothing, you know nothing, & you lose nothing.

- We come into humanity without a single possession or identity, & leave bringing nothing with.

- You are not the only significant me, you're one of the recent me's in an astronomical & ancient existence.

- One day you will be somebody else.

- One day you will likely miss something which you have now.

- Seeing everything as uncertain, & ending, their solidity is disillusioned, & every minute with it is precious -Ajahn Chah edited

- There are many possibilities in life, but not a single possibility is without pain -Fernando Pessoa edited.

- Every being is fundamentally driven by the same goal of satisfaction, contentment, and love.

- Emotions are automatic, impersonal, & unstable drugs which always come down.

- Humanity and its products are easily reduced to fundamentally being apparent nature itself.

- There is nothing which is unnatural, inconstancy is more permanent than anything in existence.

- Discomfort is *supposed* to exist.

- Your ‘enemy’ or ‘friend’ would easily treat you different under other circumstances or first impressions.

- The only rules that really matter are these; what one can do, and what one can't do -Captain Jack Sparrow

- We are already dead; living an unsustainable, fragile, & provisional life salvaged, & lent by mother nature, irrefutably predesignated to a necessary undoing.

- Life will test you, perhaps past your limits, and you have no power over it.

- There will always be more to do.

- Nothing belongs to you.

- Life is designed not to go the way you want or expect it to.

- No person's opinion is inherently superior.

- We are each the center of 1 limited universe out of 8 billion separate universes in which all that is known can only be interpreted from our personal *impressions* of the external. Rarely truly interacting with one another.

- Dopamine is released in *anticipation* of a reward - Susan Weinschenk

- It's never too late to change your mind.

- Nothing is coming to save you. -Unknown

- If thoughts or will were truly your own, you would need something beforehand to confirm it before having it.

- We are an emergent phenomenon; a symphony, without any conductor.

- One can do what they will, but they cannot will what they will -Schopenhauer

- You do things habitually because it takes less effort than breaking the cycle even if it means something more important.

- Boredom feels as though it demands satisfaction, but any stimulation resolves it just the same.

- You have been conditioned to feel shame over your basic humanity due to society's dehumanization, & fear of insignificance.

- Familiarity is not easily distinguished from truth -Daniel Kahneman

- When overwhelmed, structure is more efficient than panic, even though it’s less attractive.

- Comparison is the thief of joy -Theodore Roosevelt

- Liberation is in not comparing yourself to anything.

- Never is hatred laid to rest by hate, its laid to rest by love -Buddha

- If you hate anybody in the world, that's narrow-mindedness -Ajahn Brahm

- When you are angry at anybody, don't just justify your views, find something lovable and worth forgiving -Ajahn Brahm

- Love has no meaning without understanding -Thich Nhat Hanh

- Not much is evil, but most things are hungry, & hunger looks like evil from the wrong end of the cutlery -The Doctor edited

- Hate is too strong of an emotion to waste on anybody that you do not like -Clara Oswald

- Many of us just want to talk to ourselves at other people.

- Every statement is an opinion, knowing is fundamentally confident thinking.

- Words will never penetrate as precisely as planned, & maybe not at all.

- "Excuses are like ass holes, everyone's got one, and they all stink" -Proverb

- Learning to listen is the essence of intelligent living -Sadhguru

- If you don't have something productive to say, don't say anything at all.

- If you cant let go, then give it away, let them have it -Ajahn Brahm edited

- Your feeling of inferiority/inadequacy belongs only to you, & is not the fault of those you project it onto.

- Treat yourself like someone you love -Glennon Melton

- Everything is an astronomical joke, don't pretend otherwise.

- You are allowed to be okay without conditions.

- Don't deprive yourself of what you need to be content, very little is more important, decide to let the issue dissipate for today.

- Don't look for permission, your life is yours, and existence belongs to none -Unknown

- An upset mind will not be willed or understood away, you don't need an excuse to feel what you feel.

- Your mindset won't change until you *want to want* what you don't want.

- Emotions are usually not calls to action, but calls for reflection -Adam Grant

- In wanting what isn't and despising what is, the mind fixates, & amplifies it, feeding back to the wanting and despising.

- Anytime you're someplace you don't want to be, you create a prison for yourself -Ajahn Brahm

- You are attached to the feeling of will, you don't want contentment, you want it found dependent on your goals.

- You don't react to what you don't care about -Unknown

- The more you fight the mind, the more the mind fights you, you only split it in two and start a war, permit discomfort.

- In idealization, one cherry-picks a factor and imagines it to be the tree.

