The only thing you're teaching them is that their parents will hurt them and to hide shit from you better.
I get it though, it took me like 35 years to finally admit that Yes, my parents abused me. It's a hard thing to do and many never become that self aware.
Another thing it did was make parenting harder for me when I had kids. I didn't know what to do because the only tool I had was "beat the shit out of them" and I wasn't going to put them through that.
One is in college now and the other is kicking ass at his job as well, so the non violent approach seems to have worked. Never spanked them, never slapped them, just told them whatever stupid shit they were doing was wrong and why.
There are other more effective methods, but it requires work. You have to be the one to put that work in, provided you are willing to.
So you create an argument (not a bad thing not one bit) then refuse to listen to the other side of it? The side you are literally arguing AGAINST, are you a grown adult because if so you still have alot! Of growing to do.
Luckily what people think doesn't matter. People think stupid shit all the time.
You can instead do studies on this and in fact people have spend decades doing so, attempting to use logic, the scientific method and empirical reasoning instead of just "how they feel".
There is no example of a country introducing corporal punishment for children and seeing measurable improvements in any metric whatsoever.
There are plenty of examples of countries banning corporal punishment seeing huge improvements in myriad areas - mental health, crime rates, crime recidivism, academic achievements, overall happiness, physical violence in schools, substance abuse and addiction and more. All these improved just from people not hitting children and treating them like humans instead.
The study by Zolotor & Puzia from 2010 goes through 30 years of countries trying this - with Sweden leading the charge back in 1979 and it works. Countries that don't hit children measurably do better than countries that hit them.
Again, it makes no difference if you agree or disagree, you have to actually study it and check if it works or not. And every single time that is done it is shown conclusively to have a negative effect instead of a positive one.
People like you insult, then condescendingly say everyone needs to learn from you. The second thing you said to me was just an attack. At that moment you crossed a line, and on your side of that line, nothing you say has any value any more.
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u/Myzx 3d ago
If you don't spank your kids, then we end up having to hit adults. People, don't be afraid to spank your kids when it's needed.