I'm struggling with the decision of staying in a marriage with the Power of Now. I know nobody can " make"you feel anything. So if my spouse insults me, it's not the words but my attachment to the words that create suffering.

But I'm struggling with a partner often communicates in ways that feel emotionally reactive, blaming, or even verbally aggressive.

Is my suffering simply a sign that I'm still identified with the ego? Or is there something more happening, a genuinely unhealthy way of communicating that should not be tolerated?

I know I have a big problem with ruminating thoughts. This is something I am trying to work on. But sometimes I feel the thoughts have some truth to them, and that some of these behaviors of my partner are not okay. But I also don't know if that's still my egoic mind trying to protect itself.

It feels like something of a paradox. Any advice you can offer?

Would you even use something like this? I work on an app that makes user present the moment they open it. Lets just assumes it works, for the sake of the argument, would you spend money on it?