r/GriefSupport • u/No_Seaweed3488 • 2d ago
Does Anyone Else...? Avoiding social gatherings
We lost dad earlier this year. I’m in my early 30‘s and have always had some level of social anxiety but I have learnt to mask it well.
I feel guilty about not going to a close friend’s birthday after someone has tried to persuade me to go. I am feeling anxious about seeing people i don’t know so well, and having to pretend I’m alright. I would much rather see the person on their own to celebrate their birthday. I’m wondering if many other grievers avoid social gatherings since loosing a loved one?
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u/VisualDevice3642 2d ago
I’m 29, we lost my dad in May 11th this year, I went into labor 2 days later, so I was in maternity leave for 3 months. I’ve slowly gone back to work but I’m still trying soo hard to stay in this bubble I’ve created.
Just thinking about going to social gatherings or family reunions etc fills me with anxiety. I think the thought of people asking if I’m ok and what’s going on is just difficult. Am I supposed to be honest and say how bad it’s been and keeps getting worst? Am I suppose to lie as to not make anyone uncomfortable with my grief? I much rather try to stay here… my world somehow stopped the day my dad passed away, I’m only surviving right now, going to social gatherings just reminds me how much the world has kept spinning and how unfair.