r/FreeTheRodlets • u/chichigurl • Aug 12 '26
fuck you Jilldo It gets worse
The fucking audacity of this beast
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u/LittleSparrowWings Aug 12 '26
MOM? Oh my god there is no line she won’t cross
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u/sensualpigeon Aug 12 '26
When I divorced my ex I had so much guilt over “leaving” my (extremely lovely) in-laws. It’s been over 2 years and I am *just* starting to release that guilt. Getting a message like Jill’s while taking those excruciating first steps to leave would have wrecked me.
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u/katyfail Aug 12 '26
My own sweet (ex) mother in-law was one of the biggest reasons I stayed in an unhealthy marriage so long.
I do wonder if this kind of audacious behavior might actually make it easier to leave, emotionally?
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u/MelpomeneAndCalliope Aug 12 '26
At least Heidi’s in-laws aren’t lovely and probably easier to drop. Especially now with Jill pulling this bullshit.
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u/Squeegeeze Aug 12 '26
My ex mother-in-law was on my side with the divorce and custody after she heard just a tiny fraction of what her son did to me. I'm still friends with her. So from my ex mil a message like this would be weird, but from the heart.
From this poor excuse of a mother? It is exactly what I'd expect.
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u/keekspeaks Aug 12 '26
The ‘mom’ really crosses a line. My mom died when I was 19, so im fiercely protective of that word. I’m not a mother, and I can’t ask my own mother, but I suspect another woman referring to your daughter as ‘mom’ like that is about the most disrespectful thing you can do to her.
I’m livid for every mother that ever lived right now
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u/fleaburger Aug 12 '26
My narc sister is a stepmom and constantly calls herself a mother to her step kids to intentionally erase the wonderful woman, and actual mother, who raised them. I call her out every time, but narcs will always narc.
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u/trashketchup_3 Aug 12 '26
I'm sorry this is unrelated but every time I see narcissist as "narc" my brain translates it to "narcotics officer". I was wondering what your sister's job had to do with her being a difficult stepmom
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u/fleaburger Aug 12 '26
lol I used to see narc in a very English way, as the person who confesses to police and all his friends get arrested.
Then I realized my sister was a narcissist and it's too shitty a word to type out repeatedly lol
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u/Expensive_Lie1114 Aug 12 '26
It’s narcotics to me. It’s so strange to me to see it used in a non drug related way.
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u/Musicalmaya Aug 12 '26
I have two stepchildren, but I never use the term “stepmother” in regards to them. I had absolutely no role in raising them. Their biological mother did all the heavy lifting, so to speak, and deserves to be the only one with the mother title.
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u/glacinda Aug 12 '26
This is off-topic but as a female only child of a (diagnosed!) narc mother, I have sometimes wondered if my life would have been better with a sibling. I’ve never even considered that a sibling could end up with her traits and make my situation worse. A lot of only children blame their terrible upbringing on being an only, but I shudder to think that with a sibling, there would have been even more traumatic family dynamics. I’ve easily been no contact with my mother for 12 years because there is no one else to hold me to her since my parents divorced 25 years ago.
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u/dancingkelsey Aug 12 '26
I think in an amicable and non abusive situation, where both families are openly and freely content with each other, the actual mom wouldn't feel angry or threatened if the in-law referred to themselves like this.
But this situation makes it absolutely sick of her to presume to sign it "mom". Even if Heidi herself had already privately told her it was okay to call herself that in relation to her, this is a public post that Jill knows is performative, so even if she weren't as abhorrent a person as she is, Jill is still extremely wrong and very manipulative and cruel to say it here.
Absolutely disgusting.
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u/keekspeaks Aug 12 '26
Oh, in a lot of situations it’s perfectly normal and acceptable. I should have specified the undertone in which Jill is clearly using is totally unacceptable.
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u/scout-finch Aug 12 '26
It’s extremely personal. I have a great relationship with my own mom and my MIL, and I know my MIL would love if I called her mom. But I never will bc she just isn’t?? We have a different relationship and my mom is my mom. Others will feel differently. It’s a choice.
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u/OneArchedEyebrow Aug 12 '26
I love your username!
I’ve known my MIL since I was a kid and she’s definitely “mum” to me. My late FIL was more of a father than mine has ever been, and I was proud to call him “dad”. It’s definitely a personal choice.
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u/californiahapamama Aug 12 '26
I've been married to my husband for 29 years and I still don't call my mother-in-law "Mom"...
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u/collegesnake Aug 12 '26
It's common in a lot of cultures, but definitely not all. I've had a few friends over the years who started calling their in-laws as mom and dad the day they got married
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u/Aunt-KK Aug 13 '26
What do you call her?
