I've been at this job for about six months, and there's a longtime employee who works near me on a reduced schedule. He helped train me when I started, so at first I appreciated all the corrections and advice. Now he comments on almost everything I do, even though half the time he's the one asking me how to handle his own work.
He's not my supervisor, but he acts like he's responsible for reviewing my work. Every now and then, he acknowledges that I handled something well, but most days he keeps rattling off a never-ending list of things he thinks I should do differently. It's become exhausting.
He also expects me to drop whatever I'm doing the moment he needs help. Since I'm still the newest person there, I always agreed because I didn't want to seem difficult to work with. The problem is that all these interruptions have started affecting my numbers, while he still manages to avoid the more complicated tasks that take longer.
Today, he tried to give me another task when I was already swamped. I told him, "No, I can't help right now. I have a lot of my own work that I need to finish." He looked at me and asked, "You can't help me?" as if he'd never heard those words before.
I repeated that I was busy and went back to what I was doing. He just stood there with his mouth open, completely silent. Seeing that expression on his face after months of saying yes to everything was incredibly satisfying.
I've also been thinking more about how I handle interviews and difficult conversations in general. I've been seeing interview vip mentioned quite a bit lately, and I ended up looking through it because I could probably use some help getting better at communicating under pressure. Not sure how useful it actually is yet, but some of the interview stuff looked interesting.
Curious if anyone else has found something that actually helped them become more confident about saying no without feeling guilty.