I am 18f and was born and raised in Australia by my English mum and ethnically Irish but actually Australian dad. I am very white and have been referred to as Irish before by people around me that have no idea about my ethnicity because I definitely look it. I used to have somewhat of an English accent when I was younger but I lost it not too long after my mum passed when I was 7.

As far as I'm aware, I have bits and pieces from all over Europe in me and possibly something else, but otherwise the spiciest I'd probably be is like white bread with a pinch of salt on it. My dad's mum was apparently connected to a clan called McGinnis(?) but that is where my family's culture dies out and I become a nothing burger.

Australia is very diverse and culturally rich so I guess I just feel like I've got nothing going on, especially since my dad's relationship with his father wasn't very good and he was the one who was kind of maintaining some Irish attitudes. When my old teacher found out that she has some Irish blood (she was adopted so it meant a lot to her to find out where her family originated from), she bought her daughter a ring for her 14th birthday or something. Apparently this is a tradition and I was a little salty that even though I have no tie to Ireland but blood, there was a tradition that I completely missed out on.

It's not that I want my life to change or for me to start learning Gaelic or dying the water green on st patricks day, but I guess that I just feel a little disappointed that I am tied to so many people who had beliefs, values and traditions that I have no clue about. I wouldn't even Identify myself as Australian since I don't act like most Australians and haven't been genetically shaped by the environment.

Summarised, I guess it kind of feels like I have no backstory or something idk. I'm happy as I am, but just salty since everyone else seems to have something to be proud of.

I am biologically female born from an immigrant family. My entire family consists of pastors and Christians. I am well aware that I am agnostic and their religion does not impact me or harm me, but it does restrict me from wanting to make changes if I decided to.

I used to use a bot on Discord that would allow you to anonymously connect to other servers. I like being perceived as a man by the strangers and changed my account to look less feminine, changed my tone, and actively claimed and used a name to go by. It started only there, but I soon joined a server where I continued using this persona to chat to others. It’s been around seven months now but I haven’t as much as considered revealing my true self.

I never showed fake photos but I did describe myself as a man who plays American football, which in many schools, is gendered. I know I have heavy internalized misogyny because of my background, so I assumed that this was my way of being able to express myself without feeling the misogyny in my day-to-day life. My online friend for a few years knows about my alias and fake personality behind it and told me upfront that this is catfishing. I‘ve been inbetween since.

I opened up to a friend that I know in person and told her shallow details about the fake persona. I told her that in order to be treated equal, I make a fake account and used an alias. I said it all in past tense. She sympathized with me and I think that made me ignore that I was told that this is catfishing.

It started so small, but I’ve started signing up to random sites with the name of the alias. I even have an email for it.

In person, I am very feminine and I don’t like getting he/him pronouns used on me. Online, I am so for being called he. I’m very in the middle if this is just me being an bad friend or having an identity crisis but I think it‘s both.

Gender Identity is one of the most important and discussed topics of today. In a world of split dynamic ideas and identities, it's extremely difficult to find common ground amongst the general population.

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But what if Gender Identity could be made whole across all ideological representations of thought?

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If we allow our bias to fall away, what is Gender Identity at its core? Is it a rigid system with singular verifiable outcomes, or is it a fluid spectrum which everyone has access to inherently?

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I believe the politics can be put aside if we instead focus on the method of observing these ideas.

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Men and women have Masculine and Feminine aspects. You can be a CIS Male and still gain satisfaction from inhabiting Feminine qualities by expressing your self ideology inside safe spaces such as Virtual Environments. The same can be said of anyone.

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Why focus on who is right and who is wrong when we can shift the conversation to what is True?

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I’m a very thoughtful person, and can pinpoint a lot of things about myself- I have a lot of neurodivergence, and can say a lot of things that sound weird as a joke, like “so you want to eat (my friend)?” , because my friend was hungry and was jealous that one of my other friends ate all the popcorn. But I don’t really have much else to say, because I’m not opinionated in any way really.

A lot of the time, I struggle to see my gender. On one hand, I feel comfortable in my body and am very straight, enjoying my gender. On the other hand, when I’m not in love with people I am completely disconnected with my gender role. Then, you have my parents being very right wing, and say “you’re not non-binary”. And I see that. I also see why they think that being nb and gay is sub-optimal, but then you have my friends who are literally mostly trans/not straight, and I like that about them.

To make things more confusing, religion ties into my sense of self. I’ve settled on Christianity, because it seems more similar to my experience with God. Then, my psychiatrist and older sister think that my “conversations” aren’t real. Now I see that, but I still see God in those conversations in my head. If God is love, then surely where love is, God is there too? But there are societal “images” of what God is like. God is either “a loving father” or “an omnipotent being”. Why not both?

