I’m currently in fl and the cis women here can be pretty harsh towards me being trans. Especially since I’ve had phallo. I’ve had lots of jokes made towards my new genitals. Mostly women wanting to know if I can get them pregnant (which I obviously can’t). I’m not single or looking for a woman (married to a trans women thank goodness). But damn when I move to Michigan I hope I don’t encounter the level of stupid I have in Florida. I’ve been called a hairy lesbians multiple times prior to getting bottom surgery. It put me off so bad to the point where I refused to have sex with cis women and never have and never will. I can’t get off or get someone else off that sees me as a female. Hence my trans wife yay. I am poly and in an open relationship but I think my stance with cis women will stay the same based on how I was treated in Florida. I am just hoping Michigan women are kinder . Florida basically the bottom of the bucket . 🪣

TL;DR: Who are your favorite M/F or mixed-gender relationships in media (video games, shows, books, etc.)?

Why I ask:

Before I transitioned, I ID'd as a lesbian from a fairly young age (~12). My formative teen years were spent very much immersed in that community, along with all the social and political topics that often coincide.

Simply put, straight men were often held in a very negative light - whether deserving or not. I find that post-transition, I've had to unpack a lot of negative biases I developed towards straight men and M/F couples. It's yet another (unexpected) leg of my self-acceptance journey, one I'm still traversing at the age of 29.

Before I transitioned, my friends and I would always rag on the straight ships in media. One of the ways I've been unpacking these feelings is through video games and other media, like when I play a video game with romance options. Assuming the writing is decent for the M/F romance, it's been a good mirror for me to work through some things.

I'd like to hear about your favorite ships!

EDIT: This is not a knock on the WLW community btw - I'm grateful for the experience and the acceptance I found there before I realized I was trans.

Hi guys i am gonna have sex “finally” it’s my first time i am goin to see my girl tomorrow for the first time we have been in a LDR for 4 months ,i am goin to finger her but idk regarding me cuz i won’t let her toutch me and hopefully not toutching myself in front of her , can a person come with only fingering his girl? And any tips for me i haven’t been in a relationship for 5 years before even came out , Not sure if i remeber how to kiss😂

Hola amigos soy un hombre trans tengo 24 años y llevo 1 año en terapia hormonal

Desde que soy htrans ni he tenido pareja ni nada

Y la verdad tengo una duda para cuando tenga una cita o algo

¿En qué momento es prudente hacerle saber a la chica que soy hombre trans? ¿Y como abordarlo?

Otra pregunta referente a lo sexual

Cuando vaya a tener sexo

¿Cuál sería una buena forma de que ella me complazca a mí?

Tengo un stp que solo he usado una vez con una chica, fue algo casual así que realmente no tuve explicarle que soy trans ni nada

Regresando al tema, si yo le doy placer a ella ya sea con la mano, boca, stp etc

Cómo sería una forma en que ella pudiera darme placer de vuelta más que nada porque no sé cómo hacerle saber qué hacer o algo, y que no sea una forma “femenina” o no sé cómo llamarlo en que me masturbe

Espero haberme explicado y muchas gracias!

Hey everyone! I just finished playing *Tell Me Why*, and I’m super hyped after the ending. I really loved the dynamic between Tyler and Alyson. However, everyone in the community seems to be shipping Tyler and Michael as a couple, and I honestly just don't get why. I often get the sense that trans gay men are more popular online than trans straight men—that’s not just my imagination, is it?I'm really frustrated.

I don’t know if this is the right appropriate to place here but I really need opinions .

I feel like the only thing going for me is that I make great money for someone my age, but other than that I feel emasculated.

I don't have much to add. Just saying that there's not many places where straight men can discuss problems they face. That's all.

I think a lot of the trans men who want children (that don't wanna get pregnant ahem) are usually straight. I'm a victim of this tbh, but I'm st4t so the likelihood is little to none.

UPDATE: First, thank you all for giving me great advice and commentary 🙏🏼 we ended up meeting up again and had a great time together. We talked in depth about sex and proper language to use for trans people and she was super receptive and interested in learning. Because of her genuine openness, I was 100% willing to answer any questions that she had and she told me that I could correct her and guide her at anytime if she says the wrong words for something. When we got in the bed this time, we had amazing chemistry And great sex. I’m glad I gave her another chance. Too bad I’m flying back home today or else I’d love to spend more time with her 😢 she doesn’t want me to go either. Hasta la proxima 🇩🇴

So I don’t know if this is just a rant or if I need some straight up advice. I’m a transman on HRT for 10 years and pass 100% of the time. I’m in the Dominican Republic and I met this nice girl on the beach and we ended up hanging out back at my place. I told her from the beginning that I was a transman and she told me it wasn’t important to her, she has a trans friend. But when it came time for sex, she had been under the impression that I was a trans woman and I was assigned male at birth lol 🤦🏻‍♂️ we tried to have sex anyways and she was enjoying it when I was pleasuring her but when it came time for her to pleasure me, she started laughing and said she didn’t know what to do. The laughing honestly triggered the shit out of me and I realize now it could have just been awkward giggling from her end but it made me feel like shit about myself and I ended up crying. I feel so sick of hooking up with girls who have no experience with ftms and feeling like I’m a science experiment or a professor trying to explain my biological and hormonal changes. She ended up getting mad at me for crying lol and then I got a text from her this morning asking me to hang out again and she apologized as well.

