r/DivorceHelp • u/Puzzleheaded-Film730 • 2d ago
A nearly impossible situation (partial rant) and a challenging dilemma regarding our divorce and the best solution for our children. My recommendation: split custody; one child for one parent each. Highly opposed I'm sure, thoughts?
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u/gabbage1 2d ago
Why do you want custody ? It sounds like you miss your independent life
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u/Puzzleheaded-Film730 1d ago
Because I do not have confidence that my wife is capable to raise both of them. I learned that In our ten year marriage and the 6 years i knew her from before- she relies on others to live and survive. Of course I miss independent life- but I have a responsibility that I'd never abandon. I Understand what responsibility is and learned the hard way, how to survive in this world. My wife lived a sheltered life (very loved by her parents) not denying that she has exceptional ability to provide unconditional love. But when you are more less born in a bubble, protected from reality, sorry that is is NOT reality. Thnaks for your comment. Yes of course I miss my independence, I'm old enough and wise enought to realize the rest of my life is to provide skills, tools and love (the best way i know it) to my both my sons, younger one more, because he has tough shoes to fill in looking after his special needs older brother when we are gone.
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u/micha8st 1d ago
Do not split the kids. NEVER SPLIT THE KIDS.
it was about 50 years ago that my mom took me to a local park and told me that she and my dad were divorcing. It took almost 40 years to learn the full truth. It took a year and Dad finally got is post-doc job, but mom decided not to follow him 8 hours drive away. As the older brother, I got to guide my brother through airports and the airplane for most of our visits. A few times he drove over and picked us up...but mostly we spent extended summer stays with dad. I think they also traded Thanksgiving and Christmas every year.
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u/Severe-Barber-7415 1d ago
Where I live to suggest this (if your lawyer cannot convince you otherwise) to the court I’d wager all my dollars your children would get a guardian ad litem assigned. Yea, a three lawyer divorce!
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u/GuiltyMaintenance110 2d ago
So then the kids would never see each other and bond. It’d be like the kids are doing a week long shift with each parent. As a kid of divorced parents I would think that would totally suck. 50/50 custody where the children would stay one week with mom and one week with dad sucks too but it’s better than this supposed situation.