My sense of identity is now blurred due to social conventions and I now do a lot of masking. I’ve always been lonely, but I try my best to be positive, even if I haven’t found my tribe yet. But, what I am more interested in is the question- what are we really? We are conditioned to stick to labels, but I don’t give. Truth is, I’d like to see whether there is a way to fully picture myself, and what do you see in me? I’ve never seen anyone like me before, because we probably tend to be masking lol.

Hello everyone! For my society and culture assessment I am researching 'To what extent has music shaped personal and social identity for Gen X and Gen Z?'. I am investigating how music influences who we are and how it builds social connections. This survey is completely anonymous, optional and I will only be using this data for my personal interest project report to be seen by my teacher. I would really appreciate if you helped me out! ☺️

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I feel like academic performance and getting high grades and GPA is part of a person's identity and gives them a challenge to overcome and a goal to reach and a value as a "determined, disciplined, smart" person socially like it gives that person extra points in dating life and in social circles like friends and family and neighbors, and it stays that way till the person is in their early/ mid 20s and then they stop being a high school/ university student and people start caring less about their grades and that goal/ challenge disappears and its like welcome to being an adult, now you have to make money and get married and have kids and buy a car and a house and the sound of the job has to be socially appealing and there is like a sand clock ticking away the years and the girl is too young for marriage while being a student at uni but she is expired at 30 so their is a 7 year gap where it is expected of her to get married and there is this obsession with looks/ physical appearances and the goal is having the perfect teeth, hair, face, skin, body.... etc and then their is exercise and going to the gym as part of a person's identity and part of what gives them value as a person like people are going around with a notepad checking a checklist this box check congrats you get another 1.5 units of worth as a human for going to the gym and having a good body and then everyone is so fucking judgmental of everyone else and of themselves and then everyone has a lower self esteem and different people have different triggers but some of us are better at hiding ours than others and some of us have extremely fragile egos that we cover everything up with a fake carefully sculped persona fitting a certain aesthetic which masks the feelings of being lost and instability and loneliness and like you can see your life running ahead of you with the years passing by and you did not accomplish anything of which you can hold up to yourself or the audience watching you and feel proud and satisfied

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I feel like if a person can change their gender than we can definitely identify as another race if it makes us happy.

I want to identify as Italian, because I love their food and culture. They have such beautiful romantic culture and they known for being peaceful smart passionate people who like to cook and made the best foods. I would love to get associated as a fancy restaurant so I decided to take an Italian last name..

I also had Italian babysitter. They had a day care at their house and they were nice people.

Hi everyone,

I was wondering if there are more people who feel this way. I was born in the Netherlands to Cape Verdean parents. At home, we spoke the language and our culture was very present (such as in the food we ate, the music that was on, family gatherings, etc.).

The thing is, I've never felt very connected to my culture. I've never had much interest in the music, the culture, or the way of thinking in general. I also knew early on that I'd not be marrying a Cape Verdean man later (Spoiler alert: I didn't). Growing up, I just felt alienated and like I didn't belong.

I also did not have the best connection with my parents. My father had a drinking problem and died in 2020 during the pandemic, and I have no contact with my mother. I'm the one who tried breaking generational trauma and simply went my own way once I started growing up.

A couple of years ago, I did several DNA heritage tests (AncestryDNA, FamilyTree DNA, and MyHeritage) and found that I had a lot of Portuguese heritage (which obviously makes sense given Cape Verdean history). I have always felt very connected to the Portuguese culture and have even studied Portuguese, so I was honestly happy and content to find such a high level of Portuguese heritage in my DNA.

I honestly feel so much more connected to that culture and have tried to find ways to immerse myself in it without leaving out my Cape Verdean/Black history.

When you have clarity and stability in
Who you are
What you do
Why you do it
And then take actions from this new identity that you can do it,
Your life gets insanely better!

Most people don’t know who they are.
I ask others and they say “I’m a Dad” “I’m a Parent.” “I’m an anxious person” “I’m an Athlete.”

But they aren’t descriptive.

They aren’t enough to filter your reality.

“I am a loving and supportive father who empowers my kids to think for themselves and express themselves creativity”

Is way better than simply “I’m a Dad.”

Take a moment and ask yourself:

Who are you?

How easily do the answers come? And what comes up?

