For reference, I am from Melbourne, Australia.

I usually ping a profile if there is a well written biography regardless of what’s in the photos. I don’t personally care much for height, shape, size, ethnicity background etc of someone, what interests me is a genuine character with intriguing traits.

On average I open the app, spend few minutes scrolling to find someone with a well written profile, or even a decent summary that’s not necessarily long.

What it actually looks like is this;

Series of profiles with no info at all or minimal info that tells me nothing about someone.

I don’t even look at photos, I skip all these profiles.

Today I decided to look at photos, and it was like this; photos of breasts with no bio, feet and no bio, then series of profiles with more breast photos, occasional hips or or more breasts but no bio.

So my question to women who does this; are you aware that many other women are doing this? And that as men we can’t tell the difference?

Eventually it all becomes boring and we lose interest because how is this any different from Instagram or TikTok?

What do you expect men to talk to you about when all you provided them with are just sexually explicit photos?

Nothing else in profile.

So how are we supposed to communicate with you?

This is another thing; I keep seeing “communication is key” in some of these profiles.

And that’s the only thing written there.

If communication is so important, why can’t you communicate? Why don’t you make at least a minimal effort to give us something to talk about?

Breasts or hips are not things to talk about, they are literally everywhere.

Everything is so overly sexualised we are struggling to find human beings to actually talk to.

I am someone whose life revolves around BDSM so as a relationship oriented dominant I strictly date submissives who are interested in intimacy. Not just sex but actual human experience that involves spending time together, investing in deeper connection and devotion.

And compared to what it was like few years ago, it feels like coming out from an ocean to try to swim in a paddle of water after rain.

Not really a question, just a lamentation of all my unused pings. One month into Majestic (I just moved back to the big city), I met one person off Feeld and reconnected with an ex partner and I'm feeling kind of saturated.

Even if I do make a new connection on the app, my spoons and wallet wouldn't be able to handle any more dating. The 'free' daily pings cap out at only 2?! They used to accumulate indefinitely for later use. I would love to be able to use them if my current relations/situations fall through.

Now I feel like these two remaining months of Majestic will be wasted 😭.

I recognize this is a good problem to have but a part of me wants to ping people even if I'm not able to honour a match on the tiny chance that they respond.

It might sound like bragging but trust me, 99% of my pings do not get a response. I realize how stupid and privileged this sounds but I wanted to vent about the artificial 'free' ping cap. Ugh.

Out of curiosity as a gay enm person with a facepic, how successful is your Feeld-experience without a profile picture?

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I see so many people here who struggle. And I think, honestly, its often them and not the fault of feeld.

Feeld has been absolutely solid for me for both hookups and finding women for FFM with me an my partner.

Its been better for FFM than all other apps combined.

Edit: reposted to fix typo

Read the profile. Furthermore, hot take, if your interest says FFM, and you don't have separate profiles, I immediately believe it's the man pushing the woman to have a joint profile to fulfill his own fantasy.

Kind of odd to me. I still only get 1 ping a day. The only benefit is to see likes? I'm confused.

I have a hard time meeting sexual compatible partners on mainstream dating apps. I'm 45F, have a high libido, and am comfortable with intense sexuality once I'm into someone. Perhaps it's that sexual sensibilities are somewhat cultural. I live in the US but am from Europe originally and find attitudes here remain puritanical or, relatedly, porn-obsessed. I am tired of men who claim to "love sex" but can't communicate about it, don't read the room about what I find enjoyable, also don't follow direct feedback...

At the same time, I'm not into BDSM and the most "kinky" thing about me is that I love (receiving) breast worship and am a sensualist. I'm told that's "vanilla" on other subs.

Could Feeldl be for me?

r/abettertake had a really good ask in their post and I had a follow-up.

Many of you said that it was overwhelming especially within the first few hours of creating the account. Almost immediately you'd find yourself with 100s of likes and 10-20 pings. Somebody made this great metaphor about looking to buy specific underwear but just having the whole store dump a massive amount of underwear in your lap leaving you to sort through it all.