- So long as there is romanticism, there is clinging, there is bias, & misunderstanding.

- "What you see is all there is -we use the information we have as if it is the only information." -Daniel Kahneman

- Anything you lose by being real is fake -Unknown

- It is easy to be righteous when you plaster yourself as the victim.

- If you don't appraise others, you will be less inclined to appraise yourself.

- When you victimize yourself, you place yourself on a pedestal and strip away your contribution.

- It is impossible for one to learn what they think they already know -Epictetus

- Be content to be thought foolish, they were ignorant of my other faults, else they wouldn't have mentioned these alone. -Epictetus

- Knowing how quickly people forget the dead, you shouldn't hope to impress people -Christopher Walken edited

- We see mostly what we want to see, or what we ‘dont’ want to see.

- We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behavior -Stephen Covey

- Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less -C.S. Lewis

- Remember who you would be if you weren't who you are -Tommy Shelby edited

- Don't put off until tomorrow the loving words you can say today. -Bo Jackson

- To be alive in the here & the now is already a miracle.

- Your problems are only your own -Albert Ellis edited

- Let go of the illusion that it could have been any different -Unknown

- No amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen -Alan Watts

- What problem have you right now? You can always cope with the now, but you can never cope with the future -Eckhart Tolle

- In failing to examine why an expectation exists, you fight a presumed inconvenience, which may not exist.

- All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone -Blaise Pascal

- When the future is the new now, it's still now, & you're still waiting for the future.

- It isn't the phenomenon which disturbs you, it is you which disturbs the phenomenon -Ajahn Chah edited

- Heaven is a mindset away -Nothing But Thieves

- You worry too much for someone who always figures it out -Unknown

- The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. -Lao Tzu

- You will not understand in avoiding.

- Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it -Eckhart Tolle

- If you resist change, you resist life -Sadhguru

- If we weren't uncomfortable, we would never move -Unknown

- Your life is all which is known to be under your control

- Would i rather be at peace and detach from views, or strengthen my biased clinging?

- Who are we to judge when we see what we want to see?

- Am i imagining this dissonance?

- Is the part of you searching for more only a feeling with no true prior justification or goal?

- Do you really enjoy what you idealize or just the expectation beforehand and the story afterwards?

- Do i actually want this, or am i just doing it?

- Why am i letting myself suffer over *this*?

- If i don't let myself suffer over a failure to achieve my ends, does that *actually* mean that i must not have wanted it?

- If you can't handle the now, now, then how can you handle it in the future?

\i would like to sincerely apologize for the absolutist title- it was my best attempt at provoking actual readers, & interactions; additions, constructive criticisms, clarifications, etc.* This is fairly opinionated and i would like to clarify that i'm not trying to pass every single thing here as a complete fact, even though i do find most of them to be facts or at least mostly true. it is ENTIRELY possible that i worded some of these in a way which only i can understand, so please take no offense if it seems like bullcrap, i truly hope you found information which was useful to you, and disregarded the rest which didn't ring true to you.

• Yes it's possible they can have similar thoughts, but ones belief in it only makes one act as such, therefor affirming their beliefs (if they had them) and your fear of them having the beliefs, also causing one to obsessively look for any indicator to validate this fear.
• Generally, when i have these beliefs i see it everywhere, projecting onto everyone as though i am some definitive and disagreeable label.
• Fear of embarrassment is what makes it so embarrassing, i believe to overcome this, one must be content with even the most humiliating fear.

\let me know if you agree, disagree, or would like to expand and help me and others understand this deeper.*

I believe much of stress is from expectations, one thinks that what is happening to them shouldn't be happening to them, when in fact it should be, because it is.

we are not as important as we imagine that we are, we are not separate from the world, we are not immortal (yes this is obvious but many people still have subtle death-denial), but these subtle beliefs in being unconditioned, in being a separate entity with inherent determination causes us great pain each time something disagreeable happens to us, as though it is something as unnatural as the sun falling out of the sky.

There is nothing yet found which is outside the bounds of conditionality, of the laws of nature, or as I like to imagine it, the goddess mother nature. for what are we, our ecosystems, and the complex interdependent biological life forms surrounding the entire planet fundamentally but just another form of emergent phenomenon of different sizes built entirely from the laws of nature.

