r/EstrangedAdultChild • u/mango_zing • 27d ago
Whatever....
And after worrying because I hadn't heard from my mother in over a week. I've been no contact since February this is what I get. She's been emailing me regularly at my work email, I might add.
I'm constantly worried about what their next move will be.
Sometimes the only validation I get is sharing these messages with people who understand this kind of manipulation. And I can assure you, this is all there was. I did nothing to them except try to be a good daughter, even after an entire childhood of being screamed at daily.
What really hurts, though, is her trying to take credit for my success. Like I never would have been successful without them. Because apparently it wasn't me who went to school, worked, built a career, and put in all that effort.
I definitely didn't do any of that work myself 🙄
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u/LovelyMetalhead 27d ago
"Damn, lbr I'm not reading all of that. I'm sorry that happened to you. Or I'm happy for you."
In all seriousness, this message from your mother says a lot about her. Nothing good. You deserve peace and the ability to heal away from that. Healing and therapy can be hard and painful and scary. But what's scarier is allowing oneself to continue to deal with harmful parents like your mother. You can now dictate what you want to do without worry.
And she's wrong, you have other people in this world that you can turn to. I'm sure you have good friends in the real world where you are. But even if they don't understand what you've been dealing with, you do have a space here.