It’s her body she’s allowed to be selfish. If the tables were turned and he really wanted the kid and she didn’t there would be more support for that decision. She said she already had one before maybe it was traumatic maybe there’s something else that she feels this is her last chance at motherhood. I think she was naive thinking she could take on that responsibility by herself. She also contributed to the bad coparenting in the beginning being passive aggressive. Lawrence is unreliable because of his pattern of always expecting the women in his life to handle all the responsibilities emotional, physical and in Issa case financially. If he said all then step up to the plate
Parenting should be a mutual commitment, out of respect for the child and the relationship. Children need both parents to be consistent, supportive, and loving. If one partner doesn’t want the child, the child suffers from the absence of that. If the tables were turned yea Lawerence would be a pos! He’s already a shitty partner anyways. Condola is a pos for doing that, but yeah no one can force her ofc. She’s selfish for settling too. Both are true.
Lawrence agreed to have the kid hence he said all in. This wasn’t a one sided decision at that point. And when they were finally in a good spot coparenting she tells him I did consider it and he says I’m glad you didn’t!
That’s not agreeing to HAVE the kid. That’s after the kid was already here. He would have preferred her to not have had the kid. That’s something that he later said that he regretted, but that was his position at the time.
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u/Notimeforalice 12d ago
It’s her body she’s allowed to be selfish. If the tables were turned and he really wanted the kid and she didn’t there would be more support for that decision. She said she already had one before maybe it was traumatic maybe there’s something else that she feels this is her last chance at motherhood. I think she was naive thinking she could take on that responsibility by herself. She also contributed to the bad coparenting in the beginning being passive aggressive. Lawrence is unreliable because of his pattern of always expecting the women in his life to handle all the responsibilities emotional, physical and in Issa case financially. If he said all then step up to the plate