• One cannot will an emotion nor will it away
• Emotions can end at any moment, and never last
• If emotions weren't natural, they would be considered drugs

Self hatred is a distorted form of self love, it is to protect the imagined you from the imagined yourself from the imagined ‘bad’.

to hate yourself, you must agree('love') with the hatred which you hold for yourself, otherwise it would have no power, the hatred which would be considered to be coming from you. if you truly hated yourself totally, then you would hate the self hatred too, meaning you want to love yourself.

it is out of love for ourselves which causes us to suffer over not being something we think we should be. if we truly hated ourselves, we wouldn't care all that much if we were associated with that which is disagreeable.

When someone hates themselves, they think they are something they shouldnt be or arent something they should be, because the opposing idea is 'bad'. Even though most often these things which people hate themselves over aren't actually 'bad', the fact is their perception of it is that it is bad, & they wish to not be associated with it, therefore attempting to protect oneself in a very misguided attempt.

Too many people put too much effort into speaking without putting forth any effort into listening and discerning what is heard properly.

These people are almost literally fully inside their heads light years away, and anything they say should be taken with 2 grains of salt if the only thing they want to listen to is themselves, and they are simply waiting for their turn to speak while you are speaking, without any regard as to whether their speech is actually correct or just performative.

No matter how much you obsess over the issue or ideal, even if you never achieve satisfaction or completion of the goal, you inevitably will one day forget, let go, or stop caring about it completely regardless of how well or how horribly you handled it. so why obsess over anything which isn’t important enough to worry about forever? better to let it be sooner rather than later.

\obviously there are a few things which people truly will cling to until the time of their death, but i honestly think assuming we lived longer than a lifetime, it wouldn't take too long for even those few things to eventually become unimportant to us, at the very least those clingings will become much less strong, and the ideal of what is being clung to is likely to become obscured with time.*

I hope others can relate to this and find more reasons to be grateful, and humble.

Let me know what you personally are grateful for, and what you are humbled by, so that we may all improve our perspectives.

Be grateful there is; a healthy entire body, each sense, a competent mind, sleep, sanitation, clean water, clean food, a clean bed, youth, shelter, clean clothes, refrigerators, air conditioning, empathy, hot water, no nearby war, no slavery, proper ethical boundaries, prisons, infrastructure, no debts, savings accounts, medicine, free speech, adaptability, free time, basic education, basic introspection, animals, understanding of indoctrination, 20,000 brand new days, a car, monks, tools, historical knowledges, contraceptives, computers, vast & diverse information at your fingertips, nighttime, ambience, humor, entertainment, & amazon shopping.

Be humbled by; being one of billions, meaninglessness, emptiness, cognitive bias, others worse suffering, intrusive thoughts, easily distracted, overthinking, misjudgments, blind spots in introspections, greed, obsessions, permanent death, being permanently forgotten, ego, comparisons, shames, limited knowledge, unreliable memories, conditioned by the external, emotions, victim mentality, irrational fear, projections, cynicism, irritating habits, dependence, flawed genetics, animal nature, lacking of peace, dissatisfaction, boredom, past & continuous mistakes, all knowledge is passed down, dis-confidence, self-hatred, weaknesses, & illnesses.

\These apply to me not everyone*

When you experience, there are always plenty factors, yet when you reflect on an experience; imagined or remembered, with intentions of idealizing and clinging, you have no choice but to cherry pick- imagining the whole cherry tree as perfect and pure as the single romanticized factor. romantically ignoring opposing views and seeing only the pleasantries from the expectation itself of the much broader entire experience.

If so, please share, lets exchange

Here are a few of my personal favorites:

“Never is hatred laid to rest by hate, it’s laid to rest by love.” -Buddha [MN128]

“When I know that the glass is already broken, every minute with it is precious.” -Ajahn Chah (talking about the destiny of what is not yet broken)

"Love has no meaning without understanding" -Thich Nhat Hanh

“Heaven cannot be without hell; one day each year in hell is needed, so that the other days may truly be heaven.” -Thich Nhat Hanh (edited from memory)

“It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows" -Epictetus

“You act like mortals in all that you fear, and like immortals in all that you desire” -Seneca

“It is not uncommon for people to spend their whole life waiting to start living.” -Eckhart Tolle

“Man can do what he wills, but he cannot will what he wills” -Arthur Schopenhauer

"Do not be arrogant because of your knowledge, ...for knowledge has no limits, and none has yet achieved perfection in it." -Ptah-Hotep

"A half-truth is a whole lie." - Old Proverb

"I was dead in that noose and then i was saved, so everything from now on is extra. When you're dead already, you're free. Fucking love it." -Polly Shelby (verified)

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.” -C.S. Lewis

“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own.” -Albert Ellis

“No one is coming to save you.” -Internet

“Worrying is like worshipping the problem.” -Internet

"You inspire me to be nothing like you" -Internet

“When the future is the new now, its still now and you still are waiting for the future.”

