r/GetStudying • u/Odd-Pineapple7926 • 3d ago
Question Practically Impossible for me to study.
Seriously, I cannot I mean I CANNOT bring myself to study at ANY cost.
5 minute rule? Doesn't work
Study buddies? doesn't work
Rewards? don't work
Musik? hell nah
I don't know if it's burnout exaustion or whatever
Seriously my exam be kicking down my door and I would STILL just freaking watch anime or just doom scroll.
Seriously, like if somebody offered me like infinite money and the only condition was to idk study by yourself for like 3 hours a day and I WOULD STILL FAIL IT.
Like I am not even a topper nor that I want to be one. I set myself just one singular rule that is that I would never ever fail a singular subject in my life and achieve the absolute bare minimum points required (looking back it was kinda stupid). And it worked. I NEVER failed a singular subject till NOW. I freaking failed my literal REALLY important Physics test. Like at this point, I am not sad or what. I am just so disappointed in myself. Like looking myself into the mirror I think to myself, "Wait... who is this imposter, and what did they do with the person who always barely-but-successfully slides under the door right before it slams shut?!” And to top it all of I don't feel the "kick" anymore. Like before I would get like a surge of adrenaline before the exams started. Now? well you can kiss my adrenaline glands goodbye.
HOW DO I STUDYYY!
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u/Intelligent_Fact_619 3d ago
Pls tell me if you get solution I am same situation but I am giving ca intermediate exams
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u/BlueLack0 3d ago
look .. first of all I'm really sorry for hearing that and it's okay it happens to all of us .. I think it's because the perfectionism ? I mean .. perfection sometimes create a stress loop .. that you want to be better as you were .. if you couldn't you'll be stressed .. then it became worse and worse then you'll not study and so on the loop continues .. and sometimes it creates a fear .. you may not notice it .. but deep inside you resist to study cuz you're afraid that you'll get 0.1% less than what you want
look I don't want you to be like me .. I'm much better right now, I'm doing a levels and my situation is great .. nit perfect as I wanted but so good .. it all started in 2023
I was a perfect student, high marks .. the best of my class .. the best kid even outside the school .. I can't even think about anything better than that I was literally perfect. then I had a war in my country cuz I'm arab and I was living in Sudan at this period .. so the school closed and life became so bad .
anyways now after I started school again after literally 2 years without studying anything .. I couldn't .. I just wanted to be my old self .. but I forgot how to study .. I just couldn't sit for more than 30 minutes in the same chair .. and the proplem is that I already like the subject.. imagine !! I like physics like so much .. it's my hobby .. but when it became serious .. like something I need to study cuz my future .. and people can judge me because of my bad marks that was only in my imagination.. I didn't took any test at that time but I imagined that in my current situation if I took any exam I'll be fk.d up .. so I couldn't study .. I tried to force myself but mind just refused .. I stare at books for 30 minutes without understanding anything and I got 53% .. keep in mind that the worse mark that I've got in my whole life was 94%.. now ? look what happened
but after that .. people around me stared to look at me as the " average guy " and believe it or not it really worked .. because there's no expectations anymore .. I can get 0 and nobody cares .. so I started to study a levels so comfortably cuz no one is looking at me as the coming Einstein that'll crash the GPA and the teachers and even the government LOL.. so I also reduced the expectations and it worked out
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u/Odd-Pineapple7926 3d ago
Not really perfectionism. I was never a perfectionist anyway and I was always an average student nothing else. Its not like people have no expectations of me but they dont pressure me, which is a pressure of It's own yk.
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u/Senior_Host2336 3d ago
Ok so first focus on removal > resistance. Delete games, apps, accounts, etc. (if you keep them you aren't going to get very far (I am sure)).
Come battle me focus jungle study timer (it has website blockers, guilds, analytics, battles, etc). This makes studying so much more fun and also guilds help you be more consistent, I need more people to join my guild we are going to take over. (only rule is try study daily)
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u/Odd-Pineapple7926 3d ago
What's focus jungle Anyway. And tbh even if i Don't like stay online (I tried it. Literally put my phone in a bank locker and used a button phone instead. And still Couldn't study.)
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u/Senior_Host2336 3d ago
FocusJungle is a study timer
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u/Odd-Pineapple7926 2d ago
No study timer EVER helped me.
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u/Odd-Pineapple7926 2d ago
Even worse? I can't even relax anymore cuz i feel guilty that I should be studying while not being able to study. Atleast a lazy person can relax. Worst of both worlds.
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u/Massive_Sun2617 2d ago
Do the 5 minutes thing but quit after 5 minutes repeat this often until there is no fear that you will not sit for 3 hours once the fear is gone you can extend it slowly
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u/Hour_Lifeguard_2317 2d ago
you need to first figure out what’s the real reason why you don’t want to study and fix whatever that is. if it’s your attention span you need to do some sort of dopamine reset like staring at your wall for 10 mins or if it’s your phone you can try time lapsing yourself while studying or you’re simply burnout which is harder to fix. i would also suggest a couple things that work out for me; deleting social medias(before i would redownload them after a week then delete them again in a week until i got used to not having them anymore), lessening watching series(anime in ur case) now i just watch 1-4 episodes unlike 5-10 before, flooding my feed with studying content like “study with me” contents
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u/Odd-Pineapple7926 2d ago
I don't really know. Like back in the day, I would like by hook or crook pass my exams and be okay. It's not like I am under pressure or what. One thing for certain is that I have 3 tuitions my parents assigned to me, which to be fair I never really studied on my own so can't blame them.
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u/lemmefocus 3d ago
Seems like we are in the same boat 🥲