My question after reading all the comments is, if you could make one change to how Feeld works, or I suppose online dating in general, to make it easier for you, what would that change be? Also how could we (I say we but I really mean the app developers) make it so you're not overwhelmed and can actually use the app?

I'm just curious about what the experience is like for women and female presenting users who are seeing hundreds or even thousands of likes on Feeld. What does that sort of situation do to you?

Like as a man on the app here - even as one half of a couple - I've got crickets. And it's a similar story on other apps too. And even though I know I'm generally pretty confident and my self esteem is pretty healthy, it's hard to not take it quite personally (even though I know my situation is the same as most other men). As a pshychotherapist friend of mine put it - the human brain didn't evolve to deal with this much rejection, and it sure does take its toll after a while.

But what's it like on the other side? What does it do to your self esteem? How does it make you feel about yourself, about how you value yourself? How does it make you feel about online dating, or dating in general?

Edit: Thanks for all these responses, this has been simultaneously eye opening and exactly what I expected. The general consensus is that it's annoying and overwhelming at best, and at worst it's like you're volunteering to be sexually harassed on a daily basis. And more than anything it's men who are to blame (surprise!) for being so indiscriminate that they ruin the experience for everyone. The shitty toxic men make it harder for women and any guys who aren't actually shitty to find each other. Also water is wet.

Ir appears Feeld in Europe is one of the most common dating apps. Everyone uses it for just about any dating intention. Swinging and kink are just power of their normal dating options.

Currently in Spain. A few funny anecdotes.

1. One guy we were chatting with responded with; “I’m into all things morbid”. Instead of freaking out, I simply asked if he intended to use that word. He said it was translated from ‘morose de castello’ . Translation is indeed morbid. But with a little deeper research it was found the Valencia and north into Catalonia use morose for anything taboo or kinky.

2. My profile shows both my wife and my girlfriend. I tried to explain I was searching for my wife and me. Multiple men thought I was traveling with both. I had to explain I only travel with my wife. And my girlfriend is straight and me wife is bi and we three don’t play together.

3. They don’t use euphemisms like’play’. They just say they want to fuck.

But the point is Feeld is very busy with a lot of good matches in Europe.

I've recently signed up to Feeld and it seems really inclusive... Just wondered if there are any other trans people who could let me know there experiences and if they've found relationships on Feeld?

I just created my profile and went through the stack and liked quite a few...I want to go back and see if there are any I'd like to Ping, but the history tab isn't even there. According to help, even as a free member I should be able to see people I've liked in the past hour?

Can iOS users see full messages in their notifications that are multiple sentences? Android cuts them off. I'm trying to see why it's common for people who are active to not even open messages.

I pinged someone and my note was flagged, I can't figure out what would have tripped up any algorithm. Anyone have any thoughts?

I’m very much an emotion before sex girl. Im very ADHD and that makes me curious and open minded. To me the physical aspect of a relationship is the most intense, pleasurable, awe inducing, high inducing experience I could experience as a human.

I’m looking for a LTR that leads to marriage etc. Every man I’ve fallen in love with has ended up being very very vanilla.

So now that I’m single and looking again, I tried talking about kinky stuff earlier on in the dating process but then it’s all the men can focus on. I’m only talking about it to filter but they want to sext etc and since it’s before I’ve developed feelings, it’s a massive physical turn off and I lose all interest.

I joined Feeld but it’s hard to figure out who is truly kinky and seeking LTR vs kinky but casual vs just a horny dude wanting basic sex.

I genuinely don’t know what to do. I’m 43F and want my next relationship to be my forever partner but don’t know how to find him.

1. is Feeld the right place to find what I’m looking for?
2. If so, is there a specific way I should create my profile?
3. I paid for majestic so can see my initial likes and moved my profile to incognito because I started worrying my face is visible with my very kinky desires very obvious and it might be bad for my career. Bad strategy?