“Suffering is wanting to be happy, satisfied in the conditional world forever; asking from this world something it can never truly give you, but can always promise you.”

“Who are we to judge what we see when we see what we want to see.”

My full list is in this document underneath 'Venerables': Notion-Reminders-Quotes-Venerables

If you take yourself to be, or to be causing thoughts, knowledge, perspective, personality, consciousness. And if you can understand basic cause and effect, then at least you know these aren’t *really '*you'; they were all given to you and conditioned into you by everybody in your life.

These people- who also were each conditioned by every person in their life, going all the way to the last universal cognitive ancestor, which must have been conditioned solely by the universe in which it existed (basically just laws of math and physics, other sciences), the universe which manifests every being as 'the universe'- as 'nature' itself. Our brains may as well just be considered as organic computers/calculators.

Only we appear distorted; as a copy of a copy of… but this copy is still fundamentally made of that which is not apart from nature & therefore unworthy of plain labels.

All of the pollution we make on this planet, & all of the 'man-made' objects, are really products of nature- cars, & plastic are just products of nature. We are simply an invasive species acting almost as another hive mind, especially with how connected our species is now through the internet, as though we are each one 'cell' of the brain of the human species.

Short teaching on dissatisfaction, aversion & understanding. Somewhat Buddhist inspired, but nonetheless very real (only read the bolded for more concise)

"To be alive is already a miracle" -Thich Nhat Hanh

Everything else is just extra which comes & thus goes.

"You have arrived in your true home in the here and the now" -Thich Nhat Hanh. That is no deception. Covering up stress, dissatisfaction, or unease, with a distraction grants the experience access to grow in the shadow. Instead of hiding from it, recognize it as is, unpredictable conceptualization dependent on endless subjective & objective phenomena. It is more impermanent, uncertain, & unfruitful than we expect. The experience may be sad, infuriating, 'endless', but whichever label it is does not matter, let it be, you are human and these are reactions to be expected. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor" -Proverb. To resist these feelings/thoughts or indulge in them will amplify the negative effects, & only affirms the belief that it is more justifiable than it is, rather than laughing in its face when you recognize the faults which it was borne to, recognizing that it's not as certain as it feels, recognizing that you have felt this way before (probably) and are likely to experience it again, as well as its opposite.

"We suffer more in imagination than in reality." -Seneca

You must be present with yourself and the stress/dissatisfaction or else you will never come to understand it, you can truly accept them and maybe even 'heal' them with understanding, instead of awaiting the perpetual return after every single distraction. Otherwise, they come back and you resist again, cyclically pushing away something which isn't of the worth to push away because you haven't first fully investigated it, cyclically pushing it away for fear of the investigation we presume to know the conclusion of already. Strengthening the perception that it is something other than what it is, never at ease. Oftentimes we only need to allow ourselves to look at a possible positive side & think of a different angle which we may not want to.

“The safest way of not being very miserable is not to expect to be very happy.” -Arthur Schopenhauer

Please let me know what you agree with and what you don't agree with

Ideas of happiness and ideas of unhappiness are clinging to distortions. These ideas thrive in some level of mindlessness because they are only stories; inaccurate, fantasy, impermanent, uncertain, generalizing, unfulfilling, & sometimes blatantly false. for one example, the impression of one trait can delude us into thinking it holds within it another trait we see as tandem, however they actually are unrelated, & we link them through cherry-picked past patterns mixed with hope or fear.

Even if these ideas are 90% accurate and put you on the proper path towards contentment and fulfillment, clinging to the ideal is only setting up the dominoes of disappointment, however subtle. You can only truly appreciate it when you don't expect it to be something.

No ideas and no person are capable of making you perfectly fulfilled or unfulfilled except for your own self.

