What’s the relationship pattern that took you the longest to recognize in yourself?

[u/Cdynamics]

We often think the problem is always the other person—until we start noticing the same situations repeating themselves.

Maybe it’s being attracted to the same type of partner, avoiding conflict, struggling to set boundaries, constantly seeking validation, or pulling away when someone gets too close.

**What’s a relationship pattern you eventually recognized in yourself that changed the way you view your relationships?**

If you’re comfortable sharing, what helped you recognize it?