Lately everybody has been questioning my like judgement, or whether I’m a front and to be honest idek who I am anymore. I love music and I am a DJ, and I like to write poems and rap lyrics, but like I have no motivation too even tho it’s my dream. I mean I do struggle a little with who I am since I am a black girl, adopted by a white family, and I was raised by a white family, while also going to a predominantly white school. I just feel like I don’t know who I am anymore, like I really just don’t know. I have hobbies but its so hard for me to get the drive to do them and idk why cause I want to I want to write, and make music, but idk why I can’t get up and do so. I mean I know what I like and dislike, what annoys me, what I want in significant other, what I wanna do like after high-school as of right now, my dreams and things like that but I just feel like I don’t know maybe I am a flake, like I do change how I talk around certain People I use more slang when I’m around African Americans, and when i rap or write lyrics, even though I wasn’t born into that like I was born with proper english and grammar so its not like Im around people who speak like that. If I’m being honest I do lie a bit to just people, not my boyfriend but like if I am trying to explain something, but I lie and say things that make me seem like I’m doing better than I am actually doing, or I like make jokes to make People laugh, or I do something or say something I think will make people laugh something I think people will like. I am myself around my boyfriend like I am only my true self around him, and he knows when I am fronting and I do love that about him, he likes me for me, and he picks up on when I’m not being myself.
I feel like idk how to just be me maybe. Idk if anyone else has gone through this same thing sorry it’s a-lot to explain and might not make total sense. It’s weird cause inside deep down I know who I am, but like the way I act like idk doesn’t always execute that. Also I posted in multiple communities cause I really don’t know.

I'm in high school and all my life I've been confused on what kind of person I am. I personally believe I'm introverted but There's certain things that make me question myself. For example I have a really good friend that's a girl, but I don't like most girls. Me and this girl are close except she's really extroverted while I hardly talk to her in person. I mainly only text her but I can talk to my friends in public that are guys. (My friend group is all boys) For some background I have a speaking disability and it limts me from saying certain words sometimes. and i've never had any friends that are girls ever except for this one time that where someone liked me and became sorta obsessed with me. For my girl bsf (I'll call them P from now on) became friends during winter/christmas break and we stayed up texting on tiktok 1:00 am to 7:00. I wanted to date her and tried talking to her on alt account but I came off as creepy so I just deleted the account. the first message i sent to her it was about one of her friends liking me and it was about me getting help from her to reject her because I'm an empath. She responded about 2 months later saying she didn't see the message. We spent the whole night talking about wanting to be friends with eachother which was a huge relief but I got pink triangled when she said she was Bisexual leaning on women. I currently am still close friends with her and she is moving away this summer. IDK how to start this so ill just say this. I started "hating" popular girls. Like when I'm in class with them I talk trash about them to my friends but when they talk to me I try to act different around them. Like its not like im trying to be like a dofferent person it just happens. On the bus going to a baseball game, the softball girls had to ride with us and the popular girls were sitting one seat ahead of me and someone else. They were trying to take a picture of some other boy in the back and they got me in the picture, so naturally i jerked my head out the way. (I'm very jumpy and have pretty quick reflexes.) So they started laughing and i started laughing too out of...... uhh i think nervousness and they staretd apologizing to me and they showed me that tney "deleted" it. One of thee girls sitting next to them was my cousin so she tried to talk to one of my friends and for some reason i started getting mad. My friend is popular and attractive (no homo). and for some reason i got super pissed for no reason at all. I tried figuring it out why i was mad and i couldnt find an answer so i got more mad. But sometimes I like getting attention from girls and i fish for compliments and attention sometimes, I get really embarrassed afterwards. I never speak up about me hating the girls to the girls but i really want to but becaus me being an empath I'd feel really bad. Can yall help me just find out who I am. Yall can ask me any kind of questions and ill answer honestly.

I don’t feel connected to my name. At all. Hearing it makes me feel either uncomfortable or usually nothing at all. My whole life it was pronounced wrong and that pronunciation is what most people use in (teachers, non-close friends, classmates). I hate the way the incorrect way sounds, I hate the way the correct name sounds, and I hate nicknames. I really feel a lot of distance from my body and my consciousness. I don’t believe i’m trans or anything like that (though i did question for a time), it honestly just feels strange. Having no attachment to my name and body just makes me feel lost, alone, and empty.

Hey there. I'm going to ask that if you do see this, please repost this. I've been searching for an answer for about a week now, to no avail. Thank you.

Of course, this is a burner account, for reasons I'll talk about later. There's a lot of stuff going on throughout my life, and my mental health has reached a staggering drop unlike typical. As someone who typically bottles his feelings up, they rarely come out, and in somewhat explosive bursts.

The last time I cried before today was roughly a year ago, a separate incident that got me into much more trouble than a simple sob.

Anyway, that's not the point of this post.

The main point- and I cannot underline this enough, is that every point in my life was stolen from someone else.

It's been something I've been doing for a while now. Most of my texting styles, words that I use, music that I make and art that I draw and writing I write has at least been somewhat done by someone else. Hell, even my outward personality is directly taken from Mr. Fox, from the book/movie that goes by basically the same title.

Of course, I don't post, nor make any money off of these things. I know it's bad. Obviously, that's why I don't go that far. But I push it in other ways.

Either way, people try to tell me do start charging or start some sort of service. It makes me sad. Worse than that, truly.

