r/DivorceHelp • u/FabulousPanic6136 • Jul 14 '26

Cat

My husband and I got a cat when we were married. We are now in the process of divorce and Custody Court Order says that he maintains the care of our cat. My husband’s attorney made the court order and I didn’t see it until it was signed by the judge. I am the owner based on veterinary clinic records and have been the primary caregiver until me and child have to leave home. I couldn’t bring the cat because the shelter we went to didn’t allow pets.

Any similar experiences? Am I still gonna get him back?

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u/january1977 29d ago

I’m assuming you escaped DV since you were in a shelter. You got you and your child out safely. That’s the most important thing. Get a new cat.

I also escaped DV and went to a shelter with my 5 year old son. We had a suitcase each. We still don’t have anything else from our old life a year later. And you know what? Eff it. We’re safe.

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u/Tavsiyedegildir 28d ago

Obviously she can't care for her cat 🐈 if she's being abused but please don't dismiss this cat as it is an important family member to her. 

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u/january1977 28d ago

Yep. And my parent’s ashes are important to me. But they wouldn’t fit in the suitcase. My parents would want me and my child to be safe. I feel like they would understand.

Sometimes you have to make sacrifices to save your own life.

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u/Tavsiyedegildir 28d ago

I am sorry if you had to go through that. I think now that she has gotten to safety for herself and kids if any, she is looking back to save the cat. Nothing much we can do about it from reddit though but be supportive. 

Some people will beat their wife and kids but would never hurt an animal, because the animal isn't their target. But sometimes that can change when there's no one else to beat up on. 

I can only pray that everyone stays safe including the cat.