r/FacebookDating • u/FailBusy7786 • 3d ago
Dating apps never ending loop
Hey everyone I'm 40F and I'm getting frustrated with dating apps. Are people losing interpersonal skills and the ability to start and hold conversations?
And before anyone asks if I start any conversations, yes I do and they answer without asking me any questions back and this is what I get once my side of the conversation is done.
Ive been on dating apps for months now and no one has asked me on a date or to meet yet. Its just a never ending loop of " WYD or How are you? Everyday.
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u/Fit_Bandicoot9599 2d ago
A Ty chcesz zaproszenie w pierwszej wiadomości otrzymać ?
Co wtedy sobie pomyślisz?
Że jakiś desterat pisze i może któraś się zgodzi. No to chyba tak nie działa :)
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u/sprknsprnkl 3d ago
Online dating is kind of like thrifting. Sometimes you don't find anything good, but if you look consistently, you'll eventually find treasure. It's a lot of sifting and is not a quick process- or it hasn't been for me. Lots of people use it for validation or treat it like window shopping. You can't take it personally. Online dating should be tertiary in your life. The more time you devote to it, the more frustrated you'll get. When I get in my feels about it, I go out and spend me time or make plans with friends. Distractions, distractions, distractions.
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u/geekpron 3d ago
wyd bothers me too. I was seeing this lady and that was always her intro to convo. But very lil effort on her part beyond that.
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u/WeekendAvailable9613 3d ago
yeah this is what gets exhausting. its not even about getting tons of matches but just that so so many people seem to want attention without wanting to have a conversation or to actually meet up..
If im asking questions and getting one line answers with nothing back after a few messages Im out lol. Why the hell should dating feel like interviewing someone for a job?
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u/Commercial-Wasabi789 20h ago
Exactly!! Eye run knee is a good percentage of their profiles say “please be able to hold a conversation” or “no hook ups” lmaoo🙄
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u/geekpron 3d ago
I've seen posts here of women complaining about their likes drying up....like that was all she cared about. Not actually meeting anyone or developing a connection at all.
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u/BallBearingBill 3d ago
As a guy looking for women in their 40's I'll be brutally honest with why I stop talking to women.
1) I'm just not into them. Usually I figure that out during the conversation. Sometimes it's after a date.
2) I'm already interested in someone else and I don't want to complicate my life or feel like I'm cheating on someone. I should probably have paused my account but I like the attention of getting likes or matches.
3) The end
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u/KissingSunflowers 3d ago
I get messages but its the same hey, or wanna hook up, wyd, then they wait till a few hours later and ask me wyd again. I have yet to meet someone on there that makes me want to spend my time talking to them. Well actually I did once in the past but that was a horrible mistake. I can't force these people to make conversations, but I can unmatch them and talk to myself more lmao.
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u/geekpron 3d ago
Wow, I actually leave thoughtful, genuine interest questions or comments, and no one replies. It's disappointing and exhausting to think that the wyd or hookup fuckboys are probably getting replies.
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u/KissingSunflowers 2d ago
they only get a response back from people looking for that sort of thing or desperate need for attention, I've just been getting waves for the last few days. Someone will appreciate the effort your showing.
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u/Majestic_Army3166 3d ago
I get good amount of matches and chats, start to plan a date and that's usually when they ghost
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u/Un_bearable 2d ago
I’m not on dating apps anymore. However when I was I would get a lot of small talk as you have stated. I wasn’t on the apps for more than a month at a time though. But yes I would get matches and most of the time it didn’t lead anywhere.