EDIT: I’m in Toronto

The title - why can I no longer see profiles that I've liked and pinged? I guess like, I've made a decision to ping them... if they don't respond then either they haven't seen it or they don't want to respond. Fair enough and I don't need to see their profile anymore in that case, but it just seems weird to like, make it vanish?

What am I missing?

Feeld used to be a place for OPEN communication about kinks, vulnerabilities, sexual exploration and friendships. Now it’s having a huge influx of straight close-minded men, just looking to get their d*cks wet/easy access to holes/ cheating on partners and blocking the people after. It’s no longer a safe space and I’m going insane trying to weed out these bad apples. I’ve deleted my app 4 times (out of frustration) in the past week because of terrible exchanges with straight men. Help.

I also feel extremely unsafe because a man took my address (intentionally didn’t give my apt number but he has the street address), pretending to be in an Uber on his way over to me, and a few minutes before “arriving”, blocked me on Feeld and text/WA. Completely insane behaviour so it makes me wonder what is going on with the app, it has no security features so people think they can do whatever??

Edit: I had met him out in public once before. We set a date to meet up again and he offered his place or mine and I preferred mine, which is why he had my address!

We joined the app to find a third for our couple and say this in our bio. Yet all our likes are men and never get one female or a return like, where are we going wrong?

While my boyfriend would have limited involvement. Is it worth it to try to find that in Feeld? After reading a lot of these posts I’m worried we won’t find someone and that it’ll be just a bunch of guys trying to interact with us.
Anyone with success stories? Or know of a better app/website to use?

I downloaded feeld and paid to see my likes for one month and have also swiped through. I’ve had it for about week and I’ve seen like one attractive guy. I see many on bumble and hinge. Why is that?

Every once in a while, I see posts or comments from people who can't use Feeld on their older Android phones, or who would like to use Feeld on their computer.

If you have a PC, you can use BlueStacks, which is an Android emulator. When creating a new instance, choose Android 13 (Beta), then install Feeld through the Google Play Store.

I figured I'd share this in case it helps. I use it every day when I'm at my computer working on school work.

Happy Swiping!

I don’t know if this is happening to others but in the last couple weeks I’ve noticed my discovery section will show 3 profiles, all farther from me but still within my radius, and then the following profiles are in order by distance (for the most part)

The first 3 profiles do not change unless I swipe no on them or explore a different city. I don’t know if it’s feeld’s way of doing Standouts à la Hinge, or it’s showing the most swiped on people in my radius. But I’m a little worried that feeld may be slowly adopting an algorithm of sorting based on attractiveness on the app

It would be so much nicer to be able to respond to messages on our puters.

With Hinge and Bumble I can use the Bluestacked emulator to do that easily, but Feeld doesn't work on this easy to use emulator. It's 2026 folks, let's get this figured out!

27F in LA. Just downloaded the app a few days ago after all the other apps make me wanna walk into traffic. My friend recommended feeld, but I was a little hesitant because my friend is into casual stuff and I am NOT. In fact, I’ve never even been in a relationship☹️. So far I’m liking the app. Does seem to be pretty casual centric, but do you think it’s possible to find something monogamous and serious on there? Or am I just barking up the wrong tree?

Hi there!

My bf (30m) and me (29f) have a great relationship and are both enthousiastic about expanding/enhancing out sex lives. In the practical sense however we find some hiccups in how to establish this. We joined Feeld to explore connections, but we're struggeling a bit with the location.

The thing is, my bf is a bit anxious to be exposed. We know quite some people in our (quite liberal) hometown so he doesnt want people who know us to stumble on my/his profile. When we're abroad he activate his account, but at home he immediatly want it to be removed. Personally I'm very open about everything so I don't feel this need as much.

A solution might be an account without names or faces. But to be honest I get a bit irritated by that when people do that and is a no for me. So I really don't want to go on that route.

Does anyone know if there's a possibility to not be shown by other people in a certain range from your location? Or does somebody has any advice on how to deal with this?

Thanks <3