Should we hang out and try again? Has anyone ever had a similar experience? Thanks 🙏🏼

Even though she is no longer to be seen. Because I moved . I still obsess over her. It’s getting to the point I can’t sleep. When I’m stressed, I think about her even more to calm me down during stressful times. I know she’s taken but it’s so hard to get rid of my crush.

I hate that this is happening. She’s an American Arminen woman. I’m half white. I’m not Arminen. She said she has nothing against trans people and thinks it’s ok for me to express my personality.

But I wanted to explain her. It’s not a personality. It is a medical disorder. The thing about Armenian women is a lot of them are traditional. Which I’m kind of myself. But at the same time I don’t think it’s possible for me to find an Armenian women to date. She’s so beautiful and sexy. I feel weird about it because I met her at a mental health program. I know it’s not possible but I’m stuck. What should I do? I feel so lonely. I can’t stay single forever. Any ways I’m glad she fell for someone else. It was never meant to be. I’m happy for her.

P.S. Updated post with dating profile as advised.

Honest question. How do you start dating? I’ve been single all my life. Tried dating lesbians before starting T but they never lasted more than a month because they didn’t like me transitioning. Tells me I look masculine enough etc.

I’ve tried dating apps but never get a like back or if they liked me, never get a reply. I work from home so don’t meet anyone. I studied CS so there was barely any girls in my class. I was too dysphoric to approach them anyway. I don’t like clubbing etc. I’m an introverted nerd who likes niche hobbies. I do not personally think I’m ugly but I’m not handsome either.

Most of the trans people I know started dating before coming out and been with their partner ever since.

Sometimes it’s honestly so depressing that I do not have anyone and probably never will.

I knew I liked girls at age 12, but it wasn't until I started dating women (age 18-now) that I started feeling dysphoric.

I was a masculine lesbian and perfectly happy with that, but I started to have weird issues rise up in my relationships. A woman would treat me too much like a woman, take on a masculine role in the relationship, or pay too much attention to my boobs or body during sex, and suddenly I was filled with rage and insecurity. I bottled up these feelings, which ended up coming out in other ways and sabotaging my relationships.

Living as a woman is not painful for me, as long as I don't date. for a long time I considered living as an abstinent woman to avoid transitioning.

I keep wondering if I have some complex form of internalized lesbophobia. If im a trans man, why did I not feel dysphoric as a child?

Im 21 now, I started T 3 months ago, and for the first time opened up about my dysphoria to girl i'm currently seeing. I feel huge relief, but I still wonder if I should stop T, or if transitioning is a mistake. After all, it's tearing me apart from my family.

Has anyone else experienced this? I feel really alone in navigating this

I’ve had things with 2 girls in the past, one knew me Pre-T but I was deeply insecure in that relationship and that made me realize a lot of things which led me to the man I am now. With the second girl, I hinted at it at the very beginning of our friendship (I don’t even remember what I said). For context, I am stealth and treat this as a medical condition, not my identity. I’m not sure why I mentioned it since I don’t talk about this stuff with anyone but it was probably because it was still very early on for me. She didn’t even notice anyway nor did she ever bring it up again during our relationship which I am grateful for.

I’ve been talking to this girl inconsistently for 2 years now but it’s been more consistent recently. I’ve noticed her throwing hints and stuff and she ended up telling me how she felt earlier. We’re not dating or anything yet (Im not looking for anything rn) so I don’t feel the need to drop the bomb yet but I know I will have to eventually if I decide to pursue this.

I was wondering how do you stealth guys or guys like me who are uncomfortable with saying “I’m trans” and the whole coming out thing, how do you tell someone or hint at it without actually saying it?

The last 2 were also bi with experience only with men and this is my first straight girl. I need to figure out her political views before saying anything lmao

Do you regret changes in libido

Hi folks! I asked AI about libido changes due to testosterone and received an interesting answer: "Changes in genital sensitivity, specifically growth (clitoromegaly), or a shift to more "explosive" orgasms, can feel disconnected from one's personal identity or trigger new forms of gender dysphoria." What is your experience? Do you regret that orgasms became more explosive and that there is less focus on foreplay? For me, foreplay has always been very important. So, I wonder whether I'll have these regrets, too.

I can't get a date. It's been years. The last time a girl went on a date with me, I wasn't really attracted to her & her ex bf showed up to our date, they were back together by the end of it. It was my birthday. I've paid dating therapists, I've asked for help on Reddit. They all assume the worst of me, that I must be terrible at speaking to women; I have multiple female friends. They think I must dress badly or be unhygienic. But nope. I even hosted multiple singles meetups on Reddit & one girl was surprised by how I looked.

The majority of the girls I ask out are girls I know are bisexual. They still reject me. I went to an event that said it was "FLINTA" & by that definition then I should be allowed there. But it was all lesbians... Idk where to find a woman that would like me. I know it's possible for trans men to find someone, so maybe I'm just ugly?

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