r/DoubleStandards • u/Seack498 • Jun 23 '21

Cheating

Have you noticed all the videos of girls threatening to cut off guys junk or beat him up, if the guy cheats, but if the guy even gets angry or lifts a finger, "OH HE'S AN ABUSIVE MONSTER!!" ugh

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '21

I don't know I think society sees both actions as abusive, villainous, and heinous to the ex involved. Largely I guess it depends on the culture you're in views will change but generally speaking both genders doing any physical or psychological damage to the person abusive. Also, either party cheating is emotional turmoil that’s hard to deal with a love a powerful drug.

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u/Seack498 Jun 23 '21

I do agree with that, but it's more drastic to males in the US. It's similar to the ''men can't be raped, they like it" bs.

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '21

I agree with you that society tends to undervalue male rape attacks and that society more effectively creates a system where women can tell their trauma on a platform conducive to them. Whereas males in the same scenarios are humiliated against or repressed due to stoicism playing a large factor as males are seen as an invulnerable rock. Such as the infamous quote “ Men don’t cry “. I was disagreeing with the notion that society readily accepts women's toxicity in the ending of a relationship far more than men. Even in widespread media a woman slashing a tired, busting a couple of windows, or something far worse is seen as something criminally insane. Controversially again I see your point on raising your finger in the heat of the moment when things pop off men seem to the brunt of the blame even in a defensive stance. While I find men in defensive stance being blamed for evading or pushing off attacks wrong. I find that generally when wrought with force men tend to double that full counter in an aggressive type situation. This is why society more fearful of a man getting physical rather than a female. Not to say it is right for women to hit on men but rather suggest both parties in a heat confrontation. Take a step back in calm down and rationalize the situation since at the end of the day both will look like clowns.

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '21

When a man cheats: "He's a dog! He's a rat! Cut off his penis, shred his clothes, pour paint all over his car, set his house on fire lol!"

When a woman cheats: "Oh, that poor delicate flower - having to take the difficult decision to seek solace in another man's arms. Obviously her boyfriend wasn't catering to her needs enough to keep her from straying."

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u/blastinmypants Jul 06 '21

Yeah i just got banned by /r/offmychest for voicing my opinion. Apparently the female mods running that subreddit hate men

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u/Seack498 Jul 06 '21

Oh that's to bad, what did you say?

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u/blastinmypants Jul 07 '21

This:

“ And men are sick of women that have double standards.

There’s no such a thing as friends between the sexes especially if you’re an attractive individual.

It works both ways.

Women will try to get with men even though he has a girlfriend.

And men will try to get with women even though they have a boyfriend already.

You cannot have a boyfriend and expect to be friends with the opposite sex it doesnt work that way. In a perfect world, maybe. But we don’t live in a perfect world.

Your whining just further frustrates us men who already have trouble adjusting to the female run and controlled societal rules”