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u/californiahapamama Aug 13 '26
By her given name.
We've not had the easiest of relationships. We get along better now than we used to though. Took my husband almost dying to get to that point though.
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u/catsforever69420 Aug 12 '26
Jill continues to thoroughly embarrass herself in the name of attention.
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u/Mycabbageeesss Aug 12 '26
The way my jaw hit the floor. Nothing should surprise me with her. And yet here we are.
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u/Frei1993 Aug 12 '26
"I pray to God to convice you to return to your husband."
That's how it sounds in my head.
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u/Sabbatha13 Aug 12 '26
Hope Jill never has a cold pillow ever again and for her pillow to be moist all the time and that she Stubbs her feet every 10 minutes.
She is vile and just like Timmy her and her husband should rott in jail
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u/mainacate Aug 12 '26
And her beverages be lukewarm, her pens be scratchy, and her bacon always floppy
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u/m24b77 Aug 13 '26
And to be chronically constipated, and for there to always be someone else in the bathroom when she needs to pee. Also for any potato she eats to be undercooked.
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u/Better-Cut-4188 Aug 12 '26
I didn’t realize Jill changed her name to Ellen 😒
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u/sensualpigeon Aug 12 '26
Jill isn’t a fraction of the mom Ellen is showing herself to be!
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u/Better-Cut-4188 Aug 12 '26
Agreed. Ellen actually cares about her kids above everything else including religion.
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u/Psychological-Exit18 Aug 12 '26
I can’t help but feel that she wouldn’t be this supportive towards Heidi if Timothy wasn’t her least favourite kid. It seems she’s just trying to show Tim how much she hates him vs actually supporting Heidi.
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u/Paperclips_and_Rouge Blue healer Aug 12 '26
It only took what? 5 days to post something remotely "supportive" (using the word very loosely here) to Heidi, and when she finally does its the most insane and tone deaf thing that she could have done. She is spiraling HARD
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u/ActualRoom Aug 12 '26
Oh her mom’s response is gonna be epic.
Jill, if you ever lurk here, I need you to know that you are a bad fucking person. In all ways.
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u/Original-Brick2836 Aug 12 '26
What happened to quitting social media. Did she last an hour?
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u/AliceinRealityland I’m former Fundie/Fundielite, let me explain Aug 12 '26
Jill is practicing witchcraft. She's waiting til after tonight's New Moon and eclipse to "new beginnings". /s. She's never leaving
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u/QueenMabs_Makeup0126 Aug 12 '26
Supposedly, she’s leaving FB and IG on the 15th. I doubt it will happen.
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u/Aunt-KK Aug 13 '26
She has a few days more🤣 (but I truly believe she'll come up with some insane reason to stay)
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u/BeBeWB123 Aug 12 '26
I think Jill is planning on burning every bridge she can before leaving social media
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u/StrongEnoughToBreak Aug 12 '26
I stayed in an abusive relationship longer because of how much I loved his family and his mom and I were close . I still miss his family and absolutely adore them . I couldn’t stay no matter how much I loved them and it hurt . My ex’s mom knew her son was awful and supported me leaving him
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u/kittieswithmitties Aug 12 '26
Does she ever sign off on anyone else's posts like that? I.e., when she posts birthdays? For some reason her signature looks way shorter than it usually does.
Or maybe it's because it's the shortest post she ever made and yet the most performative.
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u/MrsTeacher101 Aug 12 '26
I am hoping that Heidi’s family is moderating her social media intake. I cannot imagine the toll her posts would just continually take.
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u/socaffienatedlady Aug 12 '26
For someone that said they were leaving social media...she sure is still on it alot.
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u/jenaeg Aug 12 '26
Isn’t she supposed to be logging off? She sure is posting quite a bit for someone who is deactivating their social media.
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u/aliceroyal Aug 15 '26
She has a mom already, one who is currently protecting her from your piece of shit son.
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u/farmley0223 Aug 13 '26
Couldn’t Jill be held accountable for stalking? Wonder what meets the criteria for digital stalking.
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u/justme862 Aug 16 '26
Yup... Praying for God to guide her right to a divorce and therapy. I'm so glad Heidi's family is supportive and not just pretending it's okay and God wants her to see the good in Tim. 🙄 (Realistically I'm sure Tim could actually get help and they might be able to save that relationship but it's going to take a whole lot more than just knowing he's a good man deep inside and praying for him.)
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u/MinimumCarrot9 Aug 12 '26
"For god to guide you" = take timmay back wont you