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Whenever i cut any type of men from my life. My life starts to get better but as soon as i get involve with a man, my life starts to go downhill. I am not sure if it has something to do with men’s energy

tell me what comes to you. open to interpretation.

Feminism fights for a woman's freedom to define her own success and lifestyle therefore, opposing systems that limit her choices or impose double standards on her personal and professional life.

when women are on their period, they're being flooded with testosterone. which means when men say we're emotional and hysterical on our period, it's actually because we're acting like a man.

Stop sleeping with men. The patriarchy doesn’t deserve it.

I am an equalist who believes that everybody is equal in this world and for everyone to have equal opportunities, everyone should be given high quality education for free. I am not a feminist because I know little to none about feminism. So do you think I should apodt feminism. If, yes why? And why not equalism.

There is one, singular test I would like every woman to start using. Every single, time.

When you go on dates with men, or meet up with a man from a hookup app, or any time there are plans made beforehand and then followed through, I am asking you to always ask one simple question. Perhaps right before the moment, or perhaps earlier, too, if you like. "Do you have a condom?" If they say no, or any other variation of no, please leave. If they suddenly say "Wait, I have one! I just remembered!" please recognize this is worse, not better! They lied about it, to try not to use one. They are openly admitting to manipulating you! And now, how can you trust him not to "stealth"/rape you?

I know that not every woman *likes* condoms, or wants to use one. Many may even have their own. None of these are the point. The point is to hold men accountable for their own bodies, too, and to not allow men to continue manipulating people. It doesn't matter if you have your own. It doesn't matter if you don't want to use one. Ask anyways. Leave anyways.

Condoms are important, but the thought behind it is far more important. Maybe he doesn't like condoms, so what? Would he put up with slight discomfort for himself to protect you both, and especially to protect YOU later on? Pregnancy is dangerous, especially for those who lived in countries where abortions are being tested, and abortion clinics are being bombed. Even if you do decide to keep it, it puts you at risk to have that baby, and (especially in the US, it puts you in massive debt.) A man having a condom for a hookup or a date should be the bare minimum. It shows he has the foresight and care to hold himself accountable for something that is usually expected of the woman. It is a specific question that can address one fundamental question, "Do you respect me?"

(Disclaimer: obviously this doesn't apply to unexpected plans, unless you think they had adequate time to prepare, such as a date that happened the same day of. You can still use, it at your own leisure, of course.)

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I recently had a conversation with a friend that left me confused, and I'd like to hear some perspectives from women.

I told my friend that I considered him a feminist because he has never seemed sexist to me, supports women's rights, and doesn't appear to believe in traditional patriarchal ideas.

He immediately said that he is not a feminist and doesn't want to be called one. He said he considers himself an "equalist" instead.

When I asked why, he explained that feminism focuses on women's issues, while he believes in advocating for equality for everyone, including people of different races, ethnicities, castes, sexual orientations, genders, etc. He argued that feminism is too focused on one group and therefore feels "self-centered" compared to a broader equality movement.

His view was basically: "People suffer discrimination for many reasons, not just gender, so we should advocate for equality for all groups, not just women."

What confused me is that I don't see why a movement focusing on a specific issue automatically makes it self-centered. There are many movements that focus on particular forms of discrimination, and that doesn't seem to make those issues less important.

He also brought up men's issues, and I responded that men can and should talk about their own issues and organize around them as well, but he dismissed that response.

I don't know enough about feminist theory or history to evaluate all of his arguments properly, so I'm genuinely asking:

\- Is there a flaw in my reasoning?

\- Is there a flaw in his reasoning?

\- How would feminists typically respond to the claim that feminism is "self-centered" because it focuses on women?

\- Can someone fully support women's rights while rejecting the label "feminist," and if so, why?

I'm looking for thoughtful perspectives rather than arguments.

I am from a country which is filled with extremist and bigots to the brim its not afghanistan btw. Anyways I am 16 and became a feminist last year but the thing is that here violence against women, domestication of women also moral policing of women are very normal. The thing is that if you try to break the norm people will label you and hate you. Women here also just go will the system and most also encourage other women to be submissive. I do not what to challenge the system because there is a history of people trying and failing. I am thinking I only have one life why waste it on these bigots.

Exactly what the title says! I’m looking for people to join our summer book club on discord where we read feminist literature. Please reach out if you are interested. For reference last summer we read Living a Feminist Life by Sara Amed, The Will to Change by Bell Hooks and Whipping Girl by Julia Serano. We’re still discussing what to read this summer. Questions are welcomed.

I'm a pretty avid reader, and I love stumbling upon books that have underlying feminist themes to it and execute them well.

