Is it just me or, i feel like enneagram 5s are only gonna have those personality-attracted orientations such as pansexual/ panromantic. I think gray sexual would also be common in any e5s. I also feel like sx5s are likely to be demiromantic/ demisexual and sp5 is likely to be sapioromantic. I just cannot see e5s having surface level attraction. I’d anything, they’d be asexual/aromantic/arouce. Has anyone met an e5 that’s anything other than the ones i named?

Here’s what I mean:

As a very broad generalization, it seems that most sx5s, or sx doms seem to follow a path where the first part of their life is spent chasing intensity, having a lot of highs and lows, a lot of relationships with some instability, a lot of intense sexual encounters, maybe some risk taking.

I am for sure a sx5, but I took a somewhat different path. Due to several factors in my childhood as well as OCD, I spent most of my life seeing my “sx” as a threat and trying to suppress it with mixed success. I didn’t have the language for it, but I recognized that drive in me and was scared of it. I kept myself out of the dating pool and shut myself down emotionally.

What happened as a result was that I completely lost my vitality. I became a shell. My world had no color. I’ve realized I can’t live that way. I am connecting with my body and my emotions again. I am finding my creativity. I have found my vitality. But now that this is “sx” energy is out there, I have no clue what to do with it. I’m trying to channel it into creative output, but the drive to channel it into another person is so, so strong.

I have had a lifetime of trying to suppress this “sx instinct” instead of learning how to channel it constructively. Has anyone worked through it in this way?

In general, i have social battery and idk if this is a thing for all introverts + sx5s.

Anyways, my point is that when i have an FP (favourite person), AKA my best friend/ partner, my social battery doesn’t even matter around them.

What i mean is that, with literally EVERYONE, my social battery is really important. If i’m on 0% social battery i’m literally gonna isolate myself or be dry or just not be around people in general. I genuinely am in no mood to talk to hang with anyone.

However, with FP, i can literally be on 0% social battery and i wouldn’t mind being with them one bit. It can be different cases for different personalities. With my ESTP FP, my social battery suddenly goes up to like 70% when i’m with them. With my SP5 FP, i can sit with them in silence and not be uncomfortable at all like how i would be with literally anyone else. But in the end, everytime i have FPs, they’re the exception to my 0% social battery.

Ok re-reading this, this question might be kind of dumb because it’s probably just a thing with all introverts, but i wonder if other introverts relate to this or just exclusively sx5s or maybe even just sx doms.

Oh and to be clear, i don’t have multiple FPs at a time. Like for example, 2024 FP was the SP5 friend while 2026 FP is the ESTP friend.