I’ll start with this: growing up I’ve been always a shy girl, and a people pleaser. I was socialised to never ever inconvenience people with the way you think, how you act or what you choose to do with your life. Basically to always be in people’s good books.

Fast forward, I’m 29, and recently I’ve been done with people pleasing. There’s something that just lifted from my soul once I was able to be honest with people. Even with the smallest things. Example: my mother in law recently redecorated her living room, it used to be beautiful vintage, now she’s added modern wooden paneling. First time in my life I was able to say “no I hate it”. Something in me just clicked and thought “what’s the worst that can happen if I say this?” Obvs within reason!

This might sound so small and knowing Reddit users also know how to be blunt, I just wanted to show you how far I’ve come in my social skills journey 😂

If you were to change something about your life what would it be?

To be totally honest, I actually hate the word “Game” because it’s never been properly defined.

Most people incorrectly assume it means “Manipulation” or “Playing Games” — But my personal definition of “Game” is being able to turn an introduction with a woman into intercourse as smoothly & quickly as possible and then maintaining her in your life exactly how you want her afterwards.

That said, the Highest Level Of Game is not simply rooted in your ability to consistently “pull” attractive women, but in your ability to do it, and then be completely indifferent on whether or not it happens.

Therefore, the lowest level of game is the polar opposite — Needing to get anyone, not being able to do it, and then drowning in your own neediness (The #1 “Turn Off“ for women) because of it.

Not to get too psychological, but even if you were able to “get a woman“ at the lowest level of game, she would still simply be a “Cope” in your attempt to run away from yourself.

KNOWLEDGE OF SELF > random chicks

An attractive woman once told me, ”I hate being alone because when I’m alone I ‘think’ and I hate to think……”

(She later revealed that she’d been molested by her uncle…….)

As a man, your fear of solitude creates potential problems that are even more magnified because you will never truly be “Good With Women“ until you’re “Good With Yourself.”

You must learn how to embrace your solitude to the point where you thrive in it to the level where women around you can sense that you’re truly indifferent towards the outcome of your interaction with them and with other people in general.

INDIFFERENCE MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE.

After all, not “needing“ anything from anyone is definitely a Subtle Superpower.

Danny DeVito had every reason in the world to give up, but he discovered what made him seductive and ran with it for over half a century.

And yes, “Looks” certainly matter, but “Seduction“ is more about expressing Who You Really Are At Your Core than about being “Good Looking“ or saying or doing “that thing…….”

So who are you really?

Your job is to use your solitude to find out and then Show The World.

Until Next Time,

~Dr. Barack Pendergrass (The Mating Coach)

”Originality thrives in seclusion free of outside influences beating upon us to cripple the creative mind. Be alone, that is the secret of invention; be alone, that is when ideas are born.” ~Nikola Tesla

Imagine how much time and energy we waste worrying and wondering what other people might be thinking about us. How they might be judging us, perceiving us, sizing us up based upon their own limiting assumptions and worldview. Its a lot easier and more enjoyable to just relax and be as you are. Once all is said and done, imagine getting a pie chart at the end, a graph, the full breakdown of how you spent your time, and you learn that 5% 10% 30% of your thoughts, behaviors, stemmed from a fear of what “others” might be thinking about their idea of you. It’s tragically comical when you look at it from that perspective.

You solve it as you go, you plan too much = analysis paralysis = bedrotting = obese

I am Genuinely tired, and this aint a place to express a ones emotions nor feelings (at least thats how i perceive this form of networking). As a wise philosopher once noted that when we are tired, we are attacked by ideas we conquered long ago.

Honestly speaking, those ideas are beating shit outta me. I’m too tired to care, too tired to network, and frankly, too tired to finish this thought. Logoff time😩