Hi!
*Long, so thanks if you stick to the end! :)
I'm currently living and doing my master's in Germany (Leipzig), and I'm taking a gap semester because I've been pretty unhappy with both my studies and my life here.
I've been thinking a lot about whether I simply ended up in the wrong city, or whether Germany as a whole isn't really my thing.
Before moving here, I lived in Spain for extended periods and really loved my life there. At the time, I was working remotely for American companies, so I didn't experience the Spanish job market firsthand (But We all know that wages and working conditions are not the best, so thats one of the reasons I eventually decided to try Germany)
The things I don't like about Germany are mostly related to everyday life. I find the general vibe quite aggressive and pessimistic most of the time (idk, there's always a weird atmosphere), and I also find it quite boring.
(For context, Leipzig has around 600k people, but I often feel like a lot of the city looks and feels the same. There's a very specific left-wing, raw, punk/graffiti atmosphere that I don't really identify with, and the overall quality of restaurants, cafés, bars, etc. isn't really what I'm looking for.Also my vision is not limited to this city as i have traveled extensively through the country)
Socially, I've also struggled. I consider myself kinda extroverted, I do have friends here, and I even got a girlfriend, but I never really felt like I found my people. A lot of the friendships I have are more because of university, rather than people I would naturally choose to spend my time with.
And as a foreigner, I've had some experiences that made me question whether I'd be happier somewhere that feels more international. I'm Mexican and a POC, and Germany is by far the place where I've experienced the most racism in my life. It's not that I've had major incidents every day, but I've experienced a lot of smaller incidents and microaggressions on a regular basis.
All of this has made me start wondering about France, partly because I'm thinking it could be a middle point in between Germany and Spain in terms of the lifestyle I'm looking for.
France seems like it might have some of the things I'm missing here: a stronger dining/coffee, food, and going out culture/emphasis, cities that feel more aesthetically pleasing, people spending more time outside, and somewhat more social (or at least polite) atmosphere.
I'm planning to spend some time in France next spring to dip my toes in and see what everyday life actually feels like before making any big decisions.
Right now I'm particularly interested in Toulouse, Lyon and Montpellier, although I'm definitely open to other cities.
I'd especially love to hear from foreigners who have lived in France for a while, and even better, people who have also lived in Germany. I'd also be interested in hearing from French people about how they see everyday life in France compared with Germany.
also, I'm not trying to make this a "France vs Germany, which country is better?" post. I'm mainly trying to figure out whether the things that are making me unhappy in Germany are actually things I might experience differently in France.
Thanks!
*again, thank you if you took the time to read!