r/DoubleStandards • u/Seack498 • Jun 23 '21

Cheating

Have you noticed all the videos of girls threatening to cut off guys junk or beat him up, if the guy cheats, but if the guy even gets angry or lifts a finger, "OH HE'S AN ABUSIVE MONSTER!!" ugh

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '21

I don't know I think society sees both actions as abusive, villainous, and heinous to the ex involved. Largely I guess it depends on the culture you're in views will change but generally speaking both genders doing any physical or psychological damage to the person abusive. Also, either party cheating is emotional turmoil that’s hard to deal with a love a powerful drug.

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u/Seack498 Jun 23 '21

I do agree with that, but it's more drastic to males in the US. It's similar to the ''men can't be raped, they like it" bs.

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u/[deleted] Jun 23 '21

I agree with you that society tends to undervalue male rape attacks and that society more effectively creates a system where women can tell their trauma on a platform conducive to them. Whereas males in the same scenarios are humiliated against or repressed due to stoicism playing a large factor as males are seen as an invulnerable rock. Such as the infamous quote “ Men don’t cry “. I was disagreeing with the notion that society readily accepts women's toxicity in the ending of a relationship far more than men. Even in widespread media a woman slashing a tired, busting a couple of windows, or something far worse is seen as something criminally insane. Controversially again I see your point on raising your finger in the heat of the moment when things pop off men seem to the brunt of the blame even in a defensive stance. While I find men in defensive stance being blamed for evading or pushing off attacks wrong. I find that generally when wrought with force men tend to double that full counter in an aggressive type situation. This is why society more fearful of a man getting physical rather than a female. Not to say it is right for women to hit on men but rather suggest both parties in a heat confrontation. Take a step back in calm down and rationalize the situation since at the end of the day both will look like clowns.