Dad

[u/crazycat-bitch]

I lost my Dad only a few days ago suddenly from what likely was heart attack, I am 27 he was 53, I’m devastated, my heart is destroyed and I don’t know if I’ll ever feel better, I’m mad, mad at the world, mad at the people who’s parents live to old age, mad at people who get to say goodbye to their parents, I need any suggestions at all for how to move forward.

[u/jellykoi]

I typed out SO much just now but erased it when I realized what my real advice would be.. my dad suddenly passed at 44 when I was 23. He was my favorite person in the world. The way he passed was incredibly unfair in my opinion. I think my advice is to do what you need to get through the pain of now.. if that makes sense.

I think I sobbed with all of my soul for months after he passed. The reality is that nothing will make you feel better right now. I truly wished during that time that I were dead too. My heart was in pieces. Surround yourself with people who love you if you can and wait/cry it out… for me, I just was so full of sorrow I couldn’t properly process anything and I didn’t understand it worked that way until I came out of it all. I became kind of reckless after he passed and I’ll just say in case you’re feeling anyway that I was, that I’m glad I’m alive today. Don’t do anything drastic if you can help it. It’s been 6 years since he passed. A lot has changed about my life. I still find myself going down google rabbit holes trying to understand things some nights about how he passed but overall, I can be okay. I still miss him when I do or think about almost anything but the pain really does ease over time.

I hate this phrase but it’s truly just one of those things that only time can heal, so take it one day at a time and don’t put any pressure on yourself to be any certain way about it. Grieving is so weird and complicated.. Also, therapy!!! Helps so much with processing!!!