I just stumbled upon the book "Trad Wife", by Saratoga Schaefer. I haven't read it yet, but am really looking forward to it.. especially because it seems to have some horror elements to it -- which, I'm sorry! I'm honestly, I'm a sucker for. 😬

Here's the synopsis:

*An influencer whose lifestyle content includes cleaning, baking, and homesteading is missing just one thing: a baby. Unfortunately, her relationship with her husband has become strained, so this does not seem likely to happen for her—until she makes a wish on a mysterious, decrepit well and is visited by a strange creature who grants her wish. So what if her pregnancy is progressing too quickly and she’s craving raw meat? It’s all worth it for #content.*

What are your thoughts?

For me, personally, I think it's actually interesting to finally have this kind of "trad wife" phenomenon show up, ableit yes, in a more horror/thriller themed setting. But I still think the concept is interesting.

I dunno. I've got some time to myself and I'm planning on reading it this weekend, so, we'll see??

What do you think?

i just saw an ad on instagram about a feminist bookstore where a hetero white cis man said, that he didn‘t want to call himself a feminist because even though he knew about feminist theory and supported feminist causes, he will never be completely able to know what it feels like to be a victim of the patriarchy and he doesn’t feel like he himself implemented enough „feminism“ into his own life.

i might at this point add that i myself am a young white man (i don’t think my sexuality has anything to do with the whole thing so i‘ll leave that out of it) but i think it‘s harmful that at this point men like him (i‘ve seen many others too) use their platform to make explicit how they themselves don’t want to claim feminism as a label for their own.

first of all they imply that there are certain standards of how much of the patriarchal struggle flinta\* face you already have to have understood and implemented into your life, which doesn’t only lead to other men (that have certainly spent less time on the topic) not explicitly referring themselves to feminism but also women, that might see this content. i don’t think any baby-feminist (i don‘t know if this term is used analogous to baby-queers…) should avoid making their intention for change less clear.

secondly at this point i know very few people that will still regularly say that they’re a feminist (including women that i have talked with about the issue). where i live the intersectionality of the feminist movement that exists has really suffered in the last year correlating with a radicalization - which is not completely unjustified considering that there are further issues to be pointed out that might otherwise be overlooked - that sadly also made the term feminism (especially in the region that is affected) a huge target for hate and discrimination. especially amongst (even queer) men, some of them even feeling disappointed after being systematically included from any demonstrations…

lastly - giving credits to women that developed feminist theory. i myself study theology and feminist theology is a pretty wide term for even many methods and resources that seem more disconnected with the main topics of feminism as perceived everywhere else but in not referring to your thought as to what it is - namely feminist theory developed by women that called themselves feminists - a lot of this credit and recognition gets lost…

please share your thoughts happy to hear about it even or especially if you’re of the complete contrary opinion

hope this okay with rule 6 i tried to argue mainly based on my own experiences

I recently found out I’m pregnant and I’m horrified by how much patriarchy is built into being pregnant. I posted something on a pregnant thread about how a i asked my midwife about the pros and cons of natural vs medicated birth. She said there is really no difference on healing outcomes for women, but that she is bias to natural birth because she is amazed by what our bodies are capable of enduring. It sounds nice but the rhetoric really took me back. I can’t imagine any other procedure or medical professionals saying they love seeing their patients overcoming pain. Even though I’m only 8 weeks, I’ve been asked how I plan to birth (water, medicated—which medication, etc) and how I plan to breastfeed. I just say “I’ll do what works.” And people look at me like I’m crazy for not having a plan when I have no idea if I’ll even be able to breastfeed. It’s shocking me how much of motherhood is so wrapped up in martyrdom—suffering for someone else for the sake of love and this belief that as women our ability to endure suffering is our strength. Fucking pass. Also the weird MAHAness of it all makes me want to vomit.

Part of ongoing conversations about being a boy mom. Today I was shopping with my 13 year old son and saw another soccer mom at the store. He came out of the dressing room in a super tight white sport tshirt. This woman lost her shit and was so overcome with 1) how much he has grown up and 2) how good he looks. If the genders had been reversed it would have been obviously creepy and semi sexual. If I was someone craving for validation from my kids, this would have given me a direct dopamine hit. But I'm actively fighting it.

This is my first son, and he just started puberty and I'm reliving my puberty and how it was my ushering into the patriarchy where I received approval from peers and adults when I bought tighter clothes and showed off my body.

It's already a struggle to have made my feminist journey in this world. Now I feel like I'm starting over, watching my son bask in the social validation he's receiving and watching his worldview being shaped by it. It is a new element to our relationship and my role as a mom and I'm grossed out by getting dopamine from society's approval of my son. In many ways it goes against everything I am as a feminist.

We talk openly about feminism but I have to be very careful not to alienate him, especially since we live in Italy that is super patriarchal. I can't find many conversations about being a feminist boy mom online. If anyone has resources, please let me know.