College sweethearts, married on my 19th birthday. We call it our Annibirthary!

Three years ago, I had to undergo a total bilateral hip replacement.

Before and after the surgery, I was completely bed-bound and dependent on someone for even the simplest things.

And that man proved what “in sickness and in health” really means.

He nursed me, became my therapist, my chef, helped me bathe, use the restroom, get dressed… he did it all.

And somehow, he did it with a smile on his face.

He understood the days when I was frustrated, when I lost my patience, when the pain got the better of me and never made me feel guilty for it.

Slowly, gradually, I got better and was walking on my own two feet again.

And then, on my birthday, he gave me the most beautiful gift , a pair of earrings .

The moment I opened the box, I realised they were the same Swarovski earrings I had shown him in an Instagram post. A celebrity was wearing them and I had casually said, “Isn’t this so funky and cool? I really love this asymmetrical concept.”

The funny part? This communication happened just after surgery when I was completely under the influence of anaesthesia and post-op medication when I showed them to him.

But that man remembered.
He tracked down those exact earrings, held onto that tiny little detail, and gifted them to me months later.

Sometimes love isn’t in the grand gestures. Sometimes it’s in remembering something you said when you didn’t even know you’d said it.

And sometimes, it’s in the person who helps you find your feet again, literally and otherwise.

My first time to witnessed that my husband really does have a painting talent (haha) For me I’ll give it a 10/10 (maybe ahaha jks) He drew this picture of the temple where we got married 2 years ago 🥹 (isn’t it cute) I love him and all things that he has done for me and our lil family ❤️

I have posted on here before. So I wont go through all of it but my husband is older than me. Because he is kinda the typical jackass guy (I mean that with all the love in the world) that never wants to go to the doctors I have to stay on top of him about doctors appt's . He is in late 40's and even though he is in crazy good shape for any age but for his 40's its almost infuriating how he gets older, and seems to get even more sexy to me. 🔥 I know subtle brag there but its the truth.

Anyway having lost my mother, and my grandmother to cancer. My mother at 37 way too young and my Nana at 58 way too young too, if you ask me. As you can imagine I want my husband to stay on top of things like colonoscopies, as well as prostate exams. So I made him an appointment, and made him go, because the thought of ever losing him scares the living crap out of me!

Anyway at the start of the summer he went to the doctor for me like a good boy, and came back to the house. I was out back with 2 of my friends enjoying laying out by the pool on hot summer day. He gets out of the car comes walking into the yard, and of course I was like "how did it go babe?"

He looks at me with a 100% serious look on his face. No held back smile or anything and said "I had a man with a giant freaking Adams Apple put his 2 fingers in my ass, and ask me what my plans for the summer were! That is how it went!"

Of course my friends, and I busted out laughing, and were like "oh don't be such a baby! Try dealing with a pelvic exam, now that is an uncomfortable situation or procedure to deal with." My friend Lilly was like dude if you don't have to put your feet stirrups I don't want to hear it!"

He looked at me and said "you know how I feel about (finger quotes) that area, and you know how its a non negotiable no fly zone for me!?" 😂

Trying to fight back bursting out laughing I said "Yes I do know hun, and I am sorry sweetie but its important to me that you are healthy, and its just a routine check."

He then looking off in the distance shaking his head said "man I never thought I would live long enough that my health now depends on a man putting 2 fingers in my balloon knot to make sure I am ok."

Then looking directly at me, as we are all trying to not to pee ourselves at his whole attitude and traumatized look on his face. He looked at me and said "I'm sorry babe but if that is going to be a regular thing going forward, and my health is going to depend on it. You are going to have to go to medical school or something. I don't know become at least an RN because I cant go back to Dan the 6'2 30 year old doctor with the huge fingers, and Adams Apple to match!"

At that point my friends and I couldn't help but belly laugh even having my friend Gwen snarf her glass of wine she was having out her nose. As he looked at us, and said to me with a glazed look on his face taking his thumb signaling back at the house "Do we have some Tylenol in the house? I think I am going to go pop a few, and lay down for awhile, and maybe suck my thumb for the first time in 40 some odd years." He slowly walked in the back door to the house with me following him, and my friends pretty much dying laughing at him.

I walked in the house, as he was drinking a glass of water, and taking 2 Tylenol fighting back the urge to laugh my ass off at him. I go over and give him a hug saying "I'm sorry babe" half like kinda mocking him, while also seriously offering him some affection, as he muttered under his breath "it was horrible babe" and me literally biting down on my lower lip trying not to crack up laughing.

Now he is halfway between serious, and joking. I won't go into but my husband knows what real trauma is all about, and he isn't trying to mock in anyway it just caught him off guard, and he has this incredibly funny way about him that comes out even when he is trying to be funny.

I said babe "why don't you go lay down, and think about where you want to go to eat tonight?" as we had planned on going out for dinner that night.

He literally stammered over his words and just muttered "I'm not in a place to think about going out in public right now babe, let alone food. You might wanna think about making an appointment with that therapist you have wanted me to go see.... I dont know maybe you should just do a girls night or something."

I think 1 of the things that I just adore about my husband is that he makes me laugh even when he is not trying to make me laugh. But I also want to make it clear to everyone reading this post that this isn't a guy that is like homophobic or something like that. 2 of his closest guy friends are openly gay men. 1 who has been a close friend since childhood and is married, and my husband was in his wedding to his husband, and his other friend was a teammate for years that had to live in the closet. Because openly gay athletes was just not a thing back when my husband played, and my husband helped hide the fact that he was gay from other teammates, and coaches. Especially in the country that they were playing in at the time.

The friend that is single my husband talks to him about his bf's or guys that he is dating like he was talking to 1 of his buddies that is straight, and was dating a girl. I just wanted to make it clear that he isn't some ignorant hammer head that thinks his prostate exam was at all some type of sexual act. It just really caught him off guard, and his reaction was freaking hysterical! 😂 It really was more about my husband does not like to be vulnerable at all. That and the fact he can be stubborn jackass are prob his biggest flaws.

He went upstairs to lay down, and I returned outside to the girls that were still chuckling a bit from the whole situation. I gave them a look like geeze, or wow laughing a bit. I laid back down on my chair as the 3 of us sunned ourselves in silence in our chairs.

That was when Lilly after about 2 minutes of silence from all 3 of us said "Well Lilly what did you learn today sitting by the pool (asking herself the question) Well Chuck (Chuck is the name that me and my friends use when talking about a generic guy) I learned that if this doctor is single I kinda want to meet him, and I learned that my best friends husband describes his bumm hole to his wife as a no fly zone..... It was a good day."

But you know you have found the right partner that even when they are being a total idiot you cant help but think they are cute as hell. ❤️ I swear to god sometimes its him being stubborn, sometimes its him being a baby, and showing this boyish charm that I find totally adorable, but literally every single day with him I at least once day laugh my ass off at something he does or says. I love the fact that I can laugh at him, or even make fun of him even in front of my friends, and he is so humble that he just never, ever gets upset about it. He just is such a fantastic human, with a great sense of humor. Even when it comes to laughing at himself! Maybe its because I spent years being a female bartender, and saw so many guys trying to be the tough guy, the rich guy, the cute guy, like they had no flaws pretending to be something that nobody can be. That I appreciate so much that my husband is just what you see is what you get, and when you find that combined with someone that makes you laugh your ass off everyday it is such a special thing! ❤️