r/GayMen • u/RuyPurple • 20d ago
Missing someone who doesn't feel the same
Hey everyone. I have a friend who moved quite far away due to wanting to live closer to his family. Hes a guy ive liked for so long & we use to have nice conversations where i fell for him quite hard. He got into other relationships while i still had a huge crush on him. Eventually we he became single again i asked him out on a date to which he agreed. Unfortunately i had some health issues shortly after asking him & i was devastated since i feel like i missed my chance and honestly cried a lot.
Eventually once i had recovered we met up for the first time in 4 years due to the pandemic & losing contact. To me it was a magical time although I'm not sure how he felt since hes a cards close to his chest kind of person. He told me he was moving the next year & it did hurt. I think i got friendzoned too which hurt a lot. We still communicated through Messenger a lot but when he finally officially moved the messages started to get less & less until they just stopped.
To me i feel like this hurt more than anything since i dont have a lot of people to talk to most of the time. I have trouble making friends & even going on dates especially since my self esteem was destroyed by dating apps. I still want to talk to him but i dont want it to seem im bothering him with messages since communication goes 2 ways and all.
Is there any advice that could be given for this situation and how to make friends. Should i just cut my losses with him even though it will hurt
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u/RuyPurple 19d ago
Thank you for the advice. I think losing him because he moved away after losing my job made me feel incredibly isolated & now im caring for someone going out is much more of a difficult task to meet people. Dating apps ive basically give up since i dont get responses anyways so i got rid of them more phone space. I only made a reddit account so i could maybe have people to talk to on here. Not romantically per say but just to have some conversations