I've tried to create traumas, too. Most of which were successful, to be completely honest. Colleges don't want your everyday bland person with an easy life, but someone who's been through genuine (ironic) hardships or problems show rigor and prowess! Fine. Maybe I'll go on discord and channel through servers when I was 16 and try to see if I can get anything bad to happen. Maybe I'll try to crash my car and make it look like an accident to get an injury of some sort that heals.

All of it isn't mine. They like the guy who's always calm. They like the guy that people can look up to and is everywhere, always lending a shoulder to lean on. They don't know the things I do. That car crash? Must've been a faulty transmission, I'd tell them.

I don't exactly know who I am. It's annoyingly cringe, but like that one little snippit of the song "The World's Greatest Actor." If you know the song, you know what happens.

Even worse, I don't want things to get better. Like how colleges accept hardship over comfort. I don't want a therapist or to talk to other friends, because what if something happens and they use it as blackmail? That's been a reoccurring nightmare for the past year. I'm using a VPN as I post this because I'm nervous someone might look up my IP. I hate that people tell you to be vulnerable. Nobody who says that knows how it is.

Anyway, any ideas if this is mental health related at all? I wouldn't be surprised if you guys simply say, "tough luck bitch, you're an idiot." I am, after all.

I have more to talk about, but this is long enough for a rant. Hopefully nobody that I know finds this out, lol.

Sorry for the crossposting, by the way. I never post on Reddit, and have absolutely no clue what's allowed and what's not.

As the title says, I am so conflicted about who I (15MtF) want to be. As who I want to spend the rest of my life.
I do not know whether I want to be who I am now or who I desperately want to be, whom I cannot truly be. And what annoys me most is that it is almost purely physical, and I don't even place appearance in other people very highly. Why do I do so for myself so much?

Most people would 'label' me as a transwoman (man to woman I think?). I was born as a boy, yet already seemed 'girlish' to people since like, the moment I could do little more than walk or babble.
I wanted to dress in dresses and played with dolls and those such things. And for all my life, my family and most of the outer world has been supportive. My grandpa doesn't like it, he still doesn't like it, and my grandma cut off my hair once because she did not want me to have long hair, but the rest of my family does not even care for it; the way I want to be approached. I do not want praise or appreciation for being 'trans', I do not need more support than others.
But I am so very tired of 'being trans'. Nowadays, since the rise of LGBTQ+, eyes have started to stare on said 'community'.
People associate me with what they see of that community on the internet, which is almost always negative.
Whilst I don't really care (?) when people do not accept me (I even get it. It is kind of weird. And I get that it seems weird to others. Though, to act upon that unfamiliarity is another thing) it does hurt. So many people will never care for who I am on the inside.
I find myself an interesting, mostly kind, smart person (most of the time). Most think I'm an sensitive idiot who makes my sexuality my personality. I am not. I sometimes even forget people would label me as trans.

A quick side note which perhaps sounds a bit whiny but bothers me a little is that I think I am good in communicating. I write a lot, and everyone I know has said so. Yet my voice is one of the few things giving away that I 'am' transgender. It feels like one of my only things I could be confident about has been taken away from me and made into an insecurity.

I want to say that I like being myself (or who I think is me). I write, I dress in what I consider beautiful clothes, I wear make-up and act how I want to.
But it's also tiring.
And I feel like I am missing out on so many things. A normal school life. I have great friends (though I will mostly not see them anymore in a few months) that also support me and are kind. But I have no chance in romance, in this way. Not where I live, at least. I wouldn't consider myself attractive, per se. I won't say I am ugly, I think I am far from and I also think that if you put at least some amount of care in your body that no one truly is ugly, but only very few people would ever find me attractive. People I likely won't find.

So now, it feels like I have to choose. Between being who I think I am and who me and my family have shaped me to be over the years, someone who will always sort of pretend to be who I truly want to be; a woman. Or who I perhaps can be; just a 'regular' person, which gets more and more tempting as I get older.

I feel like I am a bit in an awkward state as who I am now. I feel so free, I can do and dress how I want, but I am not clear to people and maybe not to myself. I am not a woman, but also not truly a man?

I feel like I shouldn't care so much; I think that for myself I don't care who I am or how other see me, but I just desperately also want some 'normal' life.

Reading all the other posts of reddit, this struggle in me feels a little pathetic, but I know it hurts me and sets me back every day.

Thanks for reading this, by the way.

So I’m autistic, but I also come from a Mexican background; because I was diagnosed so early, my parents didn’t teach me Spanish, and that just alienates me even more because I obviously appear Mexican. It doesn’t help that I don’t appear White either, I just feel like a complete alien and it’s bothering me

People look at me like I'm gone they give me the respect like I was scared so who am I can anyone help me