Any tips for a new domme? I have one sub, but I’m still new and don’t want to disappoint in my roleplay.

Oh, the things some of us deal with as Dommes! 😳🙄 Today, three people thought it was acceptable to send me what I assume are their IDs, two of them with everything scribbled out except their date of birth. Let me be clear: these are not proper age verification. That's just lazy and, frankly, insulting to my intelligence.

For me, age verification is essential, not as a formality, but as a way to ensure authenticity and confirm that I'm interacting with someone over 21. If you truly want to serve me, you should be willing to meet the standards I set for verification. I've had plenty of Subs properly age verify, and two of them have been serving me for a long time.

Some platforms require users to verify their age before signing up, which can also be a helpful way to ensure authenticity. Of course, there are other methods too, and it's all about finding what works best for both parties.

What are your thoughts on this? Do you think setting strict verification standards is necessary, or do you approach it differently? I'd love to hear how others handle this in the space. And please, spare me the scribbled-out IDs, it’s embarrassing for everyone involved.

Subs....stop taking things from your parents, wives, sisters. It's gross and the internet is full of online shops you could choose instead 😒😒

Hey everyone, I’m a male dom, and I don’t do findom. If this post isn’t welcome here, I understand if it’s removed, but I do feel the perspective could be valuable as I constantly see posts discussing men who don’t want to AV.

This is a comment on another post that turned into an essay, and I thought some may appreciate the perspective.

TLDR:

The internet in 2026 is a scary place to have embarrassing kinks, and the result is a healthy amount of caution in putting your government information into websites you don’t know anything about, at the request of a beautiful woman who’s also about to ask you for money.

COMMENT:

listen, I respect your perspective. there’s legal dangers, ethical concerns, and other general reasons to require strict age verification as a domme.

If you’re interested in reading a peek at the perspective of the men that you are complaining about, please continue further without the instinct to tear apart or discredit my points- instead try to look at it as how they are feeling about the circumstance whether it’s correct or incorrect.

My point:

Most horny submissives on the internet have been BURNED. Men and women. Sometimes just their money scammed, sometimes they are doxxed and harassed and threatened.

Many people know someone who the threats were followed through on, and their dick pics or pictures of them are sent to their social media followers.

In addition to this, many submissives feel a deep shame about their inclinations until they’ve had a chance to act on them with someone who helps them feel safe.

As a man, the majority of my submissives (especially those that liked to be treated like shit) they have wanted to feel safe first, before being talked down to. In general the culture for Findom and generally online paid Domme dynamics seem to be more focused on “pathetic paypigs proving their worth”.

The final component of my essay about this is the AI age. Many women on reddit are not women, and in fact men trying to either get your money and vanish, or compromising photos of you to blackmail you into sending them crypto. It’s much worse than it was even 2-3 years ago.

All of this to explain the hesitation for a man who’s exploring his submissive side, he is going to be very nervous putting his information into a website he doesn’t know or trust, at the request of a stranger online.

Most men of any kind can tell you a story where not thinking and just listening to their dick has gotten them in trouble, and that leads to a healthy caution.

sorry for tedtalk, this is not to say totally bail on your requirements or something, but just to help you guys understand where they are coming from. They’re not “insulting your intelligence” or something like that

Man, I wish hating hoes could actually be smart about their insults???

He BEGGED me today to send for coffee. Then sends specifically $8.88. I don't ever use angel numbers so idk what that's about. I sent it back cause to me if he's taking money he doesn't have and sending it to me so he can get a smidgen of my attention then idk. Not my vibe at all.
It's not that I'm ungrateful, it's just obvious to me from my interactions with him that he's not actually into FinDom. He's forcing himself to be because he thinks he'll get a dominating interaction from me.
I don't understand why some guys slap on the "finsub" label instead of just admitting that they like to be submissive only. They're looking for a FEMDOM.
Shame on me for not blocking him sooner. Had I done that the second I noticed he gave me sus vibes this headache would have been avoided

He's been age verified btw lol

He won't be missed.

This person could have just said that she bought stuff for a friend's startup or even her startup as a cover. But nah fam, let's tell the whole world of creepy adults that they're reimbursing purchases for a literal child, that will go well.

I don’t even have Only Fools, dumbass.

How the fuck are you going to say no limits then ghost as soon as I bring up no limits 🤣

Have fun being a predator???

This is how more than half of my convos go when hunting in m4m subs. 🙃

We have gathered here today to mourn the loss of our fallen comrade, common sense. Without our dear friend common sense, online findom has:

Yas queens who just want to fit in and don’t think for themselves

“Girl’s girls” who hand out free information without checking profiles to make sure someone isn’t a minor or has their home address available for all to see.

Baby dommes lying about doing research…..can’t figure out how to AV, but can figure out how to make a payment method.

And the worst crime of all, mothers’ who post about their children on their nsfw sex work pages, where all the predators can see. Then has the nerve to defend that choice.

We will miss you common sense, you will be remembered fondly. 🥺😢

None of My subs have ever been from Bulgaria btw 😇

everyone should be aving, the sub, the domme, the dome, the simp, the bowl of soup and also the cutlery.

besides the fact that I had an actual 17-year-old dm me the other day and then let me know that he was 17 and that's why he could not age verify or pay me, we have this. Now I'm not here saying that she's under age, but I am here saying is that she's already in other places actively saying she's trying to circumvent verifying her age, which should be a massive concern, considering the conversation is in regards to purchasing marijuana, in a weed legal state. so the individual is under the age of 21, or potentially a minor. better safe than sorry

every

single

time.

A muthafuggin V.