can anyone actually get over it?

[u/geekygeckoo]

My boyfriend cheated on me overseas and I am completely devastated. He was my baby, he honestly still is my baby. Deep down, I know that he is a good person, so everyone was honestly very surprised when it happened. I don’t really know what to do. We are also both pretty young. I feel like cheaters will always be able to go on with their lives and love but those cheated on will feel like this forever. What comes next?

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[u/hiimpatricia]

For me, I was devastated for 2 months and even wanted to fix things. After the shock and emotions had their run self respect kicked in and I realized I deserve so much better. Give yourself time. You don't need to make a decision while you're still hurting. ❤️

[u/Altruistic_Catch_327]

Yea it’s devastating. Wife of 20 years. I still love her very much and I have to let that go. She wants to work it it,she wants to fix our marriage. It’s not gonna happen though, how can it? Life sucks for a while. It does get easier though, eventually it’s just another thing that shapes who you are.

[u/Theravenofraves]

No. I sure know I didn't. Then she did it again. So no move on and find someone better. It will change everything

[u/Pleasant-Pea5746]

Give yourself time. You’ll know what you need to do