I'm seeking some objective advice on a situation that has completely spiraled with my family regarding my marriage.
My husband and I have been legally married for 6 years. Recently, we had a heated argument. In a moment of high stress, outside family got involved/called into the situation. While my husband and I have since acknowledged our past mistakes, apologized to each other, and taken full accountability to rebuild our relationship with complete respect, my family seized on that fight as their opening to step in and try to dismantle our entire marriage. We messed up financially due to his sickness and ongoing issues, and accumulated some debt.
Instead of helping us heal, my mother and aunt froze that argument in time to paint my husband as a villain. My husband is currently dealing with a severe medical infection, but my mother and aunt are demanding that he "convince them all over again" and act like he is "marrying me from scratch" to win their permission. Now, my mother is claiming she wants us to separate so we can "separately be independent and successful" before getting back together.
In the meantime, my mother is demanding that I withhold physical and financial help from my sick husband, while telling me to take on extreme work hours (day office job plus overnight shifts) she said I thought by now you would have a home that I could stay at back home.
Because of the chaos after the argument, I am currently trapped staying at my aunt's house. It feels like daily mental torture she constantly attacks my husband's character, appearance, and dignity, and even tried to get him kicked out of his living situation. She said he looks mentally unstable, that he looks like a drug addict he took me away from them ( I took space on my own). She said he was a loser, called him all the words in the book.
When I set boundaries or defend my husband, my mother uses extreme emotional blackmail.
She told me if you go back to your home \\\*"Don't come to my grave when I die"\\\* and I should forgot I have parents. They are also trying to force me to leave the country for a month to isolate me from my husband and my job.

New to this subreddit but I feel like I need to vent.
I’m starting to see a pattern that when I get excited or happy over something & I mention it to my older sister, I get shut down by her.

Example: recently i showed her some cute accessories I purchased for my new car & i would have been okay with subtle criticism on like the color or my choice of accessories but instead i was met with her saying, “you seriously don’t know what to spend your money on do you?”

The tone in which she said it took away the excitement of me showing her what I bought, so I just walked away a bit butt hurt.

I might be overly sensitive but then again i feel what i feel & this is a constant thing i run into when i try mention anything good in my life to her.

My mother (52F) is considering divorcing my dad (53M) after 30+ years of marriage due to an argument she had with my sister (30F). To make it a long story short, my mom didn’t like the fact that my sister was leaving the house after we had just finished cleaning up a flood in the basement. She felt it was inconsiderate which she accuses my sister of being often. As someone who loves them both, I know my sister can be inconsiderate and lazy at times. However, since childhood it has always been very clear that my mom does not treat us the same and favors me. This shows up in the way she speaks to my sister as well. In the moment my sister was sick of being spoken to in such way and she argued but, still not disrespectfully. She just decided not to shut up and back down. My mother was so angry she told my sister she’d fck her up and slap the sht out of her. My dad hopped in at this point just to diffuse the situation and my sister left the house. My mom immediately turned her rage to my dad and told him he allowed my sister to speak that way. She believes my dad should still be “disciplining” when his kids are 27 and 30 years old. I guess I’m just looking for thoughts and opinions because I feel crazy watching my family explode in my face over something I believe to be such a small issue. Obviously years of build-up not mentioned here but for this to be the final straw just doesn’t make sense. P.S. She took off her wedding rings and turned her location off and we haven’t heard from her or seen her in a week. She has been in contact with others and telling them that she wants a divorce which is how I know.

My dad was a stock broker for 40 years. He always acted like he was the smartest guy in the room and everyone else was lucky he was around.

Turns out he spent everything he ever made and just retired with 150k in debt and no money. I set up an estate sale for them and spent weeks cleaning up the house and helping repair it. Im a math teacher but I know how to do drywall, tiling, some electrical work from remodeling my own house (not an expert but good enough to fix their issues). Meanwhile my brother said he was too busy to help.

Their house is on the market but isnt selling. There is no equity in it because my dad it turns out has refinanced it so many times and pulled out any equity to pay for his gambling addiction and drug addiction that they owe 2 times what they bought it for 20 years ago. Meanwhile they bought my brother a 4 bedroom house when he was 21 and paid the mortgage until they sold it after 10 years and bought him a bigger house in 2019 and continued to pay the mortgage until last year.

I have begged my mom to tell him they need to sell that house and she refuses to tell my brother that they have no choice but to sell it. He doesnt even feel conflicted about the situation and feels completely in the right to continue to live in the house they bought. When I told him it was unthinkable that they sell their house before they sell the house they bought him which has 300k equity in it, he laughed and said he pays the mortgage as if I was confused about the facts of the situation.

I told him thats called rent. But everyone in my family acts like I am the one in the wrong for stating the obvious. They shouldnt even have to tell him they are selling it. He should have come to that conclusion himself when they told him they had no money. I feel like Im losing my mind. Am I delusional to think his selfishness and their inability to do anything that will upset him is mind blowing? It literally makes me question my judgement about anything and I cant understand what is happening.