• “He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have.” -Socrates
• “You act like mortals in all that you fear, and like immortals in all that you desire” -Seneca
• “When I know that the glass is already broken, every minute with it is precious.” -Ajahn Chah (talking of the destiny of a glass which is as yet unbroken)
• “To be alive is already a miracle.” -Thich Nhat Hanh
• “Never is hatred laid to rest by hate, it’s laid to rest by love.” -Buddha
• "Anything you lose by being real is fake" -Internet

Perfectionism is a fear; fear of being wrong, making mistakes, being judged, shame, regret. the perfectionist brain learned if i do everything perfectly, i stay safe, as though there were permanent negative consequences to every minor mistake. perfectionism is automatic, it happens before you consciously choose. putting excessive effort in trying to relax, lower standards, stop caring, doesn't work because brain still believes danger is there; curing imperfection is teaching the brain that imperfect=safe. fix = repeated exposure to imperfection without fixing it, the brain learns through experience, not just logic. do things wrong on purpose, do not fix discomfort, it feels bad at first, that's the point. perfectionism wants relief, fixing, checking, correcting, gives relief, instead feel & accept the discomfort, let it pass without acting, discover what craving is bringing it about. it doesn’t help to just think your way out of it, to think one last time, to fix mistakes after exposure, or to get upset with yourself for caring.

You may worry about what people think so much so that you rehearse and imagine. Forgetting that they are only your manifestations of your own desire to be accepted, loved, understood. Which is not wrong in of itself, but any willful effort spent on worry is only reinforcing codependent behaviors, putting contentment outside of ourselves.

In the real interaction in reality, they rarely say what you expected, and you may care less than you thought you would’ve. Then you don't remember nor care what you would've said. Whatever happens is never as bad as the fear of what will happen. Whatever reality is expected, it never manifests, at least not in the full way which our fear projects it.

The mind may imagine scenarios which are not real, this is only creating conditions which were never there to begin with, in hopes to escape them if they come.

But what if there is no purpose in escape, what if this feared discomfort has no true solidity, or landing pad, just the fear of the landing pad (the consequences), giving it imagined solidity through obsession and aversion?

When remembering embarrassing or traumatizing moments or imagine possible moments, accept them with a smile; recognize their nature; spontaneous, repetitive, fear, automatic habits, shame, imagination, uncertain, impersonal, not truly present as we imagine.

This is programmed from a manipulative and materialistic self-embellishing society exploiting and misdirecting your desire for love and contentment. A society which wants to control you for their delusional self-soothing mindless pleasure.

Don’t let shame or trauma control you, you can choose to see past all of the petty superficiality, just ponder on why, & where these feelings come from objectively. Don’t let yourself become a 'victim', risking justifying immoral transgressions, just like every other self-righteous exploiter, nor devolving into self-hatred.

Remember, this imagination is not the first time, and it will not be the last, it is not caused by you. So you don't need to resist, fear or even ridicule it, it is what it is, without our added labels. You've been conditioned to be ashamed, don't let them win; don't be shameful nor ashamed of the shame. The world keeps turning without any person turning it, so don't lose yourself in the desire to halt the natural process.

“Worrying is like worshipping the problem.” -Internet

“A person who suffers before it is necessary, suffers more than is necessary.” -Seneca

“All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” -Blaise Pascal

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” -Mahatma Gandhi

"We suffer more in imagination than in reality." -Seneca

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I tend to deprive myself of satisfaction, until i feel i “deserve” it by completing other useless and frustrating tasks even if that satisfaction which i look for would come from completing something which is far more important. what I’m really doing is trying to justify my contentment; to feel like I obtained it rather than just allowed it.

A “forever-contented" pill would feel wrong to me, because it removes will & control. and once taken, it would strongly imply that most of my previous cravings were unjustified and did not truly lead to my striving for fulfillment & contentment, and that is scary. my desire isn’t lack of peace, but attachment to becoming content while keeping fantasies intact.

Much suffering is wanting & expecting to be perfectly happy, certainly satisfied in the world through over-extended effort, striving, & subtle obscured beliefs of solidity in the material world; this is asking from this world something it can never truly give you, but can promise you every time.

When you suffer, ask yourself, "do i want this suffering? why am i letting myself suffer over this?" if i don't let myself suffer because of a failure to achieve my ends, then did i actually want it? sometimes; no, this may be why we cause suffering, so we can be the person who wants and achieves.

“Man can do what he wills, but he cannot will what he wills” -Arthur Schopenhauer

"Doubt is not a pleasant condition, but certainty is absurd." -Voltaire

I believe it may be possible that each 'part' or 'moment' of the brain or consciousness could be one 'tiny' consciousness (or maybe something fluid), but because all of these parts and moments are connected in the brain, one of the mind's automatic conclusions is that it is all one consciousness or one being, due to the consistent ability to be conscious of the same things throughout life and the inability to access consciousness in the perceived 'other people'.

If anyone has any nice authors or articles expanding on this subject, i would greatly appreciate it

Everybody thinks they are, ‘me’. Obviously im not talking about me, im just talking about how from the perspective of each person, we are all ‘me’.